Stillborn baby?

Question

Hi, I had a stillborn baby a little over a year ago and I am finally getting back on track but the one thought that has not left is how bad I want a child but I am so scared to get pregnant again because I couldn't imagine living this nightmare all over again. There were no reasons found as to why my little girl died, So i was really left hanging. I know they say I will be watched really closely but what if they see something how would they save that childs life? does anyone know the likely hood of having another stillborn? It was my first pregnancy and I am hoping that I kinda find some very usefull info so it wasn't my last. Anything anyone knows about stillborn babies or mothers that delivered one their first pregnancy and had a healthy baby there second pregnancy. Please help

I forgot to say, I was at everyone of my appointments, did everything a pregnant women should do and it was only a week after my last doctors appt that my baby died. just after I heard her heart beating :(

Answer 1

Everything happens for a reason, I know that is easy to say and hard to believe, but there was a reason why God wanted the baby. I am not a wild religious person. But that is one thing I believe in. Just take it one day at a time and I am sure in due time you will give birth to a beautiful, baby don't rush it though. Just focus on you alittle more. I work in pediatrics and alot of mother has miscarrigaes and still born and they keep rushing to try and have kids instead of waiting letting their body recuperate they end up having a baby with alot of health problems. You have waiting a while though. So like I said lay your mind at ease and one day you will have that blessing of a child.

Answer 2

That's so sad. I would think the likelihood of having a second stillborn baby would be pretty slim. My mom gave birth to a stillborn baby her second pregnancy. She went on to have two more healthy births. The doctors told her the baby she was carrying had a heart abnormality and possibly that's why she died. My mom was on the pill when she got pregnant and believes that's why the baby didn't make it, maybe the hormones were too much or something. I'm sure your doctor would be very informed about this and would help you monitor your health and the baby's health thru your second pregnancy. If there was no underlying cause to the stillbirth, it was probably just "one of those things" and you'll have success your next go around. Good luck!

Answer 3

Try and be confident in your doctor's checking up on you, and supporting your next pregnancy. Some of the people who posted have shared some brilliant stories to prove you're not alone, and that there is hope. :)


I'll also deliver some of the daunting info, but don't let it put you off. What they can do if there's a problem the second time around will probably the depend on how far along you are. If you are around 4 months or less and the baby dies, it might call for being surgically removed. But if something arises after 6 months, your baby can be delivered in an emergency because it's proven babies can live outside of the womb after that long. :)

Don't worry, I'm sure you'll be fine. Best wishes! <3

Answer 4

I am so sorry that you had to experience such an unfortunate experience. I know of many people who also had this experience and went on to have healthy children. One situation comes to mind that was unusual. In this case the mother had a baby, but he was born without a bile duct. She was told that the baby would not live long. As it turned out, the baby survived to the age of 3 years. It must have been a very challenging time for her. After a year she and her husband tried to have another child and she was unable to get pregnant. They decided to adopt a child. Right after the adoption took place, she became pregnant and had twins. Last week, this woman became a grandmother by the child she adopted. In summary, it's best to move on and hope for the best. Gather the facts if it makes you feel better, but keep in mind that often we are not able to see the whole picture as to why something so unfortunate had to be--we just keep going anyway.

Answer 5

I know a girl who had twins stillborn and about 2 years later had a healthy boy and is pregnant again. And someone who had a stillborn after having two healthy babies and hasn't tried again.She carries around his picture in her wallet still 7 years later.I have a daughter who is 16 months old and I could not imagine how losing her would feel.

Answer 6

1 in 3 women will have a stillborn, ur not alone. Dont panic, the doctors will be able to monitor ur child especially close since u had a stillborn. But the chance of u having another stillborn is fairly low, my mother had a stillborn and then went on to have two other children, things should be fine for u as well.

Answer 7

My friend had an *extremely* difficult pregnancy with her first son, who is 5. She was on bed rest for 6 months because he wouldn't grow. He'd grow, stop, grow, stop .. it wasn't consistent like it should be. In fact, when she finally gave birth, she herself almost died. She just had another baby a few months ago. Mom and baby are just fine, and so is the first son.

When the time is right, when you know you are ready, go ahead and try again. They will have you listed as high risk, and you will be going in a LOT more than usual, but it's worth it.

Best wishes, and I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

I personally havent went through that, but my cousin did. Her first pregnancy ended with a stillbirth. She has 3 kids now who are ages 9-14. All of them were healthy. I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I miscarried with my first pregnancy but I was only 2 months along. That was hard and I could just imagine what you are going through. I'm sure your other children will be perfect, beautiful, healthy babies. Good luck.

Answer 9

I have a friend who delivered stillborn twins. She went thru the hell ur describing. She wanted children but was, understandably, scared to try again. I am happy to tell you, she & her husband tried again & the child is fine. I don't have any medical knowledge. I just wanted you to know it doesn't mean it will happen every time. Don't be scared, there is hope.

Answer 10

first off as a christian u have my condolences for the loss of ur daughter. if u r afraid of getting pregnant again go to ur doctor and ask him. also try researching it on the internet. however i belive the chances of u having another stillborn r maybe a 20% chance. it could be the reason u lost ur daughter is because ur body can't handle the fetus. again plzzz go c ur doctor and ur doctor will do a through examination on u.