regarding a three and a half year old?

Question

my three and a half old talks all the time sometimes repeating what he is saying and wont stop talking , he doset give very much personal space to any one and wants attention are is very negitive when he talks sometinmes giving orders to them, for example he saw a four year old girl and went right up to her and wanted to hold hands with her and she got very timid around him dident want to hold hands , he would not stop talking. any ideals of what is personality is and if its going to cause probolems in the future , how can i teach him not to run in house are in a store are school my little boy is very chgallanging. he is a veryu loving person and will go upt ot about anyone and calls everyone grand ma and grandpa. any suggestions on his being hyper. he gets very excited. help??/?????????

Answer 1

First of all, as a teacher of 3 and a half year olds, I would say, this could be considered normal for him. All children develop the same, but at different rates. Also, the child's personality will become more and more noticable (not that it wasn't noticeable before, but now the child is becoming to be more of a "little person"). Youre child certainly sounds very confident and extrinstic. ADHD, as others have said may be an issue, but I typically steer clear of even considering that option at this point, because honestly most children could be considered ADHD at some point or another. One thing you might do is keep records of when you notice challenging behaviors, and if there is some kind of pattern it may help you recognize a cause, a time of day, etc. Another thing, which takes a lot of patience, is to constantly model and correct behavior ALWAYS making sure to praise positive behavior and ignore (Unless he is hurting someone or himself, or it is an extreme innapropriate behavior). Now is the time that they begin to develop more social skills. At two they begin to socialize in one sense or another with other children and adults, but between 3 and 4 is the optimum time to begin teaching socially acceptable manners and behaviors. Of course this training continues beyond 4, but it's where it all starts.

In regards to running in the house . . . provide him opportunities to run outside of the house, let him know that inside it is not okay to run and tell him why. That is a key thing . . . let the child know why they should or should not do something and it will increase intrinsic motivation. :) Hope some of this helps.

Answer 2

You need some parenting advice, as well as follow through.

Contact your local library or YMCA - they will direct you to local parent classes - believe me, you are not alone!!

You should also pick up a book called "Parenting the Spirited Child" - it was a life saver for me.

He sounds like a very bright, intelligent, and curious young boy - hyper is normal for this age and his obvious level of curiousity. The challenge is to focus the hyper-interest into areas that are acceptable. And it is a challenge!! Don't let anyone tell you he has ADD or ADHD or needs medication - he is just little.

About running - time out works, and you may have to leave a store or restaurant immediately when he starts the unacceptable behaviour - You really have to, even if it is an inconvenience. Don't berate him though - just say in a matter-of-fact way "we have to leave now, this is not good behaviour" . Don't say "you're being bad" - separate the child from the behaviour, i.e. the child is good - the behaviour isn't. Don't make him feel that he is bad.

The next time he wants to go with you somewhere, you will have to kindly say "no" and gently explain that running or unacceptable behaviour caused a problem last time. Tell him you will try next time, and let him miss a trip to the store, or park, or restaurant - it will be a good lesson if done gently but firmly. Soon, he will get the idea that if he wants to be in the store/park/restaurant, his behaviour must be acceptable.

I wouldn't use this because he talks too much, or pesters people - just when he is running, grabbing things, etc. You don't want to punish his curiosity, but you do need to keep him, and others, safe from his antics and at the same time teach him acceptable public behaviour. People expect pestering questions from a 3 year old!

Good Luck!

Answer 3

It could just be his age and a little phase he's going through. On the other hand, I saw a television show several years ago, I think it was Oprah, about a disorder that caused people not to notice basic social awareness. Two of the things I remember about this disorder were not realizing when other people were trying to end a conversation or change the subject and no understanding of personal space (standing almost nose to nose with the person they are talking with). I remember this because I am convinced a guy a went to church and college with had this disorder. He was terrible about personal space and was constantly trying to continue conversations that others around him had ended, sometimes up to 20 minutes after the group had moved on from the subject. I wish I could remember more or the name of the disorder. I'm not saying this is what your son has, I don't know you, but it's just some food for thought. I would say if it's something that truly bothers you and does not get better as he gets a little older, it might be worth it to bring it up with the pediatrician or do some research on the net. Good luck.

Answer 4

A hyper 3 year old?? No such thing! Sounds like you have a normal, active little guy who is loving to explore his universe. Let him!! With every word and action, he is learning. Give him his freedom to explore his world of language and space. Of course, do not allow him to hurt himself or anyone else. When you do set boundaries and limits, do so in a positive manner. For example: When he approaches a timid child, encourage him to use his words, not his hands to make first contact. If he is running in a place that is not appropriate, give him something to do. Let him help you with a chore (dusting is great) or help you shop. Pre-schoolers love to feel needed and helpful. Do not discourage his wanting to talk and communicate. The day will come when you will be the last person he wants to talk to! (happens around the age of 13!) I think you have a very intelligent, wonderful child. Enjoy!!!!!

Answer 5

He sounds like a sweet three year old to me. ^_^ You just have to keep repeating to him when he does things if they're nice or not nice. If he's invading someones space at the park then you can come up and nicely give him suggestions, like "I don't think she wants to hold hands right now, maybe you could just wave to her and say hello?" It's not very safe for him to be running into places alone though so make sure he holds your hand or he's not going anywhere, you could tell him if he wants to go somewhere and won't hold your hand you'll have to pick him up, most 3 year olds want to be more independant so this will most likely have him holding your hand. He'll mellow out as he gets older...well maybe not alot he is a boy after all...:P

Answer 6

At this age they often mimic behaviour they have seen somewhere else, either a family member, day care or TV. Try and patiently point out what he is doing and show him the proper way to act. Do it right away as he will forget what you are talking about if you delay too long. Be patient and this should modify his behaviour. Good Luck

Answer 7

He is the type of person who goes for what he wants. that is good. Once you install the right morals he should go far in life. However explain to him that some people do not like to be touched and talk to all the time. Answer all his questions, do not leave it up to chance, he might learn the wrong thing.

Answer 8

he will grow out of it.. Stop all the drinks or food that makes him hipper. Sounds like hes lonley and trying to feel needed and smart..My son was sought of like that and grew out of it, drove us crazy .. he's now a VP for a large Air Co..Give him little jobs around the house to make him feel good and prase him for it.. ALL this is what a Doctor told me back in 1972.. He was right.. Hang in there , Only 18 years to go, That was a joke. He'll be ok.. Rob

Answer 9

Omigod, it is 'normal'.... I have a 3 yrs old boy...veryyyyy engertic and hyper to the extend tat i find irretating. I tot tat i the only one facing tis problem. He will scream, shout, command, jump, sing a loud, run everywhere as and when he like.....!!! Since he turn 2 half yr old, I lost nearly 7 kg..!! Just waiting for tis 'phase' to pass (tho not so soon)...or I'll just go crazy.... But he a lovely boy thou...sweet and helpful at times..... :)

Answer 10

Hey are you talking about my son?

My son talks all the time................

Is he an only child? My son is an only child. I have started using a timer. My son will ask me for something and I will purposly make him wait sometimes. I set the timer for ten minutes or so and I will not get whatever it is till the timer goes off.

I will put my son in time outs. He hates time outs so he usually learns his lesson. I will usually focus on modifying one behavour at a time. So for example last week I concentrated on ... When I am on the phone do not talk to me. Everytime he tried to talk to me while I was on the phone I put him in his room for 5minutes. I set the timer for time outs as well. I find it works well to concentrate on one thing at a time with my son. This week we are going to concentrate on talking back. Evertime he talks back to me he is going to his room for 5 minutes. This works for me.

Actually someone suggested it here on answers.

Good Luck I feel your pain.