my mother and i never had a close relationship she kicked me out when i turned 18 yrs old.i moved in wit my dad n his new family i was closer to him b4 i left my mother said i hope somethin happens to u so i dont have to deal wit u eva again she would also tell me i was a mistake i was never supposed to b born my father would tell me i was not a damn mistake my mother is just rude n jealous of me but of wat?y should a mother b jealous of her daughter?
2006-07-04 07:16:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh that mother of yours. She sounds like a horrible, mean, spiteful woman. Don't listen to her. You are young, and from your other question we have all agreed that you're beautiful. So, don't sweat it. Just get through life right now the best you can, until something good comes along. Good things always end up happening to good people.
2006-07-08 10:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by Neil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She could very possibly be jealous of you. You see, people do a lot of silly things when they are younger, and they don't begin to realize the consequences until they are older. She probably realizes that she is not where she wanted to end up in life, and you still have the chance to make it. There is always the possiblity that when she had you, whether it was intentional or not, she had to put some of her other plans to the side so that she could make sure you were taken care of. That doesn't mean that she couldn't have found ways to balance things and still done something else with her life while you were in it; she chose her priorities. Unfortunately though, rather than stepping up now and doing whatever she feels she didn't get to do, she is second guessing her past, regretting things, and maybe even feeling sorry for herself. And she could easily be jealous that you still have your life ahead of yourself and might get to do things that she didn't do for one reason or another. This certainly doesn't mean that she doesn't love you. She's just fighting a battle with herself, and until she ends it and moves on, things could be a little rocky.
2006-07-04 14:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a mother can be jealous of her daughter.I would stay away from her for a while. That means no contact what so ever.Your dad seems to love you very much. If you need a mother figure,Father figure,or any support than pray.He will help you through any thing.Trust me if it wasn't for him I would not have a mom right now.
2006-07-04 14:24:33 · answer #3 · answered by dnslndsy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally, she should not be jealous of you. Sorry to say this, but I thimk there must be sth wrong with her. Just move on ur life, be successful, and don't hate her, no matter what, she is still your mom... Hope someday she will change
If u really want to know why she acts like that to you, u had better start searching for information
2006-07-04 14:24:16 · answer #4 · answered by Elizabeth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say mean things when they are angry - oftentimes things that they wish that they could take back. It sounds like she is mad that you are moving in with your dad and she just wanted to hurt you, which was totally wrong of her to do, in my opinion.
I would avoid her if I could. Don't call or visit her - wait for her to come to you. When she does apologize, let her know how much she hurt you.
You are an adult now and it is your choice whether or not to have her in your life. Give her some time to calm down, wait for her to apologize to you, and go on from there. In the meantime, do NOT let this mess with your self esteem. She was wrong to say what she did, and she is probably kicking herself for it.
Good luck.
2006-07-04 14:36:23 · answer #5 · answered by Only_my_opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you remind her of your father and she as jealous of the closenss you shared with your father, not that its a reason she should treat you the way she does. why dont you ask her straight out why she has these feelings towards you. im glad you have your dad to talk too and fall back on when you need advice and help.
2006-07-04 14:22:37 · answer #6 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, we don't get to pick our parents, and your Mom doesn't sound very nice. Move forward and away from her and be thankful that you don't have to put up with her abuse anymore. To say such things to a child should be a crime in my opinion, but it isn't, and I have said this before.... That you have to have a license to have a dog, to drive a car, to open a popcorn stand on the street corner, but any two idiots can have children (no insult meant to your dad).
2006-07-04 14:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a mother should not be jealous of her daughter. It sounds like you need to stay away from her if all she can do is be abusive to you, though.
2006-07-04 14:24:26 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your mother is jealous of the fact that you have the rest of your life ahead of you and she just doesn't. there could be multiple reasons as to why your mother is envious of you but you won't why till you ask her. she may not answer the way you want her to but that may be best. ask her why she hates you so much. ask her about her history what she went through. you may be ready to ask her and she may not be. you just have to take that chance and live through it. maybe ask your dad beforehand.
your mother is rude and trust me, you have the honest right to be mad but try to see things from her point of view ... but you won't be able to until you find out what made her so sour towards you
2006-07-04 14:24:06 · answer #9 · answered by tinerr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mothers can be jelous. before you were born, she was the centre of your dad's attention. but now everything has changed. your dad loves you and gives his attention more to you. maybe she cant tolerate that. talk to her. tell her that you love her . tell her that you need her love and support more than anyone in the world. and that you have forgiven her.then move on. stay with your dad but forgive her.you cant ever change your mom. so try to bear it.
2006-07-04 14:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋