I know already that my ex-fiance is inviting me to his wedding in october. How would you feel if you were his bride-to-be and his ex came to the wedding? Would you go to the wedding?
2006-07-04 13:11:56 · 42 answers · asked by ebrinkleywc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
we are still friends and I know that the bride to be is okay with my going. she and i talked about it on the phone.
2006-07-04 13:19:01 · update #1
Many sides to this one--If it's OK with the bride to be and your comfortable with your current relationship with your ex than go.
If your ex is trying to rub it in your face that he's getting married than don't go.
If your ex is is inviting you out of respect for your frienship but his bride to be would rather you weren't there than don't go.
Make sure all parties involved are fine with your invite before attending and base your decision on that.
2006-07-04 13:22:10 · answer #1 · answered by roninrkb 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I just would throw that invitation in the garbage once I received it. It would be just an incredibly awkward situation , plus can you imagine how the bride would feel if her soon to be husband's ex fiance showed up at their wedding? She'll be thinking of the fact that at one point her fiance was planning to spend the rest of his life with someone else. Granted, everyone has their past but that is where it should remain:in the past. It would not be a fun situation for everybody involved. Why would he be inviting you to his wedding anyhow? That just seems weird to me.
2006-07-04 13:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by moma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my ex-husband and I married, his ex-long time-girl friend attended the wedding. I was okay with that. They had been over for a long time and were only friends. True, there are many women who won't like the idea. I would make sure that it was okay with the bride to be prior to going, if it is and you want to go, I see nothing wrong with it.
2006-07-04 13:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest I would stay away on the big day, I would not attend. There would be awkwardness, despite you having spoken to the bride, I am sure she is just going along with that to keep her man happy. But there is NO WAY on this earth that I would allow my b/f's ex to attend our wedding, no way at all. And out of respect for my future husband I would never consider inviting my ex. I think it is selfish to want to get involved in their day.
2006-07-04 21:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His family see you there it might make them lose respect for you knowing you are his ex and if they really like their new daughter inlaw or sister inlaw etc... they might make you uncomfortable even though they do like you everyone have their view on what you will decide but don't do it you might be sorry and if I was the bride I would not like it how about you? be honest would you? This is one of the most impportant day in both bride and groom life and you know she does not know it could start a fight or anything becareful some one see you that knows about your pass relationship with him can cause problems especially if some on in her family get word of it you will be in BIG TROUBLE is it worth it? If it is GoodLuck! Ok even if the bride to be is find with it family can feel different about it can cause a explosion and you will wish you never went!
2006-07-04 13:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your judgement- If you don't feel comfortable don't go-chances are she doesn't feel comfortable either but since the bride & groom both want each other to be happy at the wedding-
they'll bend even if they aren't comfortable with it-so if you must go- just go to the church-out of respect and if not send a gift-
Remember- It's just not them-the family might not like it either
2006-07-04 14:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by bugz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were U ,I will consider on the followings:-
1/ How is you fianical situation,as U know that U should pay for your entrance fee,to his party!
2/ What is U interntion go there?
3/ U foresight U will become happiner after got here or not?
4/ Do u have any other relationship with him,ie: church,work,money,if no,and without peace of mind in considering...... I will not choose to get there,by no stand -point,and U,my dear!
GOD BLESS U!
2006-07-04 13:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by russclara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I invited my ex boyfriend to my wedding... even asked him to be an usher. My husband was ok with it, he even likes the guy. Now he lives in the apartment below our house and we hang out together sometimes.
My advice is to ask the bride how she feels about it. She'll appreciate the thought and it may quell any discomfort she had about you if she knows that you care about her feelings.
2006-07-04 14:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On your part:
If its over and your friends still, then go. Support him in his new life, use it as a experance to talk about for ever. Something didn't work out for you two and thats it.
On the brides part:
She surely knows you and the stroy behind your break up. To her it will be an experiance to see how her husbans trust and loyalty will be with in her feelings.
2006-07-04 13:19:54 · answer #9 · answered by tc_an_american 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex-fiancee is okay with it maybe you should ask his bride to be how she feels about it, do it in a letter perhaps that way she doesn't feel pressured to tell you something she doesn't mean. If you feel that it is akward, don't go. Get them a nice gift and wish them all the best, bow out gracefully.
2006-07-04 13:16:18 · answer #10 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋