My 13 yr old daughter wants to have a boyfriend?? Is she too young? \?

Question

If I say no will she do it behind my back anyway>>>????

Answer 1

You answered your own question.

You need to imply to your daughter, that there are consequences to her actions. ONE WAY OF DOING THAT IS SCARING THE CRAP OUT OF HERE!

Allow here to date, but make sure you inform her that she is accountable for her actions before hand.You can do that by taking her down to the health department or getting a STD survivor to talk to her about it. You also might want to find some young women living with teen pregnancy .

Show her these situations and explain to her that it could happen to anyone. That before she participate in sexual activities she need to think about it.

By allowing her to date you can monitor her relationship and see if it healthy, if she goes behind your back. You have shut the door of communication and it is going to be hard to force it open in the future.

Answer 2

It depends on the context of the word boyfriend. I don't think boys and girls at the age of 13 should be doing anything sexual, beyond kissing. If your daughter wants a boyfriend to go to movies and school dances with, I don't see a problem with that.

Of course, there's no way for you to know what your daughter's doing with her boyfriend when you're not around. Which is why it's important for you to have a discussion with her about the boundaries of her relationship. Don't just slap down rules and tell her she's to follow them or else. Have an intelligent, mature discussion with her about why someone so young shouldn't be sexually active—help her to understand, instead of expecting her to blindly do what you say. Explain how their bodies aren't fully developed yet. Explain the dangers of STDs and pregnancy, and how no amount of precaution is ever foolproof. Also explain the emotional dangers, how being physical with a person creates a strong emotional bond, and how those emotional bonds are so easily broken because relationships don't last long at that age. Explain that all aspects of sex (not just intercourse) will be a thousand times better when she's older and wiser and can really appreciate it—and also that it's a thousand times better when it's with someone she truly cares for and who truly cares for her beyond the stretch of a weeks-long middle school relationship.

After all that, you should also teach her about safe sex, because there's always the possibility that she'll make a bad decision, perhaps not now, but eventually. I think the biggest mistake that parents make is to just tell their kids not to have sex—because more often than not, they'll have sex anyway, but they won't be educated about it and can end up in terrible situations. It's the parents' job to protect their kids, and the only way to do that is to educate them! Teach her about condoms, spermicide, and birth control. Tell her that even manual and oral sex can spread STDs and she should practice that safely as well. And tell her that when the time comes that she feels ready to have sex, you will help her get a prescription for birth control (again, it's more dangerous for you to demand she not have sex and ignore the possibility that she will anyway, than it is for you to accept the fact and help her be prepared).

If you say no, she may or may not go behind your back and do it anyway, depending on the way you handle it. Give her some allowances—like she can spend time with him but only at your house while you're home, or she can kiss him but nothing further. If you bend a little, she'll be much less motivated to break the rules you do set down.

Answer 3

Yes she is too young to have a real boyfriend! If she tries to do this behind your back, don't let her leave the house without you! You are the Momma and you must take charge. Remember, you are doing this out of love no matter how upset she gets. I never had a daughter, but if I would have, she would never get away with that!

Answer 4

well yes she is too young to have a serious boyfriend but if you tell her no she most likely will do it anyway so whats the harm in letting her have one. Of course you should regulate what they do together to make sure that they don't get too serious but let her have some fun she might learn something.

Answer 5

It depends on your definition of a boyfriend. If you mean a male friend to hang around and go to the movies or something like that, then she probably isn't to young. She would need to be monitored. And not spend all her time with him.

Answer 6

You should just remind her that she has her entire lifetime to have a boyfriend. I mean would it even be a relationship considing she is only 13. Maybe you should just explain to her about how you would feel if she did. Don't just tell her no with no explaination. I hate when my parents tell me that I can't do something but they give no reason why.

Answer 7

yeah i went out when i was 13 i lost my virginity when i was 14 i wish i wasn't so young but if you don't sit down and talk to her bad things are going to happen. be a parent and protect your daughter

Answer 8

no she is not to young to have a boyfriend. and yes mostlikely she will do it behind your back, depends on how lolal she is...

Answer 9

Way too young, even if they wern't to do anything physical.

Answer 10

no just let her experiment talk to her about it tell her that it can't go further than hugging she will never hate you for it and that way you to can have mother daughter talks!!!!!!!!!!