Is it normal to want to have children at my age?

Question

I am 26 and have really been wanting to have children lately. I seriously don't know why. I am established, educated, and make good money. I have a significant other of 4 years 9 months. We have been having unprotected sex for the entire time we've been dating. He's not ready for marriage and children because he doesn't have a great job with benefits that pays well even though I could do just about everything myself. How do I fix my mind to rid myself of my desire to get pregnant. Is it selfish that I have this want? I do want to be married before I have children, but I don't want to conceive after age of 27. Please help!

Answer 1

It is normal! More so , you are probably instictively knowing this is a perfect time physiologically.

There is no perfect time to have kids- there will always be something to scare the crap out of you. There is also no perfect circumstance, and, regardless to what anyone tells you-kids do not need a loving mother AND father- they simply need to be loved and valued unconditionally. If we choose to believe kids need a hallmark life that what happens to the children whose parents die?

You need to do what is right for you- without dwelling on it , and trust that all will be fine!!!!!!! Believe in yourself.

Answer 2

It s normal to desire children at your age, you have everything ready to receive one. The problem is, your bf does not, and it is not wise to end up as 1) single mother, or 2) bf leaves you when he found out your are preg or 3) you put aside your dream and stay together (provided you both have something in common to keep that relationship going)

Depending on how much you love and respect each other, talk it out and decide on how you want to move forward. Either to break off so that you can pursue your life goals the way you want, or stay together and forgo your personal needs (sacrifice).

to be preg after 27 is nothing wrong either..

Answer 3

I think it's normal to want children at your age. I'm 26, too and a lot of my friends have been having babies and getting married. I would love to have a baby right now, too. I don't think you're going to rid yourself of the desire, but just keep telling yourself that your future children deserve to have a loving mother AND a loving father. If your S.O. doesn't want kids right now, it wouldn't be fair to him to have one anyway. And it wouldn't be fair to the child either. I think that would be disasterous to get pregnant despite your boyfriend telling you that he's not ready. If you're determined to have a baby before you turn 27, then you may need to start looking for a partner that shares your feelings because your boyfriend doesn't right now and you can't change his mind for him.

Answer 4

Are you serious. in a good way. i was 26 when i had my DD.
You are going to have to let go of some of the limitations. why don't you want to conceive after 27, if that is it then you need to rethink the marriage thing unless you are going to do a quickie marriage.

Most of my friends are having babies or seriously baby crazy and we are all the same age.
Do what you need / want to do.

Answer 5

I had my son at age twenty seven and found that it was the right time for me. I had been with my guy for seven years before and broke up with him just prior to meeting my ex husband. I think I was looking for a change in my life at that time and was feeling like I was missing out by not having children.

Today I am thankful that I have my son since the way my life worked out it was not in the cards for me to have any additional children.

If your desire to have a baby at this age is very strong talk to your S.O. and to your doctor about why you have not gotten pregnant in all this time if you haven't been using any form of birth control.

Answer 6

You could fix your mind of those feelings by taking care of a kid for two weeks straight... (a toddler or a pre-teen is suggested!) I had those same feelings too, but when I was asked to take care of my 7 year old nephew for two weeks while my sister was traveling outside the U.S., my feelings went away... Now I could wait... Wait till you and your beau are married and have everything ready for this baby that you are going to conceive.

Answer 7

well i think you need to really think about and talk with him ask him does he see himself ever being ready for kids and if your ready now and hes not then maybe you shouldnt be with him but then again it might be awhile before you find someone that you really want to have kids with.its perfectly normal i think people seem to be waiting intil there much older these days.second what do you mean you dont know why what does being educated,established,and making good money have to do with it.alot of people even though they may be uneducated make min wage want to have children.

Answer 8

I think it's pretty normal to want to have children but please don't get pregnant by a guy that's not ready for children! Don't worry about having kids after age 27. Really.

Answer 9

Yes, it is normal for you to start thinking if that now.Every young woman at our age start to think of kids and want our own family..with a marriage. But if you don't have a man that is ready for the same thing you are ..then there a problem..and then you need to start looking for a man that is ready for the same thing you are .And have the same values you have and having kids.

Answer 10

You can't "fix your mind" to make you not want to have a baby. Sounds like to me that you have done everything but have a child. If you really want to start a family, I think you need to find another man that is wanting to also. Or if you want to be the single mom..then find a sperm bank.

Good Luck!!