he takes speech therapy and OT therapy at school since he was 3 years old. he just started talking about a year ago and he want to eat at the same things every day, he get very upset when things don't go as planned. he cries way to much
he is not spoilt he has a hard time with change and certain routines such as bathing, brushing teeth etc....
2006-07-04 10:50:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
This definitely sounds like he may have high-functioning autism. You may want to do some research on this type of autism. You should also talk with his school about this.
2006-07-04 10:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have a hard time with bathing and brushing teeth because these are activities that he may be ultra-sensitive to. If that is the problem you may be able to pinpoint exactly what the problem is. Like will he brush his own teeth rather than you doing it, or vice versa? Are some teeth more sensitive than others? You can try things like making a game out of it. My daughter laughs when I pretend her teeth are talking to me asking to be brushed, and eventually lets me, even briefly.
Bathing does not have to be done daily and there is even shampoo you can order to use without wetting the hair. Ask your OT about this. Use a washcloth to keep him clean on other days. Does he have any fear about the tub, not like the bath itself, or not like stopping what he is doing?
As far as changes go, many autistic children and other children struggle with this. Try to minimize changes in routine, when you can, and give plenty of warning when it is time to change. Like say 10 more minutes, 5 more minutes, 1 more minute, count to 10, then you are done, etc. Or you can use more concrete examples, like when this tv show is over, when this book is done, when we put 4 more blocks on the tower, etc.
Do you have a diagnosis of autism, because that is what this sounds like. You might want to research this and also sensory integration.
2006-07-04 11:04:28 · answer #2 · answered by mountainmom1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds a little like my 7yo son who was very like that at his age
at age 4 he was diagnosed with aspergers syndrome - which sounds very 'final' but many aspergers kids are actually very intelligent with fantastic memories. The downside is that they do need a routine that they can rely on to help 'structure' their day to day lives.
my son was also in speech therapy when he was 3 and then surprised me at age 4 with a complex sentence out of the blue which he intiated!
the hardest times with kids who are on the autistic spectrum tends to be under the age of 6 after that they tend to be able to learn how to cope with some degree of unexpected events without having tantrums.
I think for now if your son wants the same foods every meal then to try and accomodate that for a while - then introduce subtle changes SLOWLY AND FIRMLY. that shows him that intially you are accepting his requests for a routine he can count on and when he is comfortable with that the subtle changes then help to enlarge his experiences of life. He will appear resistant at first to that but persist gently and firmly until he learns to accept those small changes without anxiety. When he gets to this stage you can then introduce more changes in a similar way.
I did this with my son - and he is now at the point where he is only slightly affected by aspergers and has learnt a lot of coping strategies for dealing with the unexpected.
also - did you know that the richest man in the world - bill gates - has aspergers too?
2006-07-04 13:48:09 · answer #3 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is mildly autistic, and he has the very same problem. Everything has to go in a specific order or his day is ruined.
For your little one, I suggest doing the changes daily until it becomes routine.
2006-07-04 10:53:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
does your child have autism? children with autism really have a hard time dealing or coping with changes and with transition since they want things to be in order and are used to routines.
2006-07-06 04:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by ayna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first when he begins to messes up with he speech slow him down and say word
the changes just make it seem fun for him like a sticker chart. you know like a chor calender make a race and stuff
2006-07-04 10:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by NiNi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a schedual and stick 2 it,he will get used 2 it and be happier 2.
2006-07-04 11:20:38 · answer #7 · answered by Juggalo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like asperger to i have a 7 year old boy with asperger and its not going to be easy but you will be ok
2006-07-04 14:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by weeksfamilyof4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask a professional about this.
2006-07-04 10:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by Aloofly Goofy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋