Okay... here is a question that has always bugged me...
If you have a guest staying for an extended period of time... say a week or so... is it wrong to wear your briefs around the house (or robe or pjs if you are a woman) while the guest is present? Like early in the morning or at night?
I mean, if you are used to waking up and going to get your cup of coffee... or walking down the stairs... in your briefs... how long should you stop doing it if there is a guest in the house? Should you have to stop at all if the guest is going to be staying for a while?
2006-07-04 13:46:53 · 28 answers · asked by AeroMidwest82 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think it really makes a difference who the guest is.
If he's your old college roommate, and he's already seen you in all states, including naked, drunk, and under the covers giggling with your girlfriend while he tries to sleep, then I guess briefs are okay. UNLESS, he's brought his current girlfriend or his wife with him, in which case you can just throw a pair of shorts or PJ bottoms on over your BVDs.
For family, or close friends, I would say that you need to make them as comfortable as possible. After all, that's part of being a host, is it not? You don't need to go all the way to wearing a robe, but again, throwing something on over your underwear is easy to do, and shows courtesy for them and their feelings.
If your guests are considerably older, such as your mother and father-in-law, I do suggest you add a shirt, but you don't need to necessarily wear full PJs and a robe.
I think the same basics apply to women, as well. I think PJs are perfectly acceptable for women, as long as they are not terribly revealing. Shortie nightgowns, or tops that show off the breasts probably need a robe over them, but things like T-shirts and boxers (one of my preferred types of PJs) are probably okay for most folks. The only time I really bother to wear a robe when we have house guests is if they are more my husband's friends than mine, or if they are related to me by marriage, such as his mom and dad. And then I do it so I don't make them uncomfortable. Also, I tend to be a little more modest around men than women. When my husband's mom comes to visit without his dad, I don't bother with a robe, because I don't really have any bits she hasn't seen a gazillion times before. I just wear jammies.
I guess what I am trying to say in my long and rattling way is that it's probably best if you try to make your guests as comfortable as possible, even if that makes a bit of an inconvenience for you. Besides, if they overstay their welcome, then you have more things to take off, in an effort to make them more and more uncomfortable until they absolutely have to leave :)
2006-07-04 18:29:14 · answer #1 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 34⤊ 3⤋
If the guest is the same sex as you and you feel comfortable, I think you can wear what you want. If you are young and the guest is an old timer this might be a different story though. Oldtimers can be a bit prudish. If you have prudish guest, a robe might be appropriate if you are in your underwear. If the guest is the same sex as you and is minor - I'd put a robe on over underwear. It would just get back to their parents that they stayed with so and so all they did was walk around in their underwear.
In any case, if you are wearing pajamas, no one should be offended. You don't need a robe for pjs no matter the age or sex of the guest.
If the guest is a different sex from you - don't walk around in your underwear - be they boxers or briefs. Throw a robe on. Even if the guest is a blood relation - maintain this decorum.
Anyway - why not have an easy solution to all this? Get your coffee with sweat pants and tee shirt on!
2006-07-04 15:35:19 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you have asked this question and place it in right category, I think you know what ETIQUETTE means..
as you are the owner of the house, yes you have the right to wear whatever you wanted to,
but as a host, and the guests are not aware of this,, giving them a brief detail that you wear briefs around the house would help not only you but the guests to keep walking around the house if you are present, I am pretty sure you are not walking in your house for 24 hours only with brief, for a woman, robe and PJ is OK because it covers more,,
If you can not stop and worry about it, give them the time that you are in the house and doing your own thing, as a guest, I would not mind obeying some rules and considering the condition of the house and the owner's right to do his/her private time on his own house.
if you want to join them, taking time to wear your jeans and shirt
at the moment would be appreciated.. if you are not willing to consider about wearing casual wear when guests are coming, you dont need to accept them and be embarrased later,..
2006-07-04 15:12:07 · answer #3 · answered by Ny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is wrong. One should never be seen in their underwear by anyone other than an immediate family member.It is really easy for you to answer this. Just ask yourself this one question. If your mother or sister or girlfriend were to visiting someone and there was a man in the house how would you feel if he wore his underwear in front of them. Now take into consideration that all men do not wear the same underwear as you. Some might wear theirs tighter than you do and they may be very well endowed.
2006-07-04 14:04:23 · answer #4 · answered by windyy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pajamas. Or a robe. Usually if it is family they probably dont want to see you in your briefs (without a robe). But hey, you never know about some people these days.
2006-07-04 16:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by martster38 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have invited the guest, kindly put on a robe or pajama bottoms at least. Have a little common courtesy.
2006-07-04 13:53:37 · answer #6 · answered by dixie_til_i_die 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why run the risk of offending or embarrasing your guest. It doesn't take 30 seconds to slip on a pair of funny boxers and a t-shirt (men) or a robe (women).
2006-07-04 18:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by Sonie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the extended-stay guest is family; your boxers should be okay to run around in (males), for females--a long shirt and boxers should be cool....if the guest is not; then put on a pair of shorts or sweats; just to keep them from becoming embarrassed. or uncomfortable
Granted it is your place, but you should take their feelings into account anyways......
2006-07-04 14:13:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends who the guests are. If you're shy or trying to make a good impression, cover up. If it's family, let them know ahead of time that you might go downstairs in your underwear, so don't be alarm. After all, it is your house, you want them to be comfortable but you want to be comfortable around them as well. Just warn them.
2006-07-04 14:00:45 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for me i would do what i always do.If I have a guest over for any lenght of stay it's someone who knows me for me and wont have a problem with it. If your running around naked that another story but if you in your briefs how is that any different from a pair of shorts..just keep the fly closed
2006-07-04 13:51:52 · answer #10 · answered by ambulancechaser_99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guest, but usually I would not do that at all while a guest was in the house.
2006-07-04 13:52:07 · answer #11 · answered by James A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋