how do i stop my urge of cutting?

Question

i cut myself because of my family my family are really really dumb and all they care about is them selves and i dont even know my dad and my step dads a druggy so i dont know what to do so someone help me please..i already have professiohnal help ive been in the hospital 2wice for this and i take medicine but it doesnt help so maybve one of you guys can

Answer 1

Continue counseling, find a SUPPORT group of people your own age, work on COPING STRATEGIES.

You're getting an endorphine rush when you cut to deal with stress. You can find a more HEALTHY way to cope, like running or lifting. You'll look better and have a better chance with girls. You can't have a healthy GIRLFRIEND until YOU get healthy.

My stepdaughter did this, she was molested as a kid. I KNOW YOU CAN get past it too. You have to KEEP TRYING.

Answer 2

I use to do it when I was about 15, I did it for about 1 1/2 years. Then I met a guy who I fell in love with and could talk to him about anything, he helped realize that things get better and I had to learn to find a diff. way of dealing with the anger and stress, so I started working out and just remembering that GOD will not give you more then you can handle, you need to realize that you are stronger then the urge of cutting,STAY with the counselor and be truthful once you get EVERYTHING out about why you are so angry and hurt, I PROMISE you will be so much better off, and about the scares, they will always be there,but don't let that get you down cuz when you are finally better, you will know how you got there. Cutting is very scary and shouldn't be done, but if that's what it took to make you realize that your problems are more then you can handle and the fact that you are asking for help maybe it was a blessing in disguise. I hope everything gets better for you and in years to come when you have a family you can look back and be glad that you stopped when you did.

Answer 3

Obviously the meds aren't working, so you need to tell the doctor the honest to God truth about how you feel. One can only help another if they truly want it. There are different meds and doses to try, it is a hit and miss sort of thing - frustrating to the one trying to get help and feel better. Many churches have free counseling, city missions. What about a good friend to call or go see whenever you feel this urge? Even here online, just write and refocus yourself or spill out your anger. Have you tried going to church or reading the bible? How about hobbies, you need to redirect that urge when it comes. Call the suicide hotline and see if they have a number for you to call when you need to release the anger and frustration. Also, are you really following all the directions the doctor(s) have given you? That's very important. Just for the record, you aren't alone - so many children think their families are dumb and selfish and don't understand anything you're trying to say. Hold on, try praying. I hope this is of some help to you - no, I pray that this helps you some way, somehow...

Answer 4

well i think that you should look at it like, later on down the years if the scarring doesn't go away then you'll have these scars forever, so where ever you put the cuts at depends on later on what kind of clothes you choose to wear in order to cover it, and what are you going to tell your kids about all those scars when your old enough to have kids.. ..
then the other reasons that you say you have isn't good enough reasons..
there is a proven fact that most cutters are or have been sexually abused and the only way they can numb the pain is too cut..
but in your case, it sounds like that just because you don't like of what is going on in your life, and the people you live with aren't all that great..so therefore i see it as either "attention getter" or as "something to do when you get bored"..if you're getting the help that you say you are getting, then i'd have to say that you have "absolutely no self - control"".. which i don't know how old you are but everyone needs self control...

Robby ~ mentor

Answer 5

All I can tell you is that your family will not change, no matter how much you want them to or try to do it for them. You have to find true happiness within yourself. Forget about negative people around you. Even if you do not have a strong person to fall back on or support you, support yourself. You CAN be your own best friend. If no one else cares about you, do you just give up on yourself? No! Only you can save you or make your life better, just like your famliy can only save themselves. Do NOT let them get you down. Be strong and show them what it is like to be a good person and a strong person despite all the set backs you have had in your life. You CAN do it. :)

Answer 6

I did this for several years when I was a teenager, I am now married with children and I still have scars. Try speaking up for yourself, sit down and discuss your problems with your mom and how you would like them solved. Do you have any other relatives that you may prefer to stay with, would you prefer to go away to school? You always have options, you should find a better outlet. take some classes, karate is good.

Answer 7

I dont have all the answers for you, but know this: God didnt intend this kind of life for you, never ever let anyone tell you otherwise.This world is better for having you a part of it and words could never convey how great your worth. I'll pray for you because God hears and acts on our prayers and things will turn around in your life. IT WILL GET BETTER. It sound silly but I know alot of people who lived by that old Wilson Phillips song "Hold on for one more day" The song basicly says take one day at a time.

Answer 8

you really need to talk to someone. sometimes medication can't help if they don't get to the under lying problem. but, until you can get that help, you should keep in mind that you are a good person. and that regardless to what your family does, you have to keep your self on the right track. then you won't have to deal with them any more. you can't fix every one elses problems.. and you shouldn't have to. so, you have to do what is best for you. You're special, and you need to realize that. Don't hurt yourself any more than you are already hurting. Good luck.

Answer 9

its hard to stop I use to do it all the time because i had a lot of family problems also. The way I found to stop was to find something else to do something more construtive to do. Its a really bad habit and in the end it sucks beause you could eventually go do deep and kill yourself and your also left with scars all over your body. Just find some other way to deal with it.

Answer 10

addictions are the same behavior. next time, think the event all the way through before cutting, stop thinking about it, pray, find groups about this and go to meetings if they happen.