I dont want to hurt my mom or dads feeling but they are always telling me what to do. We all live in the same house and they do not want me to move out. Should I?????
2006-07-04 07:57:05 · 25 answers · asked by monalisa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You don't say how old you are, but at some point you must realize tht your mom and dad are just tyring to help. I'ts hard to hear it again and again, but they will be like that always. Show them how responsible you are, and they will ease up.
2006-07-04 08:00:45 · answer #1 · answered by Marvinator 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Ya know what I'm a grammy of 13 and I've learned that most parents don't know what to say or how to say it. They are scared that your not gonna do things right and worse than that they are scared that they won't do things right. If it's possible you both need to ease up. If you try to look at it from there side and think how would you react to you if you were the Mom or Dad and they need to remember back when they were your age and try to approach the problem and you from a younger point of view. I wish you luck and don't ever jump into anything in your life, take a second and third look at everything.
2006-07-04 08:07:46 · answer #2 · answered by g-day mate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mean while you are under your parents house, you have to follow their rules, like it or not, it is their nest. If you are old enough and support yourself, then I advise you to move to your own privacy place where no one can tell you what to do. But mean while you are at your parents house, they will control you because you are under their roof. And they can do it, because you do not have the final word, they do.
Sometimes we believe parents want to do with us anything they want, but what really happen is that they are so afraid something might happened to you and they over protect you and see your faults and try to correct you, but you can only learn when you start living your own life and go through experience we all have gone through. Get you own place, but not to far away from them, just make sure you always communicate with them and tell them where you will be. Cause girls that live by themself could be a risky thing, so many bad things happen to single girls.
Do everything with a open mind and be careful, don't be friend to everyone, they could be trouble to your life.
Have a safe life.
God Bless
2006-07-04 08:08:25 · answer #3 · answered by Evy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you're talking about. I'm a mom of 2 teen aged boys. Sometimes I think I nag them too much, and I definitely want to have control. I worry about them so much, I am always afraid that something bad might happen to them. I let them do what they want pretty much, but I make them take a cell phone and call me to check in every so often. That might be the same thing as your parents do. You will not understand how much we LOVE you until you have kids of your own and feel it for yourself. We would kill steal and DIE for you. We don't want anything but good things for you. But we're from a different generation and we don't know how to get through to you that we just love you and worry. It's not that we want to control you or ruin your social life. We just don't want you to get kidnapped, raped or murdered. Or get on drugs, or ruin your life.
You might try talking to them about how you feel, but it may not change things because that's just what good parents do.
2006-07-04 08:05:05 · answer #4 · answered by PMS 24-7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you. If you are out of school then I suggest you move out. If they are nagging you as you say, eventually you are going to say something you shouldn't that can never be taken back so go while you are ahead. If you are still in school, then deal with it until you are able to be on your own. I'm sure your parents just want what is best for you. Todays world is so messed up with all the drugs and crime. be glad they care andlove you enough to nag as you say
2006-07-04 08:02:38 · answer #5 · answered by funnyface53 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I'm 16, and if my mother tells me she wants me to do something I do it, because I may be older now, but she's been through everything I've been through, and I think I know everything sometimes. She made you and put you on this earth, and she loves you and wants the best for you, so it's best to respect her opinion. If you are older and you are trying to get out and start your own life, always respect her, but she has to understand you are grown and you need to handle life on your own, you know? If your mom is trying to control your life, there is no way she's right... But all you have to do is understand that she only does these things because she loves you too much.... Hope this helps... BLESS YOU..
2006-07-04 08:05:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the same problem that every single teenager has had before you, and will have after you. I can pretty much bet that you are SO sick and fed up with old farts like me (I'm 45) lmao, telling you that your folks had the same exact resentment towards THEIR folks. Your mom and dad love you more than their own lives, and will do ANYthing to see you grow older. As crappy as it seems to you right now, they have your welfare as their top priority, and are doing their best to guide you, and help you grow. Hang in there hun. Talk to them, or try to. Try to make a time to literally sit down with them... try and communicate your feelings to them, and truly listen to their's. This part of your life will pass, as will every other phase. You'll get through.
2006-07-04 08:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you live under their roof, your parents will see you as a child, especially if you aren't paying rent. if you are under 18, you still are a child according to the law. If you are finished school, over 18, and have a job, by all means move out. If not, learn to live with their rules, but remind them tactfully that you are old enough to make most of your own decisions in life. unless you are 15 or younger, then just live with it.
2006-07-04 08:03:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you old enough? Can you support yourself? Would they help you with finances even though they're not too happy about you moving out?
Until then, unfortunately it's "my house, my rules." Perhaps a conversation would be in order, something to the tune of "I'm not happy here and would rather move out. Are there any compromises we can make that would make me want to stay?"
2006-07-04 08:02:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're over age 18, move out, by all means. But first have a job and a good place to go--you don't want to have to return.
Then, you can experience the "independent life."
2006-07-04 08:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by mrearly2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is awesome... my mother called me Mona Lisa & my parents were controlling too!
The sooner you get out from under them, the better/happier your life will be... & stay out from under them as much as possible.
Your happiness matters... it's important to good health & well-being.
It's likely they'll try to control your life even though you move out, so make sure it's far enough away that they can't be involved in your life too much.
The more they're involved in your life, the more control they'll have over you.
They've lived their own lives... now it's your turn to live yours.
They need to realize that you need to live your own life (make your own choices, decisions, mistakes, successes, etc).
2006-07-04 08:17:38 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋