Is it normal to dream, EVERY NIGHT, of a deceased loved one? (SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY)?

Question

My grandmother just passed away about a week and a half ago, and ever since her funeral last Monday, it never fails that every night I dream about her. It is making me crazy because I was very, VERY close to her, and in almost every dream she is waking up from the coma she was in before she died and is talking. Am I losing my mind?

Answer 1

You are probably missing her very much, and sometimes strange things happen when we loose someone , maybe you feel some kind of guilt, think about it,like maybe you felt you did not get to see her enough, and maybe according to your dreams, she is trying to tell you something, that's why you see her waking from a coma, and she probably does not want to see you suffering. Talk to her and see what happens, in the mean time, sometimes they need prayers, i have found it helped, she would not want her death to hinder your life in anyway. take care, and keep busy, volunteer at a nursing home, ect.......

Answer 2

This is normal. When my mother died I dreamt about her every night and this went on for weeks, but it was not good dreams. I dreamt I was at her funeral and she would sit up and look around the room until she spotted me. I hated going to sleep at night. I talked with a friend of mine and she said she read that if you wrote that person a letter it would help. So I wrote my mother a letter telling her about my dreams and I said that I would love to dream of her but that if I had a choice of dreaming the bad dreams and not dreaming of her I would prefer not to dream of her. Believe it or not the dreams stopped. I still have that letter and its been 11 years now. Try it just might work for you too. Take care.

Answer 3

Please accept my heartfelt condolences on your loss. You must be in so much pain. Almost anything is "normal" this close to the death of a loved one. It will get better, I promise.

If, in a few months, you still feel sad most of the time, or lose interest in stuff that used to be fun - call a psychologist. Do the same if at any point you start to have thoughts about hurting yourself or if the dreams affect your sleep to the point that you have trouble functioning during the daytime.

May God bless your healing, and bring peace to your heart.

Answer 4

Hi,

No you're definitely not losing your mind hun. I have this myself. I was told that when a loved one dies they come to you in a dream to show you their ok, to pass on a message, to talk to you or to just stick around till your moving on with their death.

This could be why you keep dreaming of your Grandmother. When you dream of her tonight, listen to what she is saying and if you can remember, write down details of the dream on a piece of paper. Even speak to your Grandmother like you did when she was alive.

She is still with you ok and she's probably trying to show you that in her own way. I'm very sorry about your loss. :-)

Answer 5

Well, as a phychologist, I would say it is normal for the period that you are experiencing. Most "dreams" of lost ones can stay on forever, or so you think. The "dreams" varies from person to person, and from the degree of afection. In your particular case, it is very normal. And it is also normal that the action repeats itself every night.
Here is a chart to help you:
deceased family memeber: 2 weeks - 8 weeks of frequent dreaming, up to 5 years of occasional dreaming
deceased friend(close): 1 week to 2 weeks, up to a year of occasional dreaming
deceased friend: 0 days - 3 days, up to a week of occasional dreaming
deceased person (unknown, on TV i.e) 0 days (most likely)- 4 days (VERY RARE), up to a week,(very, very rare, but happened before)
etc...
note: if the dreams continue after the max periode, consult medical help.

Answer 6

You are NOT losing your mind. If you feel like you didn't get closure, this can be a way of your mind giving you that closure. It's very normal. Don't let it make you crazy, just look at it as a gift and see what you can learn from your dreams. What we don't deal with in the daytime when we are awake, our minds will deal with at night in our dreams.

Answer 7

No, you're not crazy. When my best friend died in October, I kept having a reoccuring dream of getting the phonecall when I found out he had gotten killed. After a while I accepted his death, and I began to have comforting dreams where he would visit me in the night and we would talk like we used to. Your situation is just too fresh for you to cope, that's all. You should probably talk to somebody and let out your emotions, or else you'll keep it bottled up inside and you'll never be able to forgive yourself. I'm sorry for your loss :(

Answer 8

No, you are not losing your mind and, in fact, what you describe is very normal. Because you & your grandmother were both very close, her spirit is still reaching out to you & trying to communicate. When you have these dreams, talk to her & listen. Maybe what you hear will bring you some comfort & peace. My condolences to you on your loss.

Answer 9

This is normal. I never had a dream about my dad after right after the funeral, but I could feel him around me and weird things would happen. About 6 months after he passed I got a tattoo in his honor. He played craps in Vegas and won money at it. He even had a special way that he would throw his dice. I got a tattoo of dice the same way that he throw it. That night he came to me in my dreams.

Answer 10

No. You are not losing your mind. You were close and her death affected you. Dreams are often a way to work problems and emotionals issue out for ourselves. You will come to terms with it, but it takes time. Usually about six months to accept an idea or concept, it will work itself out. Don't worry about it; it may help to discuss your feelings with someone else who also was close to her.

It is all part of the healing process.