have you ever feel so lonely that you wish you could just die?

Question

well I feel lonely right now. because i dont have any friends and nobody notice me. i do the same thing every day. i come from school sit and use the computer and maybe go out to buy something alone.

is this normal for a 15 year old teenage girl

Answer 1

Yes I have and it went on for ages (almost a year). I am 25 and had a very similar situation. I went to work, did my work, went home, sat in front of the computer. I live all by myself. Nothing in my life had really changed but I found that I could make any friends out in the real world. I started feeling very lonely and had no one to call and was jealous of other people who had friends. I started chatting to people on line which was fun, but these aren't real friends that people need, they are merely contacts who you can send a message to and can't put an arm round you when you are feeling low. I didn't know where to find real friends and when I tried I felt really miserable. I felt really horrible in myself and thought really negatively about everything especially myself. This prevented me from meeting new people, even talking to my family,forming relationships and I felt even more lonely.

Eventually I really did feel like dieing and had many thoughts about it all the time, almost jokingly at first and then I suddenly realized I was really thinking about it.

Everyone goes through highs and lows and feels lonely sometimes that is natural and it makes you appreciate company. However when you feel constantly lonely all the time, you have negative thoughts all the time and think about dieing. There maybe a different reason.

It maybe because you are ILL and suffering from an illness called "depression" that effects your brain and makes you feel negatively all the time and makes you withdraw into yourself and not go out meet friends and enjoy life. It's not easy to explain, but it is very common in people of all ages. It is not like a cold or flu, but it is temporary and can be easily treated.

If you are lonely and wishing you could die ALL THE TIME on a regular basis!!! You do need help as it is because you are ill and nothing to do with you. It is sometimes caused by an event like a family break up, a death in the family and sometimes (as in my case) it just happens to some people.

I went to a doctor, spoke to my family, took some medication that is making me better. It was 3 months ago I felt like that and felt like dieing. Normal people should not feel like this all the time. Gradually I am getting better, I feel more positive, I can go out and meet people and even form a relationship with someone.

When I felt like what you said I was ill and didn't know I was, I could have died if I didn't get help. If you are feeling like this all the time please get help. 3 months latter I can't believe I felt the way I did before and thought about dieing, I sometimes get a bit low , but there is a wonderful life out there which I have rediscovered. I've been through and know how lonely it can be.

It can happen to people of all ages and I can't state how serious it can be in extreme cases.

Everyone feels like down and lonely from time to time, but it's not normal to think about dieing and to think like this all the time. It MAY be because you are just ill and need medical help. I was and I feel so much better now than I did. Email me if you want any more info. It can be very bad young people.

AND ALL THESE PEOPLE THAT SAY IT WILL PASS AND THAT TRY AND GO TO CHURCH AND GET OVER IT. NORMAL PEOPLE DO NOT FEEL LIKE DIEING ALL THE TIME AND SOMTIMES IT DOES NOT PASS JUST LIKE THAT.

YOU ARE NOT HELPING THE GIRL IF SHE IS ILL. THATS WHAT EVERYONE TOLD ME AND I GOT MUCH WORSE.

If you feel like this all the time you might need medical help and counseling, if you are feeling like this every day.

You might need to change your life and going to church might make you meet friends, but not if you are ill with depression, you won't be able to keep going, I tried all sorts to meet friends, I couldn't because I was ill. You need to work out if this will pass or if there is something else wrong, if there is go to your parents, tell them how you feel. How you really feel.Please.

Answer 2

Well never really wanted to die, although I felt like I could. I lost my first hubby at the age of 50 we had been married for 34 years, he's been gone now 11 yrs the 11th of this month. I was devastated, I lost someone who was the best friend and it was the worst feeling I have ever know. but I made a choice to move forward although there were times when I didn't know how I was going to do that. Maybe you can find a friend on line to talk to and then join some things that will get you out and meeting people, You are the one that has to want to have more and no one is meant not to have friends why don't you give it a try? May I ask how old you are? I hope you can find something to make you happier, go volunteer at an animal shelter, do you like animals? Or your local rest home, hospital, anything to get you out. You may be worth your weight in gold just being a friend for someone else also...Great luck to you

Answer 3

I am sorry to hear that is how you feel. I have a business and every year people send me Xmas cards. One day when I was put down the Xmas tree, I looked thru the cards again, and 99% of the cards are from business vendors who sell me products. Only 2 cards from friends who are dear to me all the time. I soon to realize that I am a successful businessman but a failure in being a person. So I started out to write Xmas card to all my friends the next year and I got almost 95% returns of cards. This proofs that all people are the same. They are expecting you to care for them. So, why don't you stop expecting and start giving. Shut the window that looks out to who cares or don't care and start to show how caring you are and how loving you can be. Do not let any rejection hinder your ability to love, do not let them make you to believe you do not have the capacity to love. Just like Marathorn, you can not run and look at the same time. You have to pick running or looking back to see how far everyone is. If I were you, I would choose running and that is to say, start from yourself, care for others and love them disregard what. Love and hate are both the drive to live. You know what both would bring you, so choose to care for others, not because they are your family, not because they are your friends. When you can care without discrimination, you haev the whole world as your friend, when you choose, they choose, and unfortunately, they choose the same way you choose and they choose to be with someone else and who knows, maybe that someone else that they chose wanted to be with someone else. So if you stop choosing and start caring, your world will change. I guarantee.
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Answer 4

I know how you feel - I feel like that most of the time, too. Like I never have anyone to hang out with or talk to or anything, and don't do anything except by myself. And even when someone does feel bad for me and invite me to do something (which happens maybe once a year, if that) it'll be with a big group and I end up feeling like I'm just tagging along and don't really belong. At school when I hear people talking about things they did with their friends, or when I see people out having fun together or things a lot of times I just want to die, and a lot of times I cut myself because of it.

I think it's because I never really talk to anyone. When I'm supposed to make conversation I can never think of anything to say. Is that what happens to you, too?

Answer 5

I know how you feel. I'm sixteen and do not have many friends. I pretty much spend most of my time at home watching tv, reading, sit at the computer or playing video games. No one- especially guys, ever noticed me at school. Sometimes even my best friend ditches me when something better comes along. You're not alone.

Answer 6

Yes, I know what loneliness feels like, even to the point of having my heart hurt. Do you live by any churches? That's a great way to make friends. If you are still in school, try joining a club related to something you like. We used to have a service club at our school. Remember you are a child of God and dearly loved - you are just going through an in-between stage of social activity right now!

Answer 7

First of all let me tell you that IT WILL PASS. I know you probably hear that alot but its true. You are at a difficult age, you want to be this way, and that way, have this and that. All those things are indespensible. When I was that age it seemed like life would never get better but it did. As hard as it may be to understand....Its all apart of finding yourself, most of us must travel the road of pain and distruction to reach our desired destination. You are not being punished...the pain stops when you say it does...plain and simple. Whatever it is thats bothering you have the power to change it. Gods gift to us as human beings is FREE WILL. I live by the motto. K.I.S.S that means keep it simple stupid. Now dont take offense. I use this acronym myself many times. When you are stressing out...if you really think about it..its not that deep. Be who you wanna be,,,the really great ones are not afraid to show pain, strenght and whatever else it takes to navigate through life. Its hard but you HAVE TO be a survivor. god bless you

Answer 8

I know how u feel..I've been feeling the same way..i have friends and family but i have no mate i be praying to god to find me somebody but it hasn't happened yet..sometimes i feel like god is punishing me..i lost all faith in god..i stopped praying cause i felt like it's a waist of time..I'm nice looking, got a good job, car, apartment, but all that don't mean nothing if u have nobody to share it with..sometimes i wish i was dead so i don't have to be alone all the time..so don't feel like it's just you....peace

Answer 9

I feel your pain. But now, I have accepted being alone. I really do not have many friends and I was never noticeds even when I was at school (I am 29 now). Do not worry. You will be fine and you will deal with this. You CAN deal with this.

Answer 10

Dear, This is very normal for every teenager. It will pass. I might suggest that you start attending church regularly. There are many church youth activities which are not as competitive and judgmental as your typical highshool social events. It is a good place to go and be accepted and develop a network of friends.