The boy and I were together for only 7 months, but i truly fell in love with him and he also fell hard for me. But prior to that I had been in two relationships, onethat lasted 1 yr and the other that last 2yrs. At first i left as if I rushed into a relationship with him, but it felt so right that it didnt matter. However, 6 months into the relationship I cheated on him with a boy i would hang out with sometimes that lives around my way. He found out through some fake friends. But the point is that its been 2 months since we have broke things off, and i feel as horrible as i did the first day. I've spent these two months depressed, crying and trying to do everything in my power to make him see that im sorry. He is such a great guy but his view of Love and sex are very very sacred and he says that what i did he will never forgive, forget and the images will never let him let go of the grudge he has against me. But i disagree strongly, our love can do it. Wat more can I do?
2006-07-04 12:08:25 · 9 answers · asked by JennyJenJen_uno.dos.tres. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well girl u should give him some time to sort it all out.If it was sacred to him then he'll need to sort his feeling out on the subject but juss try and gradually talk to him and start being his friend again
2006-07-04 12:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This ones tough, I have similar views as this guy about sex and love. My view is "once a cheater,always a cheater." Maybe thats not fair, but thats how I see it. Understand that he feels betrayed and taken advantage of, along with humiliated. I feel for you, I believe you're hurting over this and beating yourself up. It's not what you want to hear, but I say the quickest way to get over it is to live up to what you did, your choice regardless of the reason, live with it. It will be harder now but it will go away quicker. I'm sure some other people will tell you some mushy stuff and get your hopes up. Don't count on it. Hope for the best, but expect the worst. I personally would never be able to forgive a girl that cheated on me, it would just hurt me too much, and to avoid that type of pain again I sure would avoid the cause, if I know what it is. You can keep trying, but you will probably make things harder on yourself if he's not coming around. Don't be too hard on yourself, learn from this, and hopefully things will go your way. I hope you feel better. Good luck.
2006-07-04 12:22:50 · answer #2 · answered by ajm48786 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest leaving it alone, unless you want to make a formal apology and offer an explanation that doesn't blame him or hold him accountable for your actions. Of course, we all make mistakes and I do not care to judge you when you have your regrets. You are being honest here. I am not going to give you any sympathy either. You must deal with this on your own. Don't hate yourself or punish yourself for it. Just learn from it.
If you cheat, usually, you are looking for a way out of an unsatisfactory relationship. The opportunity to get counselling or resolve differences has passed. There was the option of separating for awhile but you went against that for a reason. In that, there lies the problem. What were you looking for from this other guy that you didn't find in yourself or in that relationship. Remember you chose both situations. What do you really want in your own life and in your relationships?
2006-07-04 12:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if he will try forgiving you he will always have some doubts and suspicions about everything . the best thing for you is trying to get over it , if you cheated him once you will do it again , is not love what you feel , is just that you have been rejected . I don't want to sound hard on you but I've been trough this more then once . Take care
2006-07-04 12:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by Free B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lost trust is virtually impossible to regain. If he had cheated on you, you would be touting him as the scum of the earth to all of your girlfriends.
You will have to snap out of your depression. Accept that you screwed up, and move on. Even if you could get him back, it would never be the same again. It is broken and all the super glue in the world is not going to put it "new" again.
2006-07-04 12:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is demanding to assert why he cheated. some human beings cheat purely to cheat-because they prefer the excitement that it brings them. some human beings cheat because as a lot as they take care of the different individual they experience like there is something lacking in that courting. in case you want closure you could ask him. to no matter if he will cheat on her? It relies upon on why he cheated on you contained in the first position. i'm certain part of him did and probably nevertheless does take care of you yet unlike how he cares for her.
2016-11-30 07:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by leija 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheated on him which neccesarily makes him feel likes he's been betreyed by his lover and friend. To regain the relationship try to earn his trust back and show him how much you appreciate and love him. Also show him that he's a man and that what you did was wrong unforgiveable only if he does it alone.
2006-07-04 12:16:42 · answer #7 · answered by Peache264 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, you screwed up and he wants no part of you. Do you blame him??? He trusted you and you slepted with another guy. You created this mess and there's no way out. I hope you've learned your lesson. What would you do if the situation was reversed ???
2006-07-04 12:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe sorry you messed up its hard for a man to love and you messed up he put his foot down and hes done with you no if ands or buts
2006-07-04 12:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by C I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋