I am 23yrs old,i have a nice job,good level of education,nice family backround,i am beautiful,i am not trying to praise myself so please dont take me wrong but i have been told by so many people.Why do i always have married rich mens approaching me and asking me out.I really want a serious relationship and would like to settle down with one guy.I have very positive attitude toward people.I dress like a lady.I talk like a lady.I have never had a guy asking me out who would be my age.they look at me and just never say anything.I dont want to be anyone's mistress i would like to be a good wife and a mother.How can i fix this and how can i have guys my age approaching me.not a 30 some yr old with 3 kids and money!
2006-07-04 08:04:10 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds good but how about one more romp in the hay with me
2006-07-04 08:10:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Older men that are married and already financially equipped tend to be more "experience" and have already built up their confidence when it comes to dating. However, guys below 23yrs or guys your age are still fairly young and most haven't been married and they're still in the process of building confidence to find a wife and settle down. Also they can either still be attending school or they just graduated college and taking care of "business," for example, finding a job and purchasing a house before they seek a girl that will support them. I am 22 years old, and I am still finishing my school, right now I have no intention of dating because I have a lot of things going on for me at this stage of my life for a decent relationship to work out. But if I happen to run across the girl of my dreams, I won't say no because that's an exception. I hoped this help. Goodluck!
2006-07-04 15:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by romeo4evernever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your profile and the answer is easy. Because of the fact that you want something good, positive in your life, you will have all the negative coming your way first to trick you. The negative force of life is waiting, tempting you with only one mistake to say to you:" I got you,who do you think you are?" From one bad experience that you may regret all your life, your self-esteem will definitely lower. In your case, I refuse to use the word"resist" but instead consider it not an option to do what you are not comfortable with. You look, dress, act smart and it could be the reason why you intimidate folks your age. If you see someone worth consideration, initiate a conversation, make him feel at ease then give him the lead so you can grade him. Understand that you cannot impress or intimidate an older married man with money. E-mail me if you want to know further.
2006-07-04 15:28:52 · answer #3 · answered by alpha & omega 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why only married rich men approach you. Maybe the way you carry yourself and your clothing attracts them. Also married men should not be hitting on you in the first place. You seem like the type of lady I would go after If I knew you first of course (I'm about your age). Change your style and where you hang out. Go with friends to a place where there are people your age and you will find a gentleman in your life. Seek and you shall find and I wish you the best!
2006-07-04 15:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Lae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you may be coming off as too conceited without really meaning to. Have you ever thought about going to a church social, maybe you could met the right guy there. Don't take second best and give into the low life married men, it may take some time but the right guy will come along. Just try and be relaxed, funloving, don't just look for that guy that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Look for a decent guy and if he is the right one, in time things will progress. And times have changed. If you see someone interesting, don't wait for them to ask you out, make the first move, some guys like that too. They may be shy or insecure to ask a pretty lady out.
2006-07-04 15:12:22 · answer #5 · answered by funnyface53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, Thanks for answering my silly question about the bench on the corner. (I can't choose you as the best answer tho. Sorry, but "ok" just doesn't cut the mustard.)
About your problem... be patient, the right guy won't be afraid to say "Hello" or "Wassup" or whatever when he gets within range, and you may be surprised to find out that he might not be exactly in your age group - perhaps you are attractive to older men because you think a little "older" than your age, you're more mature in mannor. As for the wrong guys, the married cheaters and the users, do the Nancy Regan thing - just say "No." Good luck.
2006-07-04 16:12:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter had a similar problem. It stemmed from a sort of aloof and distant aire she had about herself. It was taken as being unapproachable by most guys in her agegroup. Older men were not intimidated by it. She is a darling, sweet, sensitive and funloving woman with quite high standards and goals, beautiful as well. Unless you put yourself out there (in a ladylike way!)
the younger guys think you are too high maintenance.
Good luck, baby. FYI at 29 my daughter married her 50 year old proffessor from law school. THERE IS HOPE!
2006-07-04 15:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by twoBITrox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it known among your friends and acquaintances that you will not date a married man. Make sure you aren't putting yourself up on a pedestal so that good men won't be afraid to approach you.
2006-07-04 15:10:04 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow. Let me know if you figure it out b/c I have married men talking to me to and Im not about it. I want someone of my own. You sound like me. Good Luck!
2006-07-04 15:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by SingleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe men your age are intimidated by you. What about the company you keep?
Where do you usually meet these men?(the older ones)
2006-07-04 15:10:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
um. maybe u should tell them excatly how u feel. cus all u want is a good relationship. not money.. right?.. still be u. dont change for anyone. but just hope that'll be better.. but just talk it through with ppl!
2006-07-04 15:09:00 · answer #11 · answered by bLessed; 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋