I have a really good friend who I love alot but I have recently started dating her sisters ex boyfriend who I don't know ( the sister ) should I feel guilty about it or should I just go on with the relationship.. we get along great and love being with him. but I feel like its wrong what should I do before I get too caught up with him ?
2006-07-04 13:01:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Keep dating him. It would be different if he was your friend's ex. If your still not comfortable, ask you friend and see how she feels. It may not bother her at all, and you may be getting worked up over nothing. If it does bother her, at least you'll know.
2006-07-04 13:06:04 · answer #1 · answered by jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you don't know the sister, so as far as I see it, he's fair game. But you've expressed some feelings of guilt. If it's bothering you that much, I suggest talking to your friend and seeing how she feels about the situation. If she thinks dating him is a bad idea because it will hurt her sister, then you should really think about whether he's worth losing your friend over. I know it sucks to have to choose between a guy and your friend, but unfortunately that's how life is. I always try to put myself in other peoples' shoes. If it was your sister and your friend was dating her ex how would you feel...I bet by doing this you'll figure out what you need to do. Good luck!!!
2006-07-04 13:07:53 · answer #2 · answered by ladyrn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weigh it out. A perfect relationship is precious and often hard to find. That goes for all kinds of relationships. In my opinion, the guy may be worth losing the friend over. Anyway, it is not as though you took him away from you friend's sister! Or did you? Just do what your heart AND head tell you to do and lose the guilt! It all works out, and you are not doing anything wrong.
2006-07-04 13:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by Wasabandmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
EX boyfriend means just that. If they aren't together anymore then you are free to jump into relationships. The only men you should never date are ones who've been with your close friends..
If the sister is not with the guy then she should get over it.
You go girl
2006-07-04 13:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't care. Date him? Kill him? Whatever. But ONE THING in your question stood out:
"but I feel like its wrong"
There you go. Your relationship is about your feelings. Doesn't look like this one's off to a great start. Consider taking a break and getting all of those things that are making you feel that way sorted out FIRST. Then get on with being happy with him (and without the baggage).
2006-07-04 13:08:46 · answer #5 · answered by obrian93 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you put yourself into the gene pool, no one will know if you're available or not.
The good friend needs to know that he has not been selected by you. The other is being considered.
You cannot have it both ways, unless you want to keep two or more mates.
Remember, it is your ovaries the men want.
Who would you want to share your ovaries with?
2006-07-04 13:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not like you knew her and are doing it out of spite. You seem to be a really sweet person. She should understand that he needs to move on. Hope everything works out.
2006-07-04 13:06:18 · answer #7 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the sister hasnt said anything to you then dont worry about it, if she has then ask your friend about it. if all else fails, stay in the relationship
2006-07-04 13:08:08 · answer #8 · answered by Bobeebob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh, definitely talk to your friend. you probably want to tell her that you need to know her opinion, and that you don't want to make her sister feel uncomfortable.
2006-07-04 13:14:22 · answer #9 · answered by innabobolina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell your friend while your man maybe using you to get information about his ex.
2006-07-04 13:05:47 · answer #10 · answered by firewall 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋