Okay, so I have talked to my boyfriend about why we aren't having enough sex, he says that I nag him about it, but come on! It's hard when he rejects me sometimes too much. He swears there's not another woman, and I truly believe him, having been cheated on before. I just feel like there is no intimate time, and it never seems like the "right time" for him. But, what would you do? Thanks to everyone that answered before.
2006-07-04 09:16:58 · 26 answers · asked by Danielle M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, just give him time. Men can go through periods of time, just like women, in which they just don't feel like having sex. The last thing you should do is pressure him, since men already have this immense fear that they aren't pleasing their partner. Just give him time, and tell him you'll be waiting for him when the time is right. I'm sure it'll be way better after waiting some time. You'll have built up desire for one another.
2006-07-04 09:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anais 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Eh, I went through that with my first boyfriend. He had some hormone dips over the year I was with him. And no, he also did not ever cheat on me. But, it seemed like for 5 months he wanted sex more than me, than for 4 months, I wanted more sex than he did, and then with the remaining 3 months, we both wanted an equal amount of sex. It seemed, in my opinion, his sex drive drizzled at the time he was taking "male supplements" to enhance his muscles. I think it played a factor. Maybe there's something wrong with his diet? Hormones? Stress? Something.
Oh, by the way...SEDUCE HIM. Men do get sick of being asked just like we do. But if you just walk up to him and start at it or something, seduce him, it works otherwise sometimes.
2006-07-04 16:20:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might be a good idea to give this relationship a long hard look. If you feel he is cheating then you need to go with that gut instinct. If he works alot then he may just be tired and not in the mood to be intimate. Good Luck on your situation.
2006-07-04 16:21:28 · answer #3 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I am in the same situation. My husband says that I ask him about it too often as well. He says that if I let up, then he will be more inclined. Being nagged about it all the time supposedly makes it more like a chore instead of fun. Who knows? But, I understand where you are coming from.
2006-07-04 16:20:07 · answer #4 · answered by k s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would count your blessings. My husband wants it too much. I'm sorry I just can't relate.
It sounds like your sex drives vary widely. If this is a huge problem for you then I would say you two are incompatable. I doubt you can really change him, any more than he can change you. Sorry. Hope things work out for the best.
2006-07-04 16:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by Mandalawind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking him what his ideal romantic/sexy weekend would be. Then set up a weekend where you do what ever he told you it was. Be relaxed and just have fun with it...things should lead to some great sex. :) Just spice things up a bit when you go out...ya know? Get back to having fun together and...as long as he's not gay.....things should get rolling right again.
2006-07-04 16:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by suebee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really can not force someone to have sex when he does not want to. You may desire to be sexually active with him, but is he really comfortable with being that active with you? Have you ever asked him why he rejects you, like his fears or other personal reasons, without sounding like you are questioning his fidelity? Maybe it seems like it is never the "right time" because maybe it is really not..............only he can tell you those answers though.
2006-07-04 16:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine a dude not wanting sex! MAybe you nag him too much? Maybe you've changed your appearance since you've moved in together?
Maybe you just arent' compatible this way and if it bothers you this much, then maybe you need to find someone else!!!
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-07-04 16:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, he knows he is hurting you, but doesn't want to do anything about it? It sounds like he has some issues that he doesn't want to deal with.
I'd say move on, you can find someone that will make you feel wanted and special!
Good luck whatever you do!
2006-07-04 16:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider all the following: how long you been together, his health, stress of any kind, spritz things up a bit-invite a friend(jk), and all and all consider the worst, hope for the best, and if nothing else buy a lil friend.
2006-07-04 16:22:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Wizard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋