I was in a relationship for the last 2 and a half years, we broke up recently and she has already moved on with a different guy. I cant help but continue to think about her, I feel right now as that I dont want to fall in love again as long as its not with her. The reason for our breakup was I was under the suspision that she was cheating, I didnt have 100% evidence but there where signs. I recently went home for the weekend and saw her and her new boyfriend and it was unbearable, I was just looking for some advice on what I should do, I still love her but I can't hold on like this much longer...
2006-07-04 15:38:38 · 27 answers · asked by biscuitboy05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Start off with casual dating, and avoid your ex at all costs. Obviously she was stepping out on you if she already has a new man. Think about what you did wrong, have fun, and when you are ready for a relationship again make an effort not to make the same mistakes.
Good Luck in the dating pool.
2006-07-04 15:43:38 · answer #1 · answered by Juice Box 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Your suspisions were a self fulfilling prophesy and now you have to live with it. Lesson learned I hope, but your question is how to move on. You probably havent mourned enough yet, that is part of the process. Staying away from home for a while maybe the best thing.
I'm going to assume that you are away at school. Throw yourself into your studies, do some volunteer work or anything to keep you busy and possibly meet some different people. The upside to all of this is if she was
cheating, you just dodged a real nasty bullet.
Good luck
2006-07-04 15:51:01 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry ur having a hrad time, but the best way to get through and pass this is to move on too, dont stay idle too long sweetie, U have to surround urself with things thatds fun and u may have to get rod of things that remind u of her, like hanging out with friends going to clubs where there are other girls who Im sure will take ur mind off ur ex.
U need to stop thinking about her because ur only gonna make urself sick. she's moved on and I bet she's not worrying about u too much , so u have to do the same.. It's a big world and I bet u can find many other girls.
So after u read this u should go out on weekNs and on ladies night at clubs and meet someone.
Theres a girl or girls out there waiting to meet u, SO GO GET HER. =-)
2006-07-04 15:46:14 · answer #3 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're heartbroken now, but just give it time. You will get over her. You'll soon realize that she really wasn't worth it in the long run. It seems like she was cheating on you, if she already has a new man. You wouldn't want to be with a woman like that anyway. You would never trust her, and the relationship would be doomed. Someday the right one will come along and you'll be happy! You WILL fall in love again...whether you believe that now or not. Count your blessings...and move on!!!!
2006-07-04 15:47:23 · answer #4 · answered by trueblond195 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy, keep your mind on things that u have to do like work, school, etc.. Think about the things that you have to do day by day. After a while you'll eventually think less about it and be more focused on what really matters. Hang out with friends, they're most likely to help you get over it. Pray that God will help heal ur broken heart. Frankly, she doesn't deserve ur love and u should save that love for someone who will be faithful to you. I hope that you find that special love that's truly meant to be. You'll fall in love again when u least expect it.
2006-07-04 16:41:06 · answer #5 · answered by blue_butterflies_flying_freely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One way and one way only..date other girls. You'll be vulnerable...so you can either wait until you are stronger and ready to take a chance or dive in like schwin. I got divorced two years ago and I'm finally back in the game and I love it but I really wish I hadn't waited so long. Good luck!
2006-07-04 15:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by X 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are always beautiful times in marriage but to get over her think again of why you divorced. Think of how it would be like to live withher again and go through hell agian even though you seem to still love her.
It is quite obvious you still kind of love her but if you can't live together, its not true love. And even if it is/was true love, people who are in love shouldn't live this way.
2006-07-04 15:43:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry that u have to go trough this . but please open your eyes, wake up , face it . if she is that soon with somebody do u think she had feelings as deep as yours. if she had its probably history . its gonna be hard , but get yourself together and get busy , go to the gym , hang with old friends , just do something to get your mind busy . if there is no trust in relationship , there is no relationship . and she is not the last woman left in this world . look , im getting divorced now , but show must go on , ok. head up , and good luck . you deserve something much better
2006-07-04 15:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by catwoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's ok to miss her. 2 1/2 years is a long time. u need to take as much time as it takes to get over her, and then u should move on and date her best friend, just playing, but do move on when it's time boo.
2006-07-04 15:42:59 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a sucky situatution, but I think the only thing that is going to work is time. I could tell you to eat a ton of ice cream or go sleep with other girls, but I don't think that will work. Time will heal you.
2006-07-04 15:42:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋