I went back to school @ the age of 32, I feel like I'm wasting my life away. I've got no life, no kids, no girlfriend, I've got a part-time job. I don't know where my life is going. I feel like the only control I have is Suicide. I'm taking classes but I can't concentrate on reading and applying myself like I should. I'm so depressed all the time, I used to be very active, but eversince I got fired in '02 I've lost my zest for life. I'm not as motivated as I used to be. I gained all this weight, I go to bed late, 3, 4AM and wake up late, noon, 2pm. Sometimes I don't feel like getting up at all. I've pondered many ways of taking myself out. I have a gun. I've thought of connecting the garden hose to the muffler and put it in the car and let it run. I think it's a cleaner death than blowing my head off while laying in the bed. Carbondioxyde is much easier. Sometimes I want to live forever!!! I've gone to one of those free drepression clinics for help, they think I'm wasting their time.
2006-07-04 11:01:52 · 52 answers · asked by Roy R 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
listen.
there's at least one reason for you being depressed. i guess you broke up with a girlfriend or something a few years ago? got fired? whatever.
A) change your time schedule. you are in a vicious cycle. sleep early (23-23:30) and wake up early (7:00-7:30) this is VERY important. do it and you will remember me when you wake up at 7:00.
B) gradually change your diet. do not eat meat, milk, become a vegan. raw fruit, vegetables etc. have great variety. try to find only things that have not been sprayed with chemicals or animal poisons. and avoid excessive drinking. every now and then have some thing. you know you can set the rules. you will start understanding your body.
C) reset your thoughts. you know it and i know it there is no reason to do something that would only cause pain. besides it is a cowards action. and you asking this question shows you are not a coward.
D)after you start organizing your thoughts, start asking yourself. do you know how many mentally unbalanced people are there out in the world? plenty. start watching people. start asking questions. where are we going? why? do you like the world? can it be better? is there something we can do?why all these wars? drugs? people going mad? people killing themselves? do you want to live in a better world?answering these you will see there is a good reason for strange vegan diet, for less violence, for more action, for love.
E) make a plan. set a target in your life. define a purpose. face the question bravely. WHY do you live? after you decide on that, there is really nothing to stop you. it doesn't matter much if you are not reach, if you are not married, or if you are not going to. what matters is that you are one of the 6000000000. you may not be that special, but you are unique. do not waste this, it is not an act of love not for you, neither for the rest 5999999999
F)you may laugh or think i am gone (because it is not in fashion nowadays), but when in a hard time, read the bible.it is by far the most interesting book i ever read. and it has nothing to do with religions what i am saying.
G)never give up
H)START
2006-07-04 11:36:43 · answer #1 · answered by unknown u 3 · 10⤊ 1⤋
First of all you are still young. Maybe your life has no direction as of this minute but that can all change - it is up to you. Never commit suicide - it is a cowards way and you are giving up without a fight. Going to school is an awesome achievement - it doesn't matter how old you are when you go back. You should feel a sense of pride each time you attend classes. You have apart time job, but I bet that allows you to go back to school - so that is a good thing. No girlfriend...no girl is going to like you if you don't have self esteem. You can have confidence if you stop calling yourself a loser. Are you shy? Start out with an on line dating service to meet someone. No kids? Well, there is still sooo much time for that. You are looking at all these things at the same time and you are becoming overwhelmed. When someone becomes overwhelmed they freeze and feel life is hopeless. You must concentrate on one goal at a time and everything else will fall into place. Life is not hopeless and neither are you. Make yourself get up out of that bed every morning, put on your clothes, tie your shoes and face life head on. Always push forward and don't give up on yourself. You may not believe in God, why don't you put your faith in Him anyway. What have you got to lose? Pray for help and guidance.
2006-07-04 11:12:59 · answer #2 · answered by Dee J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, carbon dioxide will not kill you. It is carbon monoxide. And I'll stop correcting you `cause I'm being a jerk.
Anyway, don't kill yourself. You're only 35 and there's a long way to go. You won't know how life is until you get through school, meet some people, and just start to enjoy life. I mean, I probably won't have a say in this because I'm not even half your age, but you can't give up. Don't let the past linger around you and continue to aim high for your future.
Life isn't wasted until you blow it off to suicidal attempts. Chin up, you can do it. Sometimes all you need is a little motivation. Make some close friends and I know your life will turn around from there.
2006-07-04 11:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by tingaling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your a looser, then I am too. I'm going through the same exact thing your going through...however I have not thought about suicide as detailed as you have. BUT....you are doing better then I am....you have a job even though it's part-time (I'm having a hard time even getting any job) and they other thing is that your going back to college which takes alot of guts!!! I know if I went back to college I would not be able to think and concentrate either so why would I bother? If I start reading a book, I start thinking of a song I heard on the radio or an old memory! Maybe really I'm the bigger looser then you!
I have been told that I'm depressed because they actually see me giving up. I have/had a friend who had tried constantly to get me to go out...I will not leave my house! And as much as a friend she was, I guess she gave up on me...I haven't heard from her in 3 months. But you know what, I don't care?
Your not as bad off as you think, but I guess that really depends on how you feel about relationships which I see people fighting all the time and sometimes I see happy couples which makes me want to stay in the house more. I do have one teen, and it's real hard raising on your own..
There are a lot of things I miss with not being in a relationship, one of which is a simple hug or kiss on the cheek. But I think to myself, you can't miss what you don't have....right?
You are trying to make a difference for yourself and that is a good start!!! And you have to remember this....don't worry about not having a relationship or kids right now...you will not be in the right state of mind until you get the suicide thoughts out of your head...it will lead into a disruptive relationship. Make new friends, and I would not mind at all to keep in contact with you....I could use new friends too!
Hey and you know what...for those free depression clinics to say that you are wasting their time?.....Well, they are wasting yours!
You "ARE" going to do great and achieve your goals!!!
By the way, what are courses are you taking in college? Are you going for a career change?
No one ever really knows what direction their life is going to go or end up....but I can see your trying and on the right path. And I know this will be hard at first, but try to think positive and positive things will happen! (hugs)
2006-07-04 11:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by sharebear1967 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation, except 24. I don't think many of these people understand exactly what you're talking about, because they brush it aside like it's no big deal and you should just get out and enjoy life. People out there, it's not nearly that easy. When you're like me and get rejected by every, and I mean EVERY girl you've ever asked out, when your own family treats you like you're some special case that needs to be treated differently because you have problems being confident and sociable...it's not entirely easy to just "get out" and fix it all. Meds, psychiatrists, all that bolony...can only do so much. And all that talk of "how lucky you are to be free and do whatever you want" well let me ask you this? How fun is it to do all that stuff alone, with nobody to share it with that really cares deeply about you? I wouldn't care if I was on the most beautiful tropical island in the world with a margarita in hand, if I didn't have someone to share it with it would only make me more depressed.
Bottom line, I hear ya man. I know exactly what you're going through. I'm having the same troubles. And as far as advice, I can't really help, unfortunately, but I will say that you should find something, anything, that involves people and that you would find fun, and go do it.
2006-07-04 11:17:47 · answer #5 · answered by someguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Before you go and end it all you need to stop thinking of only yourself and start thinking of others. What would your family think? Why would you want to put the ones you love the most through the hell of losing you? As a person who has lost many loved ones, it is hard to deal with. If my brother went out and did what you are considering, and put me through that hell, when I didn't have to go through it, I would be pissed.
You are not a loser.
Go and get a real job. Open a bank account and start saving money. If you want a future you have to invest in it.
Start working out. If you used to be active, you should know how to get started. You don't need to join a gym or anything, just start walking to lose the weight that you gained.
Go to bed at a normal time and wake up early. You have no energy for anything because you don't get the rest you need.
If you want your life to be better you have to work for it. It will not be handed to you on a silver platter.
I am not trying to be mean, but you have to realize that you are the one bringing yourself down. So you lost your job, everyone loses a job. Quit crying about the past and start looking towards your future. 35 IS NOT OLD.
If you really want to talk you can email me at kristycampos4@yahoo.com
I will talk to you.
Now smile, your life isn't over. It has just begun!!!
2006-07-04 11:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kristy C 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are a loser, yes you've wasted your life so far, but it doesnt have to end that way. First off, its not a mid-life crisis because you dont have one. You need to seek professional help so that you can get over whatever it is that is depressing you, so that you can then concentrate on you school work, go out and find exciting things to do. Meet people, seek out women. Dont wait for a girl to just fall into your lap at your age. If you dont take risks and do what you really wanna do, 15 or 20 years from now... you will look back and be 100% you've wasted your entire life and that there's nothing you can do to fix it. Right now you still have time to enjoy it. Grow as a human being and follow your desires in life. Dont be afraid to take risks and good luck, remember, No Balls... No Babies!!
2006-07-04 11:09:30 · answer #7 · answered by ll_Zodiaco.Piton_ll 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey buddy, relax. Everything will come when it's ready. First off, you gotta feel good about yourself. What's the easiest way? Lose some weight in a positive way. Ok, buy some metabolism pills right? Take one and walk for 45-90 minutes every morning before you eat anything, and take a coffee. My roommate did this and lost 20 pounds in a month. It works totally. So then, spoil yourself a little. Buy things for yourself that you really like, not talking playstation, that's a drug. But something constructive. Like new expensive sunglasses, new fancy watch, new clothes, new shoes, new anything. Just do some **** for yourself. Then when you start spending money on yourself, I promise you, you'll feel like you're worth more. Stop wondering if you're a loser. A loser is only a loser if he wonders if he is a loser. Get it? Have you seen that absolute dork on the dance floor getting rejected by all the ladies and still having a good time? To you he's a loser, but to himself.. man he's just gotta try harder next time. So snap out of that crap. Who cares if you go to bed late, GEEZ! come on man. And yeah Killing yourself would be easier than going through what you have to go through, I know the feeling, but it's sooo lame. I mean, you had a life before. Who cares if you were fired. Listen to me man, you must separate needs from wants. You've got these emotional attachments to things you don't have, and you feel less of a person for it. But you don't really NEED anything, you WANT it, but you can live without it. Whatever it is, success, a family, kids.. you don't need the ****. You just want it. k? Once you get that sorted, you won't feel like killing yourself for not having it. Go for walks every morning though, I've started it too. Just to see the world. I feel great, I have a nice tan, And I'm up everyday doing something positive that isn't that hard. So next time you feel like killing yourself, look in the mirror and say, why am I thinking this? And dude, take a vacation. Do it for yourself.
2006-07-04 11:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree that this should have been discussed early on (unless it was and perhaps she has changed her mind). I made a point to express my desire to have a childfree life to my boyfriend once our relationship started becoming serious. You should talk to her about it again. But not in a "I don't want kids ever and that's that" way. Try sitting her down and and asking her seriously whether she can be happy and satisfied with living her life with you (whether or not children are included). If she can't be happy and satisfied with your love then it may not work out. Also, if you give in to her desires to procreate (and you do not want to yourself) the relationship will likely fail due to your resentment and eachothers stress. 25 is still quite young and I understand your desire to travel, experience new cultures, or whatever you wish. It is not selfish to not want to have children (they don't even exist). However you do need to discuss this with your wife and I wish you best of luck.
2016-03-27 03:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by Loretta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I really don't know what to say. Do you have any family that you can talk to? Are you a praying man? Why have you waited so long in life to try to get things together? You are suffering from major depression and should be on some kind of medication. I mean it's not too late but it's going to take some time to get back on track. You need to discipline yourself. Go on a diet, exercise, get to bed early and wake up early (I hate a wasted day). Don't dwell on your job loss, keep going to school and when you get yourself back in the right place, you would be surprised to find out that women will be more receptive to you. Hang in there dude.
2006-07-04 11:09:23 · answer #10 · answered by Michael F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋