2006-07-04 14:58:48 · 23 answers · asked by dj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, personally I go for nice guys but most girls go for guys that are jerks and want to get them in bed. I think they choose them over nice guys because nice guys don't try to make the move or any move for that matter on them even when they're hoping you will. Like most nice guys will wait until they think it's right to kiss you but some girls don't want to wait.
2006-07-04 15:03:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 25⤊ 5⤋
I'm not a lady but a former "nice guy".
Its because you are a door mat. Women have a natural tendancy to want to nurture and fix things or make a guy "change". If you are all nice to them, it gets boring. I am sure you have seen girls cry because their boyfriends are $*@holes, only to have them back with them hours later.
If you are a nice guy...you shouldn't change that philosophy...but here is what you have to do to keep a woman on average:
1. Meet them and be very charming. Get a phone number.
2. First date, be a gentlemen and DO NOT kiss her, have sex with her...nothing. This now does one of two things: either she has NO interest in you and you will be done or if she had even a remote interest in you...she will want you and really like you. THIS IS THE THING THAT NICE GUYS DON'T GET! Nice guys try to be great all the time and that is when a girl easily gets bored. Yes, even the nice ones that you want a long term relationship with...you don't need "changed" and therefore are boring!
3. Call her the next day, repeat date. Now you can do whatever you want at the end.
4. Call next day. ASK TO DO SOMETHING WITH HER FRIENDS. If you win the friends over and give them respect...you will have allies to help when you aren't there. The real beauty is if they HATE you...because they will be trying to get your girl to break up and she won't because YOU OBVIOUSLY NEED TO BE "FIXED" (read: NOT boring).
Once you have the relationship solid..and you will know when that is: bring it back to where you would normally (be yourself).
I don't advocate being a jerk to her, but I had many women who where very interested at first and then stopped. I asked myself why and analyzed each situation. It was because I didn't let them 'change' me. And when they thought they did, all they really witnessed was me being myself.
If you don't believe me, think back to a time when there was something you wanted, but knew you could get it anytime you wanted it. All of a sudden, it becomes very hard to get AND YOU THEN WANT IT 10x MORE THAN YOU DID BEFORE! It's the same idea. Hope this helps!
2006-07-04 15:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by rayzor6 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys aways finish last because women are always looking for those bad boys. A lot of women were abused when they were younger and some are just to ashamed to admitt it. Therefore they look for relationships that are familiar to them and get uncomfortable when they find a good guy that treats them right because they dont think that they deserve it. The abuse becomes such a familiar thing that it is all they are used to so they look for the bad boys that will treat them like they are a peice of crap cause they feel that is all that they are worth. Some women are afraid when they have a good guy cause they are afraid that they will hurt them because of all the pain that they felt their whole life.
2006-07-04 15:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by psycholilblondegirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys finish last? What century are you from? Nice guys are the guys most of us are looking for!
2006-07-04 15:16:57 · answer #4 · answered by thilitha_tipton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys finish last because they let the other ones go ahead of them......................They are not last.....just in line.........The other guys start out good but by the time nice guys get to the front they stay .
2006-07-04 15:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by ginny3282 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice guys dont finish last, thats just a saying. Thats not true.
2006-07-04 15:02:07 · answer #6 · answered by Diabla 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think they always finish last. I prefer nice guys, they just tend to get lost among all the jerks.
2006-07-04 15:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nice guys don't finish last that's just a stupid rumor nice guys always get the girl that everyone wants.
2006-07-04 15:01:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't - it appears to be but in the end nice guys finish first!
2006-07-04 15:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by camlankolche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to find a woman who is secure in who she is. She won't need drama in her life that the bad boy provides. She is over the need to play the victim role in a relationship. She has accomplished things in her life she is proud of and is ready to share those accomplishments and new adventures with the man who has also has accomplishments and dreams, who does not need drama as well. She is out there!
2006-07-04 15:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by Wonderfulhaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nice Guys find their unfair share of silly women who dont appreciate them, the same way nice girls find crappy guys.. Wouldnt we all appreciate someone nice to be on our side, Lord knows I surely would
2006-07-04 15:04:03 · answer #11 · answered by cjmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋