do I have depression or am I just a normal teenager?

Question

okay so I want to know If I have depression, or if Im just a lousy complainer, so here are some stuff tht ive been experiancing/feeling

-im thinking of breaking up w/ my bf because I dont think Im good enough for him

-I dont want to leave the house

-I dont want to do anything active, unless Im with friends

-I dont think my friends actually like me

-Ive givin up on myself, because I can never seem to lose weight

-I sleep alot of the day, then spend the rest of it on the computer

-Ive had thots of suicide

-I always feel like im not good enough or pretty enough for anyone

-When I used to fight with my parents I just brushed it off, now I feel like running away.

-Ive had thots of wanting to get pregnant just to get away from my parents and having someone to love

Even if I dont have depression how can I get rid of these thots, I dont want to go to a doctor becuz someone would have to drive me

Answer 1

It might be normal, but it might also be depression. Its extremely hard to say, but really only a doctor can tell. If you can't go to a doctor, you could call a hotline like 1-800-SUICIDE, where you can talk completely confidentially and for free, or wait until you go your next regular doctor's appiontment and talk to him or her. Good luck!

Answer 2

You sound depressed. You also sound like you could use some therapy- like most normal people do. You are going thru a terribly difficult time in life. Teenage yrs are hell, I would never want to re-live that part. Life gets a whole lot better. Having a child is not the answer, it will give you someone to love- but at a great responsibility. Once you are a mother, you can never go back to being a girl. You will start to live the life, that makes you consider someone else for everything that you do. I know that you think that you are old enough to handle it, but believe me.. it will only make things worse for you. If you have had thoughts of suicide, you need to get help. You should talk to a close family member/ friend/ a parent of a friend/teacher/ or simply ask your mother to take you to the Doctor because you do not feel well, and then ask to talk with the Dr or nurse privately- and tell them what you are feeling. Remember that you are worthy of anything and anyone in your life, and that you will be on your own soon enough- don't try to rush it. Even if it feels like your not getting along with your parents, they do love you. Try to get the courage to talk with them about how you feel.

Answer 3

A lot of your thoughts seem to be thoughts all teenagers have (or at least I did). Suicide, running away, thinking I needed to lose weight. I also wanted to sleep all day and stay on the computer for the rest of it, and God knows, I NEVER wanted to do anything active. Looking back, being a teenager was one of the most emotionally violent times I've ever had (rated right up there with postpartum). I definitly don't like that you don't think you're good enough. If you don't want to go to a doctor, try talking to your counsellor, so few teenagers take advantage of the fact that theirs a trained professional available. I guarantee that he/she won't feel bothered, and they genuinely want to help you. Sometimes, just talking to someone who doesn't expect you to be a certain way takes a huge load off your shoulders. No matter what, keep in mind that you won't be a teenager forever, and things will get brighter.

Answer 4

Your thoughts are self detrimental, and this is not a good sign. The fact that you recognize they are a problem, however, IS a good sign.
It takes more courage to admit you have something wrong and work toward fixing it, than it does to sit by idley while it eats away at your life. I have no medical training to tell you that you're suffering from depression (as opposed to just feeling depressed for a while) but weather its a temporary feeling or a true chemical imbalance, you should speak to someone about it.

Find a counselor at school/work, a teacher/trusted supervisor, a relative that you trust, anyone that is in a position to help you out in a way that you feel comfortable with. The sooner you reach out and start working to fix this, the faster you'll be back to the good life.

Good luck chicky, it can be a long road out of the woods with true depression, but just as anything in life, it will only get better if you work at it.

Answer 5

You are very, very normal. I went through all of those things you mentioned. I know it's tough being a teenager; I wouldn't re-live those years for all the money in the world. Just try to stay positive and be involved in positive activities, such as volunteer work, express yourself through art- take some art classes, etc. Now, if you start to research ways to kill yourself, then it may be time to make that trip to the psychiatrist. So what, someone will have to drive you. It's more than worth the trip, so stop trippin'.

When I wrote the above answer I didn't see your username- LDS Girl. Your religion may be the cause of your depression. I grew up LDS, so I know what I am talking about. You may not want to see it that way, but it's important you realize that. I was very depressed up until the day I left the church. Now I am happier than I ever was. EVER. Did you know that there are more people who use Prozac in Utah than anywhere in the entire country?

Keep your head up, sweetie.

Answer 6

You should see your doctor. What you are experiencing sounds more severe than what most teens go through. Depression is a very real thing and it will cause a lot of the symptoms that you are experiencing. Medication can really help you with this! The good news is that being a teenager will eventually end and you will be able to get on with your life and chances are that will help your depression. Do not get pregnant, this will really not help your problem! You need to find someone to talk to, preferably someone professional and you need to see your doctor to see if you would be a good candidate for medication.

Answer 7

You have several symptoms of clinical depression. But the question you need to ask yourself is it really better to suffer with this by yourself or to get help and feel better.

If you are considering suicide that is considered a medical emergency which gives you the ability to call 911 for medical help and a ride to the doctor/hospital will be provided.

However, what I believe would be an even better option would be to actually talk to your parents about what you are going through and that you need medical help. I know, I've had problems with my parents too, but your parents love you and want to help you.
Having the support of your family can greatly help you get better.

By the way, some counties have mental health departments which can provide doctor visits and medication at an affordable cost based on your parents income.

To end this post please allow me to type a little prayer for you.

Jesus,
I pray for the person who posted this. I pray that you would heal him/her and take away all the suicidal feelings. Show him/her how much he/she is special to You and that you have a wonderful destiny for him/her.
In Jesus' name
Amen.

Answer 8

To be honest you sound like a normal teenager. That transition into adulthood is a tough one and along with all the pressures from your wierd peers it's not easy. The best piece of advice I could give is two things. One..write down your goals then go through each goal and do whatever it takes to achieve it. Two...this is important...get active. Walk around a lake, play a sport, work out, whatever. It's really important to get rid of that pent up energy and it's the greatest high on life. Do these two things and I guarantee your self confidence will go way up and when you have self confidence everyone will show you respect!

Answer 9

You may or may not have depression, but it would take a doctor to determine your current mental state. It is normal for teenagers to go through similar stages and mental processes as you are experiencing, but having thoughts of suicide and running away and not being good enough for anyone are sure signs of depression. I advise that you seek professional help in this matter, because although you realize what you are going through you are still at risk.

Answer 10

I'm sorry that you are feeling this way. But, your feelings are valid and no matter what others say, YOU are valid. :) I don't know how to help you, because I cannot even help myself. And who am I to tell you if you are depressed or not? I don't know you well enough, and even if I did, I couldn't tell you that. Pray. Spend some time with God. Start volunteering at a local hospital. Try helping someone else, and it will make you smile and feel like you are making a difference! :) Have fun! Be a teenager! (But, if you really feel that bad, please talk to your parents, or someone you trust).

--JE