I have been with my bf now for a little over a year, and our intimate relationship sucks. He is 30 and I am 25, and he is the one always telling me no! We live together now and I thought that would improve things a bit, but they haven't. I feel like he never wants to with me, and it is effecting my self-esteem and honestly makes me want to find someone else. All in all though, he is a great guy, if it weren't for that little situation, our relationship would be great. What should I do?
2006-07-04 08:56:40 · 24 answers · asked by Danielle M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everything you have mentioned here needs to be mentioned to him. Let him know that you have felt things changed when you moved in together. Ask him if he can help with you to improve your relationship. Both of you need to brainstorm together. Also, surprises are good for each other and keep spice in the relationship as well. Good luck.
2006-07-04 09:00:30 · answer #1 · answered by camping_girl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have a serious chat with him and that you tell him what you are feeling right now in spite of him being really great. Tell him that you'll give it another try but if things dont change for the better, you will have to move on. Make him know that and right it down on paper. There has to be some sort of accountability. Well...goodluck and all the best.
2006-07-04 16:10:46 · answer #2 · answered by maylacson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing I can think of doing is having an intimate relationship with a total stranger. Some guy you just meet on the internet and intimate relationship his brains out.
2006-07-04 16:03:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He mite need help with it and he's too embarrsd to tell u,u should suggest for him to go check that out with his doc.becuz he mite be a great guy but with out that love that u need it's an empty feeling.....but dont let that put u down,talk it over for a long time and see whats going on,tell him how u feel,he needs to realize he mite lose u......let um no straight up,
Good Luck
2006-07-04 16:07:33 · answer #4 · answered by JEWEL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe try counseling if he'll go. Is there something physically wrong with him? Sometimes physical ailments cause problems. It's not your fault and don't feel guilty. Is he ready for a real relationship?
2006-07-04 16:02:15 · answer #5 · answered by bsnana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship,give him time.
Suffer your self by avoiding him even if you want to have sex especially if he wants to have sex ignore him sometimes. Maybe you are to approachable.
1st tell him your desire for intimacy and if he don't prove to acknowledge your concern then take the above advice.
2006-07-04 16:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't value your sense of Trust and your sense of People and your sense of Adventure and growing as an individual.
Drop him like you would a hot potato. Move on, find someone else who will respect and value what is important to you.
2006-07-04 16:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him and say hello baby and hang up tha fone wen he calls backtalk 2 him a little do thys every other day or so aand try to spice up ur sex life but dont go too far either. tell him no too speak up gurl!
2006-07-04 16:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Tiyana D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking him in a non-confrontational way. He may not realize that he's doing it, which he also won't realize that he's hurting you. Keep in mind that even though we want them to be, their not mind readers.
2006-07-04 16:01:24 · answer #9 · answered by stepmomster22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would move out! If he doesn't want sex as much as you now, it will only get worse as he gets older. He could have sexual identity problems, or another woman. Its not your problem, it is his.
2006-07-04 16:03:28 · answer #10 · answered by herronjennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋