My mom is always yelling, theres never a quiet moment!?

Question

My dad has been away for awhile for his job. So it's me my mom and 3 other siblings. My mom is always yelling at all of us. Anytime my little brother and sister is doing something wrong she just yells. I feel bad for them. But she yells at me too. But since my dad has been gone, I've picked up the yelling too. My dad came back this week-end and he heard me yelling at my sister and told me I sounded just like my mom. It made me feeld bad because I want to be like my dad, he never yells, he thinks its a waste of breath. But could you tell me what I could do or how I could help my mom?

no my dad has been gone because he is staring a new job and my mom has to sell our house so we are still living in our same house while my dad is getting us a new house while still working very far away...its very confusing

Answer 1

Your mom is probably feeling very stressed out taking care of your family, house, etc. while your dad is away with his job. I don't know how old all of you are, but try to help her out around the house, and give her plenty of love and understanding. And when things are "quiet", maybe you can sit down with her and have a talk about how you and she both feel. Hope it gets better for you!

Answer 2

you say that she is always yelling but don't really say about what?I am a single parent and I find that when I feel that I'm not getting any help around the house I also start yelling, it seems that when I ask for help nicely I never get any response but the minute I loose it they all pitch in...so it's hard to break a bad habit,I know that your still a child yourself but if you could only try to help out before your mom snaps, stress will do all kinds of things to people and with your dad away she takes it out on all you kids, it's not the best thing to do but she's only human and for her to keep it all in would be very unhealthy for her. maybe when your dad gets home you could babysit so they could go out for a hour or so....it's nice you want to be like your dad but you'll probably be like your mom because you spend more time with her, and even if you don't like the way she is" The apple doesn't fall to far from the tree."

Answer 3

Have a sit down, eye-to-eye conversation with your mom. Tell her how you and the other kids are feeling when she yells. Ask her if you can do something to help her. You may take on a few extra chores or not ask for extras(not because of money but because it takes time and is another stress on her) You might take the younger ones outside to play or for a walk as soon as she gets home so she can unwind from her day job and get ready for her family job. Try helping with meals and make it a family event. You kids take care of the kitchen after meals. Have the younger ones gather the dirty clothes or dust and take care of their own rooms.( I have several things listed to shoose from and don't mean for you to do all of the.) Tell her that you appreciate what she is doing for the family even more because she has added responsibilities since dad is gone. Ask dad to try to do as much as he can around the house when he is home to help knock out some of the built up work. Tell him to have a night or a weekend with her alone. She needs to know that she is appreciated and well loved! You sound very responsible and I hope that it all works out. Dad may need to change his job to one where he can stay in town because of the quality of life his family is needing.Best wishes.

Answer 4

Your mom probably has a lot of stress on her with your dad being away. She has a lot more on her plate. Maybe help her out around the house or take you other siblings away to the park or so (depending on how old you and they are) give her some quiet time alone, to re-coupe. And help her around the house, pick up your stuff do the dishes without arguing about it, things like this, hope this helps!

Answer 5

Try to tell you siblings to understand your mom. If your siblings are too young, bribe them. Give them some kind of stuff and in return, tell them to try not to cause any trouble. If your mom yells for no reason, then maybe it's because she feels lonely because of your dad, your dad returned right? Ask your dad to spent some quality time with your dad, then maybe your mom would return to normal.

Answer 6

Set up a tape recorder to run a good long while when she is on a shouting jag. When the time is right, very nicely and without any ATTITUDE, ask her if she could listen and see the way others get to hear her. Or maybe Dad would play it for her.

Answer 7

talking and keeping an open line of communication is important in any relationship (even blood). take a minute to think before you react to anything and try not to let anything build to the point of bursting (talk). i think that eventually you will learn to be less aggressive and a little more passive. old saying goes: don't sweat the petty stuf. pet the sweaty stuff... if you're old enough... give your mom the same advice she sounds like four kids and nothing sweaty to pet might have stressed her out a little.

Answer 8

Yes, your mom is not getting her way. Plus she is a woman that has montly up's and down's too.

All you can do is be respectful, and understand this. Eventually you will meet someone and move out and not have to deal with that anymore. Just don't get a guy who is always away for work ....

Answer 9

Try to talk to your mom (when she is in a good mood) and tell her that it is bothering you and how bad you feel about her yelling and always respect her and remember that she is trying to raise you and your siblings without your father so try to talk to her nicely and dont get all mad it will just make it worse!Good Luck

Answer 10

I think you should help her with some chores and tell your siblings to help around so you mother feel like she is not doing everything by her self. You can also tell her how much you and your siblings love her and appreciate all the things that she do.