i told the girl, that i have had a crush on for 6 years now, that she was the one that my heart desired. even though she said we'll still be friends, i feel my love went to waste. was that the right thing to do (that i told her)? and is there anything else i should do?
2006-07-04 08:29:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't beat yourself up over doing a good thing --- telling her how you feel ---- the other thing is - before you tell someone how you feel about them make sure you are prepared to hear that they may not feel the same way --- it involves risk and when you step out and reveal your feelings, I think it's very brave to do that --- having the support of a friend is also quite helpful too!
If you can't deal with just being friends with your love interest --- then don't go there - let her know that doesn't work for you at this point in time.
2006-07-04 08:36:33 · answer #1 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's what the right thing to do that you told her, but the wrong thing to wait so long. You should have told her earlier because if you had you probably would have recieved the same answer and would have had the chance to move on and find someone else.I'm sorry, but 6 years is a long time to waste on a girl who ended up not wanting anything anyway. The longest I've ever kept a crush was 1 year and he ended up being gay! Honestly, I don't think there's anything else you can do,you can't make a girl like you.
2006-07-04 08:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by caitymercede 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your love went to waste. Maybe it was the best thing for you to do to go ahead and tell her so she knows you do like her and that you do care about her. Don't stop talking to her because she doesn't exactly feel the same because then you might be losing a valuable friendship. Just sit back and relax because maybe one day soon she'll realize that the guy for her was there with her the entire time. But it depends on what you really want I guess. But I do really believe that you did the right thing by telling her as long as she didn't have a boyfriend at the time!
2006-07-04 08:33:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was a good decision. Over time you guys shall begin having more feeling for each other. It didn't go to waste. some guys are way too afraid to tell their crush so you should be happy you were brave enough to even say something to her.
2006-07-04 08:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by babysmarts4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your love did not go to waste, she perhaps missed out an a better 6 years. Always love her even if you never see each other. My mother died a year ago and I still and always will love her. I seperated from my girlfriend/wife of ten years seven years ago we still talk and I love her . You never "loose" love.
2006-07-04 08:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by readthesmile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah im sure she was pleased to know someone reli cared about her! its great knowing someone loves u. if she doesnt feel the same way atleast she sees u as a friend. u nevr know, if u giv it time she mite love u back one day. for the mean time, juz be there 4 her so she knows she can rely on you and begins to like u even more, but if you reli feel there is no hope, maybe u shud try n concentrate on other girls u like =]
2006-07-04 08:35:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes a crush is just suppose to be a crush don't let the fact that your love and caring went to waste it did not everyone has a crush on someone other than who their with, its healthy and its enjoyable . Always make sure your content and happy with who your with and make sure you are true to yourself.
2006-07-04 08:35:02 · answer #7 · answered by michellegprix99@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT WAS A GOOD DECISION, MAYBE WITH A BAD RESULT; HOWEVER, IT SOUNDS LIKE SOMETHING YOU NEEDED TO GET OFF YOUR CHEST. IT'S BETTER TO KNOW NOW HOW SHE FEELS ABOUT YOU IN THAT RESPECT THAN TO JUST SIT THERE AND WONDER. IF NOTHING IS GOING TO COME OF THIS RELATIONSHIP THAN FRIENDSHIP, MAYBE IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO MOVE ON. YOU CAN STILL REMAIN FRIENDS, BUT YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT YOU AND YOUR FUTURE PLANS
2006-07-04 08:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by funnyface53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never wrong to love. Perhaps it was too much information for her. Give her some time...then perhaps ask her out for dinner or something light. Give her a chance to get used to the idea of your love.
2006-07-04 08:32:07 · answer #9 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you did!if you kept it botteled inside you might of ended up hating her.And if she doesnt want to go out with a special person now than mabey she will realise later that she made the biggest mistake of her life and comes back to you.just believe
2006-07-04 08:34:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋