I talk to my ex's on the net sometimes and we keep it chat friendly. Is that wrong to do so?? When i have a bf right now?
2006-07-04 09:43:41 · 33 answers · asked by nacchick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no i think it's alright as long as you talk as friends.
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2006-07-04 09:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Jessica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You ARE entitled to have friends aren't you? Who says your friends all have to be women?
NO it is not wrong to talk to your ex even if you have a new bf as long as you aren't trying to rekindle something.
If your bf is upset, you need to reassure him that you have zero interest in the old guy as a romantic partner, but only as a friend. Tell him (if you have to) that you only date great guys and you still value the friendship with your ex, but that being a great guy doesn't make him the one. Then blabber on about how your current bf is the best thing that ever happened to you and how your ex doesn't even compare.
That should work. He just needs to know he can trust you. Feed his ego, put down the ex just slightly (not too much or you're the b-itch) and that should do the trick.
And if that doesn't completely work, remind your bf how much BETTER in bed he is. They always buy that one!
2006-07-04 09:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by Lori A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your BF may be jealous, but if you're not getting back with your ex, or cybering, or anything there shouldn't be a problem.
If he's your ex HUSBAND, and there's still issues of money, children, or any manner of shared property, then you have every right to still talk to him, and as long as he's still speaking to you, you also have a moral responsibility to maintain the lines of communication to deal with common issues for the good of the children, or for the mutual good of yourselves, as owners of shared property.
Friendly chat among exes is pretty rare, and it shows a remakable level of maturity, one which most people never achieve. If only more people with kids were like you...
2006-07-04 10:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with talking or being friends with your exes. In the best of all worlds, they didn't stop being important to you after you moved on. They;re just not important in the same way your boyfriend is, and he should be able to respect that if he finds out about it (or you tell him, if you think he might have a problem). Don't look like you're keeping secrets.
2006-07-04 09:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by Alex G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to understand that you were not born yesterday and that we have all had prior relationships. I am currently married and my current wife knows and approves that I still e-mail and phone my ex-wife of 17 years . I do have feelings for her but they are different than the feelings I have for my wife . I wish her no ill will and care that she is happy and healthy. My wife also knows that I am deeply in love with her and actually respects the mature approach to the situation. Why don't you sit down and have a mature discussion with your current boyfriend and have a talk about the fact that you still wish to stay in contact with him and what your feelings and intentions are .If he balks at this or is not understanding than you may need to question your current relationship. Maturity is definately a practiced art and now is the time to find that out.
2006-07-04 09:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Stevie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so as long as you are only talking as friends. So no its not wrong keep up with the chat friendly conversations.
2006-07-04 09:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is very okey :)
But actually this depends on what you are thinking of when you talk to him. Why are you confused about if it's ok or not? He is just a friend to you now? Or has any of you left any feelings to each other? In any way you just have to ask yourself :) and sure it's ok in both ways because it's your life and you have to do what is good for you :)
2006-07-04 09:49:19 · answer #7 · answered by Maria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your bf say about it? Or do you keep it a secret? I personally would not think anything was wrong with that your allowed to have friends.
2006-07-04 09:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by lauren0459 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask yourself this...how would you feel if the situation were reversed? How would you feel if your boyfriend were still talking to his ex's online? I think its something that you should discuss with your boyfriend and come to a mutual decision. Most people are naturally jealous and this may cause problems for your relationship. I think that you should be honest with your boyfriend and get his opinion on it.
2006-07-04 09:48:07 · answer #9 · answered by heather b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont see anything wrong with it as long as the conversation stays G rated (as in, you wouldn't mind your bf reading it) and neither you nor your ex still has feelings for one another.
2006-07-04 09:45:42 · answer #10 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah! its perfectly fine to still be friends with your ex's. Even though you have a new boyfriend it's still ok to be friends with whomever you want. theres nothing wrong with still being friends. If your bf dosnt like that your still friends then hes not worth being with. you can choose who you want to be friends with. he has no rule over your life. You make the dicision.
2006-07-04 09:54:55 · answer #11 · answered by jesusgod_girl_16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋