I really hate/can't forget about my boyfriends exes?

Question

I'm 19 &hav been with my bf for 9 months.I met him@ uni& he is my first boyfriend.He,though has had 4 girlfriends b4.One he was with when he was 15 or 16,for 11 months.He dumped her for another who he was with for 7 months until she slept with someone else.Another,who he went to a lot of effort to ask her out,was just over a year ago. He was with her for 5 months and he thought he loved her until she dumped him because apparently she loved him but was away a lot and thought it unfair.He told me that it took a couple of weeks to get over her,but I no so much about them cos for the first 4 months that I knew him he talked about them non-stop.He also had another gf 4 a month before going to uni.He says he never slept with any of them because he said he was waiting for sum1 he knew he loved,which he said was me,but I stil can't stop hating them.He gets annoyed if I mention them now but it makes me cry.I h8 the thought of him being with any1 else& thinkin he loved them.I realy do love him!!

Answer 1

Snap out of it girl!! First things first - they are ex's - past tense...
second the chances of him being a virgin are rather remote... The "waiting for the 1" is quite an old line - its just something some blokes try (Not that i'm saying its true - its just abit strange to be a 19y virgin these days)

If you really do love him - stop thinking about the ex's & think about what you have now...

Have fun!!!

Answer 2

Just relax and chill out! He has been honest with you from the start so you should respect him for that. Of course you will feel like crying when you think about his past - thats only natural - you are protective of him and cannot imagine him ever being with anyone else or getting hurt. Do not dwell on the past - your boyfriend clearly does not want to talk about it so don't. If you feel the need to get it off your chest then talk to a close friend but do not wear your b/f down by going on about it. It is his past so stop reminding him of it. Just be happy with him and enjoy your time together.

Answer 3

ive heard tell that it takes about a month per year of being with someone to get over them but when you add teen angst to the equation you feel like you have been scarred for life whatever the reason for the break up so try to forgive him for acting normally. Think about it logically, would you rather a boyfriend who didnt seem to care? Sounds as though he's got over himself with regards his previous relationships but you, evidently, have not. Maybe you're bored and want to create problems in your relationship to spice things up a little. Maybe you feel insecure regarding your relationship and his feelings for you, who knows. Believe me stressing about the past or the fact that your guy may have loved someone before you (given that there are billions of other girls out there it would seem a possibility that you may not be the only one that he could love) is just not worth it. What good could it possibly do you? Let it go as he seems to have done or you are in very great danger of being dumped yourself. Men are simple creatures and crave an easy life so if you want to keep him you know what you have to do. Take it from one who knows, as far as heartache goes you aint seen nothing yet and with a bit of common sense you dont have to either.

Answer 4

If you love him as much as you think or say you do, then you have to learn that the past is the past...theres nothing you can ever do to change it! These other girls arent with him now...cos its you that he loves, wants to be with.....
Dont trash this relationship thru jealousy...as thats what you feel when you think of him with his ex's...its perfectly normal to feel like it though so dont beat yourself up over it!
Walk down the road with him, holding his hand, and with your head high let the other girls wish.....because they cant have him, hes with you!!

Answer 5

im just the same as you i hate thinking bout bf ex but just because he has only had one other and that was for 4 years now he says he cant talk bout her at akk and get srelly annoyyed if i do this makes me feel like he still has feeling for her cuz she dumped him.... but if i let that stay in my mind all the time i really wud go to pieces all you got to think if sum 1 broke ur heart or dumped you you ud think bout them to or maybe he was talkin bout them so much just to warn you look this is what happen to me b4 i dont want it to happen again he has said ur the one for him so belive him maybe by talkin bout them to you he was sending arning signals out

Answer 6

Why the rush to get into relationships?

Both of you..

Arent you still in school?

I went through college with 1 serious relationship and realized it was dumb.

Whats the point........"love"? You are too young for trying all that right now.

Do you really need to be "relationshipped" to death right now?

Answer 7

Everything he's seen and done have made him the bloke you fancy today. That includes his ex's. Any experience he has had with them will have been used by him to grow as a person. it's just coz he's your first. If you had baggage you'd handle his alot better.

Answer 8

you cant change whatever happened before! you're with him now and should be happy with that! forget about the past and just concentrate on teh present and future! if you keep being jealous like this you'll just push him away

Answer 9

I think you gotta get over it all or you are gonna be ex number 5 - you are both starting from zero, if he gives you any hint of impropriety then get rid

Answer 10

i wont lie. its too long to read this early in the morning. but i read the heading and if you cant forget about them be so good that he forgets about them making you his number 1 and making you know thats what you are.