Anyone else not like to be touched but also feel like you need human contact sometimes?

Question

It's weird though because a lot of times I'll feel like I really want a hug, but then at the same time I don't want anyone to touch me. Anyone else ever feel like that?

Answer 1

The theory is that touch is not only nice. It's needed! Scientific research supports the theory that stimulation by touch is absolutely necessary for our physical as well as our emotional well-being.

Therapeutic touch, recognized as an essential tool for healing, is now part of nurses' training in several large medical centers. Touch is used to help relieve pain and depression and anxiety, to bolster a patient's will to live, and to help premature babies who have been deprived of touch in their incubator to grow and thrive.

Results of Scientific Experiments

Various experiments have shown that touch can:

- make us feel better about ourselves and our surroundings
- have a positive effect in a child's development and IQ
- cause measurable physiological changes in the touchers and the touched

We are just beginning to understand the power of touch. While there are many forms of touching, we propose that hugging is a very special therapeutic touch that contributes in a major way to healing and health.

The Power of Hugging

Hugging accomplishes many things that you may never have thought of. It ...


- feels good
- dispels loneliness
- overcomes fear
- opens doors to feelings
- builds self-esteem (WOW, SHE actually wants to hug me!)
- fosters altruism (I can't believe it but I actually want to hug that old son-of-a-gun)
- slows down aging (huggers stay young longer)
- helps curb appetite (we eat less when we are nourished by hugs and when our arms are busy wrapped around others)
- More Good Things from Hugging
- eases tension
- fights insomnia
- keeps arms and shoulder muscles in condition
- provides stretching exercise if you are short
- provides stooping exercise if you are tall
- offers a wholesome alternative to promiscuity
- offers a healthy, safe alternative to alcohol and other drug abuse (better hugs than drugs!)
- affirms physical being
- is democratic (anyone is eligible for a hug)

Even More Benefits from Hugging

- is ecologically sound (it does not upset the environment)
- is energy-efficient (saves heat)
- is portable
- requires no special equipment
- demands no special setting (a fine place for a hug is any place from a doorstep to an executive conference room ... from a church parlor to a football field)
- makes happy days happier
- imparts feelings of belonging
- fills up empty places in our lives
- keeps on working to dispense benefits even after the hug is released

Answer 2

Yes. I am very weird about human contact. I don't want anyone touching me. But when I'm really sad, I don't want anything but somebody to hold me while I cry. I want someone to hug me. I want to go to someone and hug them and cry. But I don't. It's a normal thing for some people. It will get better, it just takes time. Maybe you'll always have that feeling forever, but it won't be as strong. Time may heal all wounds, but the scars are still there.

Answer 3

Generally I don't like to be touched in anyway and go out of my way to avoid it, but of recent I've started to crave it for some reason. Nothing special, just a hug or a cuddle would do, but unfortunately I've made such an effort at pushing people away I doubt I will get that.
Back to the point though I guess you just can't deny yourself something which as a human being you naturally crave.

Answer 4

You're perfectly normal. Some people don't like human contact too much. I for one can't stand touching with other persons, even if they are boys or girls (I'm a boy), it's a trust issue. If I grow fond of a girl I start accepting her in my inner circle and don't get awkward. It's just the way you've got used beeing around other people. Take wh0res for example..they don't give a $hit that men or other wh0res touch them.. perhaps you have cleanlyness issues..somethimes I hate touching some people because they are not clean, have bad skin condition or any stuff like that. I never drink from a bottle that another person drank also..except I know him/her very well and I know she doesn't carry any disease I could get. it's a trust thing...you, me and others just don't feel comfortable around other people when it comes to touching. and yes..somethimes I just wanna hug somebody...friendly hug ..so here's a hug from me to you ;)

Answer 5

Hi.

I'm really sorry to hear that. Iv recently been suffering from depression, and the last few weeks I have been the same as you. Everytime someone touches me i flinch and I dont know why. I dont want people to come into my room or sometimes even talk to me at all. But then sometimes I just give someone a huge hug coz i feel i need it. Do you have that? ([e-mail] might be good to talk)

Answer 6

I hate being touched. Even if someone tries to hug me or something, I pull away. I only like touching people myself occasionally and I feel good when I do so, but I can't stand others touching me. However, there are times that I wish there was someone to hold me, but when there actually is someone, I won't let him touch me long. This sounds crazy but I like being with people that don't talk to me much and don't touch me. And I don't like telling them much about myself either...I feel like my privacy would be in danger. There are times, though, that I would like them to know what I've been through and what I've suffered in my life so far, but I feel like they wouldn't even care so I don't.

Answer 7

Absolutely, all the time. I've never liked much human contact, apparently even as a baby I didn't like it according to my mum. And I hate it most of the time now, I'm just not a touchy feely person...........but sometimes I just need a big hug, or to spend the night cuddled up to someone. So you're not alone..........

Answer 8

Yes, I understand. As a child, I was sexually & physically abused, so I grew up despising touch. I interpreted "touch" to equal "pain". It was only when I went to a weekend seminar that I discovered that love, sex & intimacy are 3 very different things. I was confusing my needs, & as a result, I have love deficits. I would encourage you to either seek out a good therapist, or find a healthy, trustworthy friend you can turn to when you need some positive touch.

Answer 9

Get into boxing. If you don't like to be hit, you learn to dodge really fast, and you really want a hug, you can always clinch. Of course it's gonna have to be a sweaty hug, which might put you back into the not wanting to be touched mood again.

Answer 10

You could either be in a bad mood or you may have different stages in awareness taking place such that a touch or contact from someone will change it, and this may not be desired.

All relatively normal stuff.

Nothing related to an 'illness' of any kind.