About 5 years ago I was working on the door of a student nightclub. A gay male came in dressed in very tight trousers and a tight top and he looked very, very gay. He was very toned and had soft baby face features.
My immediate thought was ... "oh! he just looks really over the top gay, thats horrible and disgusting." Yet at the end of the night I found myself thinking he was actually quite attractive in a sexual way and my initial disgust had changed to curiosity.
I have always found women attractive and never found a man attractive until that moment and have never done since. Yet I still remember this guy. I have always had sexual relations with women and have never been attracted to a man or even kissed a bloke. Was it just a stray thought? Has a woman ever had anything similar?
2006-07-04 15:30:49 · 42 answers · asked by Robert W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh yes i have had this thoughts and i´ve never felt guilty or confused about having them....i´m telling you i am 300% straight, the single thought of picturing myself on touching someone else´s boobs it really takes me out of my reasoning, in the bad way that is...
In my opinion you´re not either bi or gay unless you are convinced you are! and i do have lots of gay friends so i know what i´m talking about. Just be yourself and feel confident, you´ll eventually find the real answer ...
2006-07-04 15:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by Citla1012 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
I'll bet you are just as normal as any other straight man, just more open about admitting that you had some curiosity about a guy. I'm female and I have had thoughts about other women, in fact growing up I tought that female anatomy was much more attractive than the male physique. I know I'm straight though and am content with knowing this. If you get turned on by women on a consistent basis and have only had one occasion that you were ever curious about a guy, I think it is obvious that you are a pretty straight male. Unless you are constantly thinking about this guy and actually fantasizing about what it would be like to be with him, I don't think you have anything to worry about. It is normal to questions our most basic life decisions, I think it is healthy because it can help reconfirm who we truly are.
2006-07-04 15:36:44 · answer #2 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everbody is somewhat bisexual to a certain extent.
If almost everyone that you are attracted to is of the opposite sex, then you are straight. Even if there is a .5% margin of error.
If it goes the same for people of the same sex, then you are a homosexual.
If you are attracted to one gender but alot times still attracted to the other, then you are truelly bisexual, but if one person out of the at least 3 million people that you've been attracted to happens to be of the same sex, you have nothing to worry about, if you are worried, which you shouldn't be.
It's psychologically proven. I'm totally straight but I'd rather check out a good looking guy rather than my mom or have dinner with Pierce Brosnan rather Barbara Streisand.
It's not like you're planning on making out with him or taking it in from behind. If that is the case though, you're just curious.
2006-07-04 15:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonimo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just a momentary thing..no big deal. Why in the world would you worry about this? It means nothing. IN the course of a life, if you were not occasionally attracted to this or that, you would be down right wierd. WHo knows...this person may be from a past life experience...Don't put one more second of thought into it. You are not gay. Why all this worry about being Gay from so many men? And why is Gay such an issue in the first place. ???? Good luck
2006-07-04 15:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't it just be straight and curious? Unless you're watching gay porno out of 'curiosity' then you're normal and just have an overactive curious mind.
The men that say they don't think about other men being 'good looking' are the same men that say they never masturbate...
ALL WOMEN compare themselves relative to other women, so why would men not compare also?
Shesh... gay, straight, bi... if anything, there is no bi... you're either straight or gay. Bi is for those people that are gay but don't want to dive fully into the gay life because they're chicken sh*ts and can't live up to the hardship that current follows a gay relationship.
2006-07-04 15:36:38 · answer #5 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are Gay, nah, just kidding, it could be the guy looked so gay because he had lots of feminine mannerisms, and you were more attracted to the mannerisms than the guy himself, I can look at a person 2 or 3 hundred yards away and just by the way they move tell if it's a guy or a gurl. maybe he had lots of the moves that women have and an automatic response would be attraction. until you caught your mind wandering. you still may be a little gay, but I'm looking for an out for you here. we don't need to lose another comrade to that gang. lol
2006-07-04 15:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
an same as I do about the different team... some human beings are applicants for sainthood, some are downright evil, yet maximum fall someplace contained in the middle. besides the undeniable fact that there is a meant "gay existence-type" that the right wing needs to lump us all into- the idea that we are all selfish, cracked-out sluts hell-bent on the destruction of "the classic relations"- the vast majority of gays and lesbians abhor this "existence-type" and merely want an same issues in existence that heterosexuals do. Lumping human beings jointly perpetuates the stereotype even as, in reality, gays and lesbians flow all racial, social, economic, non secular, geographical, and cultural lines, that's why we are probable the most diverse diverse "minority" team available.
2016-10-14 03:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by sharona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you never acted on that thought, and you've never had any similar feelings since that time, I still would consider you straight.
In the course of your life, all sorts of random thoughts, impulses, and abstract speculation might occur to you. I would be very cautious about re-determining your sexual orientation because of one passing thought you experienced half a decade ago.
2006-07-04 15:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by joe d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say you were gay if you only had one instance of those types of thoughts. It's quite natural to be curious but to have those feelings on a constant basis would lead me to believe you may in fact be gay.
Indulge your curiosity one day and see how it makes you feel. Or always wonder what it would be like to be with a man.
Good luck!
2006-07-04 15:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by cdp_1818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people have seen or thought something about how a person looks and what they wear.It was probably the first time you saw what you saw and though about it. I've seen some cross
dressers and such but not in anyway sexually.I'm a people watcher anyways.I don't think you have anything to worry about.
Stay cool!!!
2006-07-04 15:45:17 · answer #10 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very normal for a straight person to occasionally have gay thoughts. It's nothing to worry about. You're obviously straight and should not question your sexuality.
2006-07-04 15:34:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋