I have been seening this woman for 4 months now. I have realized that she has sucked all of my personal time away from me.
We do not live together, but when she doesnt hear from me for more than 2 hours (excluding sleep) she calls or wants to see me.
Moreover, I feel as though she is smothering me as well. I cannot do anything without her knowing about it whereas I feel I cannot trust her 100% by her actions and recent "happenstances."
HELP!
2006-07-04 09:00:47 · 12 answers · asked by yadedyah_dc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to let her know that you need your own time to do the things that you like to do on your own. You need to let her know that you feel smothered and need this time so that when you end up seeing each other the next time, that time is that much more precious. If she cannot respect this, you need to move on. She might have a self esteem issue or have a difficult time trusting you. I had a guy earlier this year do this and after telling him 3 times with no success, I kicked him to the curb. Good luck.
2006-07-04 09:04:02 · answer #1 · answered by camping_girl 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
It's just a phase. Once she's safely chained up in the kitchen there won't be any such problems. (Nosy neighbors can be troublesome at that stage though...)
No, really, she's looking for control, and you're giving it to her. Mrs. control needs to get her power trip in some other way, and you need to set your foot down before YOU get chained up in the kitchen, barefoot, naked, and holding another man's child.
Tell her there's gotta be some changes, because you need room to breathe. Set some boundaries, and if she can't handle, she knows where the door is. If she loves you, there will be changes. Don't be scared, if you can get with one woman for four months, you can get with another, better woman for even longer should the need arise.
2006-07-04 16:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by ye_river_xiv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my point of view I think you should try talking to her. But as I always say, when talking to someone (especially when its a woman) try to voice your opinion without making her feel like shes being attacked. That will only put her on the defense. Be honest with her and tell her that you enjoy the time spent together but that given the time to miss her could bring the two of you closer. As long as your being honest and respectful, she will return the same. If you make her feel threatened or unappreciated, she will react with like feelings. (you yell she yells etc). Only my opinion, but hope it helps.
2006-07-04 16:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by stepmomster22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's sounds like a very possesive person. it usually gets worse with time. i dated a guy like that long time ago. it was awful. i ended it at four months and he threatened to kill himself. it isnt a healthy mentality for someone to have. If you are so into her you cant see yourself breaking it off. See a couselor as soon as possible. I'm assuming you've been honest with her and told her that once in a while you need some time on your own, with your own freinds. if you havent try that first, see what happens.
2006-07-04 16:04:39 · answer #4 · answered by glowchild7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her about the smothering. Act depressed cause you miss being with your friends. She may feel sorry for you and give you some space. And ask her about her trust issues cause that shouldn't be your problem unless you caused them.
2006-07-04 16:04:33 · answer #5 · answered by NVgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you obviously dont love her enough to be with her. if you cannot stand having to see a woman every two hours than you will never be able to be married. that is the life of a married man. i have been dating my boyfriend for quite a while and we live together and do just about everything together. i dont push him into inviting me out with his friend---he is the one that ask me to go with him.. you should be more like my man and really get to like your woman
2006-07-04 16:05:18 · answer #6 · answered by paparazzichelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should offer to move in with her. Depending on her reaction, don't be afraid of dumping her and moving on. Possessiveness is a sign of the devil
2006-07-04 16:05:23 · answer #7 · answered by morgysan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump the crazy b#@%h
then change your phone number
and move
2006-07-04 16:08:43 · answer #8 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude is to late ...u r f**** U cant leave her take ur live away sorry dude
2006-07-04 16:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by franko T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away! Run away!
2006-07-04 16:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋