I have a boyfriend. I love him more than anything. In fact, I am carrying his child. Well, we just got back from a concert today and he wanted to go home, but first he wanted sex. I have no problem with that, but I do have a problem with the fact that he gets all of his stuff and leaves right after that. He doesn't even stay 5 minutes. After sex, he's gone. What should I do? Is that bad? What can I do to get him to stay a little bit after he gets here?
2006-07-04 12:55:47 · 16 answers · asked by Laurissa DLP 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 19; he is 24.
2006-07-04 13:01:26 · update #1
Talking, Talking and Talking...
Nothing will settle things between the two of you unless you talk with him. Discuss things over with him.
And not just regarding this issue! NO! Anything that bothers you, you just have to discuss it with him, that's the best solution. If you can't talk with him in anything then you'll never be able to fix anything that bothers you and everything will be lost.
Don't be afraid, just talk without any tension or yelling or anything.
And see what's his reply towards something that annoys you, specially when it comes to your (Sex) life.
Wishing you all the best of luck dear! :)
2006-07-04 13:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Pinky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright. Sounds to be like he just wants sex, he gets is and sees that his time is done till the next urge.So the key here is commmunication. how long have ya'll been having sex and does he actually do it every time? If so, where does he go afterwards. I know you're having his kid but maybe you need to think twice about what YOU actually mean to him. Try talking to him about it. Tell him hey, i've noticed you leave quickly after sex, why? Can we do something to change that? Tell him how it actually makes you feel. Don't worry about him getting mad, if he does get mad, he obviously isn't trying to see your side of it. If things don't improve either give up the sex, until things improve,or if that makes it worse then just get rid of him. any guy who is like that and won't imporve isn't worth your time.Hope it works out.
2006-07-04 20:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by cc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some man doesn't know women need to be cuddled and kissed after making love. Tell him what you want. If he loves you, he'll make sure he won't hurt your feelings by repeating this mistake again. If he didn't make an effort to make things right for you, you better consider whether he is good enough to be your husband and the father of your child.
2006-07-04 20:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Broke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is bad, you need to tell him that the relationship has to be mutual, and be about more than sex. Because if he runs off after sex, who's to say he wouldn't run off after the child is born :(. You guys need to talk.
2006-07-04 19:57:43 · answer #4 · answered by pieninja 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is totally immature, tell him he needs to do the cuddle and luvin thing besides just the banging, how rude. And you should stop giving it to him until he starts showing you some respect.
2006-07-04 19:59:22 · answer #5 · answered by redneckgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in so easily, make him wait for a while. Or maybe you shouldn't give in each and every time he wants it? If you're not happy tell him to hit the road.
2006-07-04 20:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, when are you gonna open your eyes to the fact, it's not you he wants but, sex !!! You are the last thing on his mind, Sorry !!!!!!
2006-07-04 20:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, many guys are like that, and sometimes they don't know what you want. Tell him you'd really like to cuddle and talk for a while afterwards.
2006-07-04 19:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want him to stay a little bit dont give him a little bit
2006-07-04 19:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you need him to stay... I think you need him to care about you. Caring is staying, staying is not caring. See the difference? Find someone who deserves you babe, he doesn't.
2006-07-06 09:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by sara7980 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋