I split from my fiance almost 2 yrs ago after a 5 yr relationship and the day it ended he just blatently said it was over and ok, ours wasn't the best relationship but we were ok, then he gets together on and off with a new gf and still txts and calls me to see him - sometimes, I go but always get upset afterwards because I know we wont get bk 2gether but I always dream about him and I really miss him, after 2 yrs it still really hurts.
2006-07-04 10:56:56 · 20 answers · asked by minxgiggles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a guy in an almost identical position to you (with a woman - same timescale). It seems almost all the other answers I read tell you to either 100% love-him-or-leave-him, based on their own opinions...? I don't think it's that simple. Firstly, I'll mention that guys sometimes can get more attached to relationships than the girls (unlike what one answer said), and I think it really just comes down to each person's priorities (and compatibility thereof), regardless of gender. Just ask yourself *what* you want, rather than only *who* you want... if every time you meet him you start wondering "what if", then - if you really know you'll never "be" together - then recognise that you're punishing yourself... If you are just treading water, and you feel that you can handle meeting him sometimes (especially if it temporarily kills the loneliness), why not? (but you must be ruthlessly honest to yourself on that one...). Just remember though, that all that stuff is details. The biggest thing is to consider the truism that "You can only really be happy when you're not too busy trying to find it". If you're still dreaming about him after 2 years, then it's probably a sign you might benefit from trying the most disciplined approach - try to just be "single" .. really .. those brief moments when you can look yourself in the mirror and say "yeah, I could be with someone - including Him/Her - but I choose not to" is actually quite strengthening (regardless of your gender). Then when you've cleared enough head&heart-space, company will find you (and you won't be so worried what name it has).
2006-07-04 11:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by wombatmonster 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your a girl and he is a guy,I'm a guy two so don't get me wrong...not all guys are like this its understandable why you are still not over him,5yrs ain't no joke...but girls get more attached than guys in relationships so maybe he doesn't feel the same way about you and if you get back together he may be just using you because you are hung over him.My advice is you should tell him how you feel that way you wont say should have after a few months or years...if he wants to be Friend's then ask for a little time away from him so you can have space to heal...then move on to the next best thing!
2006-07-04 18:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by mtwuzi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always gonna hurt, it's called the "1 that got away syndrome".
Best 2 look at it like that, stop dangling the carrot under your nose & hurting yourself 4 a man who can't commit.
U deserve better than this. Ignore the phone, it'll B hard but U need him 2 commit or let U go completely, do U think it'd B worth asking him?
2006-07-04 18:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience you need to cut all ties from this man he wants to have his cake and eat it it will do you no good to carry on seeing him you need to delete his number and ignore his txts this will be hard at first believe me i no but in the long run you will feel so much better about yourself and about the break up it bin 2 years but because he still keeping in touch with you he letting you believe that maybe there is hope but trust me there isnt if you ignore him you will be able to move on and emaybe meet someone new who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated giv him a taste of his own medicine and let him see what he missin no man has the right to make you feel like this i hope it works out for you and you find happines with someone other than him
2006-07-04 18:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by heldav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just leave him and do not contact him at all. even if he calls you and ask u to come and see him, make some excuse and do not go to him. if he has some true feelings for you, he will miss you for sure and will come back one day. if u kept going like this, seeing him, u ll destroy yourself. you will never get rid of him, his thoughts.
he should not call you at first place. but if he is doing so then either he is anaware of your feelings or may be he is playing with your feelings. in either cases you should cut off all the contacts with him. otherwise you ll make your life miserable.
2006-07-05 03:10:25 · answer #5 · answered by maham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him, it might hurt but your hoping for something that probably will never happen, like getting back together! He sounds like a total tit anyway! Move on. Yes its hard I know whats its like to love someone and miss them but just stay away, its for the best. I lost someone that I loved so much that I would have died for her but that person betrayed me and had an affair behind my back for a long time and it nearly destroyed me! I tried every thing I could to get her back but I know that she didn't love me and theirs nothing I can do! So I moved on I have seen her twice in six months with the guy and I know that I can do better! trust me, I know you miss him but stay away and move on, its for the best!
2006-07-04 18:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by filmstu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are only jerks because women let them be lol. i dont mean to laugh but ive read this question many times. get over him! i even bet the moment he sees you have he would want you back. next time he calls say your going on date sorry but you MIGHT give him a call later. that will wake him up. if he asks how the date went say mind your business. dont take him back though hes using you.
2006-07-05 02:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by frostyg02uk 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 15 and i dnt know this but here we go. what i would do is to meet wth him sometimes and talk about something fun like footy also when you two talk about ur past try not to talk about the darkness of ur relationship becuase most of us guys dnt actually want to talk about that and try to flirt at him a little bit like eye contact cute smile and also put some physical contact coz mst guys can be easily carried away if u do that
2006-07-04 18:10:36 · answer #8 · answered by ken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might sound harsh but I would say Forget him.If he is seeing other girls why arent you meeting other men?He said 'it was over' remember?May be You need to improve your self esteem and know that you deserve better.Why answer his texts or calls?Ignore him completely.Cant you see he is just using you to fill up the blanks? Once you improve your self image and become confident, everything would be O.K.You need to look forward,not back!
2006-07-04 20:37:10 · answer #9 · answered by palmreader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years is way too long to have wasted on this dead relationship. It's over -- he knows it (but keeps you around for egoboo, most likely), you probably know it, your friends and family definitely know it. Move on, and save that love for someone who loves you back.
2006-07-04 18:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋