If lust is a sin to God why do we have sexual preferences?

Question

Also, to not lust anymore means to not look at females for their beauty and good looks. Which means a man is supposed to suppress himself and his hunger for a woman. It sounds to me like you're so supposed to be celibate. Based upon having sex before marriage a big no in religion. At the same time another big no in masturbation. My God, what can you do sexually? That's a lot of stress on an individual, plus all the bodily fluids have to come out one way or another by nature. Wet dreams. Plus, it seems that in religion sexuality is considered taboo. I'm naturally a masculine person in personality. Now if I do stop lusting for women or a woman won't that make me into lowering my masculinity for the sake of not lusting? It sounds like a cat or dog being neutered in a similie. Why does the Word of God command that we don't lust?

Answer 1

Lust is sexual gluttony.
The irony that I've observed is the people who are sexually promiscuous and may even be carrying many STD's that they don't even know about, etc, totally judging overweight people who they claim don't have self control for food.
Which of these are worse? or are they all equal?
no self control for food, alcohol, gambling, shopping, sex, prescription drugs, pornography?
It's considered acceptable to have multiple sex partners of any gender because it's acceptable to not have to control yourself sexually....yet so many in America look down on smokers & obese people. They are all equal in the sense of having to put "stress" on your body to have to have self control.
God gives us sexuality so we can have an internal connection with our spouse. Your soul is on the inside of your body....you cannot remove it physically. Sex with only your spouse gives you a true soul mate.

Answer 2

It's also said that greed is a sin, but we all have ambitions. The same for Gluttony, yet we have appetites. The thing is, ambitions and appetites only become greed and gluttony when they are allowed to get out of control. What you refer to as sexual preferences, sex drives and desires, are perfectly all right, they're natural and nothing to be ashamed of. Lust is when someone's desire for sex becomes and obsession, when it becomes all they think of, to the exclusion of everything else. But, if that's your trouble, while it may be a sin in the eyes of God, it's propably also a psychiatric problem and you need to see a doctor. Otherwise, I'm certainly no Bible scholar, but I'm convenced that masturbation is not a sin. Some Christian denominations may tell you it is, but there are also denominations that will tell you sex with your wife is a sin, if you like it. Neither am I sold on the notion that pre-marrital sex is a sin. The Bible says to leave your neighbor's wife alone. Now, I've never met you, and have no idea how deep your difficulty may run, but it sounds like you're experiencing the same thing every man going has been through. You're young and horny as hell, and can't get girls off your mind. Welcom to manhood. For God sake, masturbate if it helps, of even if it just feels good. Go out on dates, but be respectful. If she's not ready or not in the mood, keep it in your pants, take her home and walk her to the door. If you do get lucky, be responsible, enjoy the experience, see that she does too, and don't go away with a gob of remorse, worried about going to hell.

Answer 3

Sexual intimacy is to be kept within the bounds of legal and lawful marriage between a man and a wife. You can look at a woman feel attraction without lusting. I love my wife and I loved her prior to marriage but I did not LUST after her...I never felt the NEED to have her body as much as I needed her companionship. I was interested in consummating our marriage as I am sure she was...but there is a difference. As you said, masturbation is out as well...so what is to be done? Self discipline and self mastery is key...you have to change the channel as it were...if you are feeling hot under th collar..take a FAST cool shower, think of the Queen of England, baseball, Parliament or anything that can take the edge off, reading scriptures, saying a prayer works as well as singing hymns...

It is not that you can't have sex, it is just controlled, it is disciplined..I mean ..HOW MANY KIDS DO MORMONS AND CATHOLICS HAVE??? Usually they have a ton...well it isn't without some intimacy going on...the difference is keeping things within the standards that God has given us..but as a married couple, most decisions are between husband and wife and that is it...the only time God enters into the equation is when the man or woman wants something that their spouse is uncomfortable with and does not want..or when one says NO...then it must be respected in all cases. Nocturnal emissions are normal and they happen but the main thing is...

your libido (mojo) also fluctuates with the amount of sex that you have...if you DO masterbate a LOT, then your libido will rise and your NEED to have will increase..if you are able to control yourself..then you can keep the libidio controlled and you will not NEED it nearly as often...it seems christian women have PERFECTED this..men would love to know that secret...but at the same time...men are always going to be wired at a higher frequency than women...nudge nudge wink wink....it is the hope of men everywhere that women understand and are willing to work with him..so that blueball does not result or prostate issues..

the main issue is this..if she is pregnant or has had a c-section..guys..good luck on that one...just enter into sexual hibernation..its gonna be a while...months! But that self discipline that you learned will pay off during those months...

Answer 4

The bible says, "thou shall resist temptation." This is the premise towards all of this no premarital sex thing and no masturbation thing. You're not supposed to not look at females either, I don't know where you came up with that. You're supposed to enjoy the beauty in which God created. Pleasures of the flesh are to be with held until marriage, when you have a sacred bond with that person. I personally could care less, because God is supposed to be all forgiving, so I believe I should be going to heaven, so long as I ask for forgiveness before I die. But that's just me, it's up to you to make a decision as to what YOU want to believe in.

Answer 5

Sex was created by God. It was created for one man and one woman together forever. It was a beautiful thing. It wasn't made to pass around like animals do. It was supposed to be in connection with love.

When it is used any other way, it degrades the human being.

As far as whether or not you should lust, just curious: How does lusting help you sexually--or any other way, for that matter?

Answer 6

If you could see things from an eternity point of view you might understand the importance of sexual morality. In our youth we have little control of these things due to inexperience and hormones (from growing.) When older and wiser we see the importance of finding the right person to be the mother of your children and your wife. To let lust rule would be to deny the more important idea of what a family should be; as you may see it from an older more experienced point of view.

Youthful strong urges do not last as strongly forever. A better mind and body does come later when you are older. Until then, if you do not respect what older people try to tell you...you may have to learn the hard way and pay a high price for following your "normal" urges. God forgives if you try to be moral but fail due to youth; in my opinion.

Answer 7

because we are supposed to be having sex for reproduction purposes only. to carry on our generations and keep the human race on this planet.
lust
1. Intense or unrestrained sexual craving.
2.
1. An overwhelming desire or craving: a lust for power.
2. Intense eagerness or enthusiasm: a lust for life.
3. Obsolete. Pleasure; relish.

we should not lust in anyway not just sexually. for lust leads to greed. people do evil things because of greed.

Answer 8

There IS a difference begtween lust and attraction. Sexual lust desires sex, attraction does not. I am attracted to my wife but I don't lust after her. I am already bonded to my wife.
God does not condemn sex. You would not be here if it wasn't for that. It is sex outside of marriage that God does not like.
Sexual prowess does not make a man.

Answer 9

You missunderstand lust. It is not simply admiering a womans beauty. Lust is lingering thoughts about what you would like to do with her. Lust is intentionaly thinking about having sex with her.

It is alright to lust after you wife. After all you are able to have sex with your wife.

Here is the deal. You are to attempt to control your self. However everybody including God knows you will fail. And that is one of the points. Failure will bring you to a point where you realise that you will never be able to keep all of Gods rules.

That sounds bad but it is not. If you come to that point then you will realise that only Jesus can save you. That is the point of rules we will never be able to keep is to draw us to the realization that we need Jesus and we can not save ourselfs.

So trust Jesus with your salvation and make an attempt to follow Gods rules. But always be aware that you will fail and need Jesus to cover your sins.

Answer 10

Only a Christian will be able to understand this. When we accept Christ as our personal Saviour we become new creatures. old things are pasted away. the Holy Spirit comes to live within us and He guides us not to sin. Scripture teaches us that lust is sin. We no longer want to be servants of sin.


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