Is it acceptable to date if you are seperated but not divorced? We have been apart for 5 months but still talk and hang out. I want a divorce but are having a hard-time finalizing it. I have always believed that marriage is forever except in certain cercumstances ie: abuse. I feel that if I can start dating, I can get away. Since, my family and friends want me away from him. The main problem is I am having a difficult time finding men. The ones I do find tend to be on a sexual basis only. I am still a mess over the seperation and don't know if I should try to move on.
2006-07-04 06:29:54 · 7 answers · asked by triathlon1979 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the faster you go on dating the easier it will be for u...the longer you wait the more awkward it will be to start dating again...
2006-07-04 06:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by vincenzo445 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're certain you're getting divorsed then Yes, but only on TWO conditions:
1. It is only fair that your husband knows about it and it is also only fair to let him know and give him permission to see other people as well. This doesn't mean that you NEED his permission, it just means you should tell him about it honnestly and be willing to discuss it with him.
2. The person you are dating must be fully aware of the situation and knows where you are at in your life. You have to make sure they know that you are not divorsed YET and so there are still some boundries that they need to stick to.
This sort of thing is not uncommon. But if your asking this question it sounds like you have already made up your mind anyway. Just remember to let everyone know what the situation is, be fair to them about it and be willing to discuss it with them. Good luck!
2006-07-04 13:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
--- you don't need to be seeing anyone since you are married - until the divorce is final you still a married woman and he's a married man---- don't become involved with anyone until the divorce is finalized and you have dealt with the issues that caused the marriage to end --- and have had the time to deal with your hurt ------- and have healed; then see about finding a suit man to date..... emotions are fragile at the separation stage and so often the parties reunite and anyone you have been involved with is hurt and they cause you even more heartache---- people need to deal with their emotional hurts and resolve issues that occurred in the past before jumping into another relationship --- if you don't deal with the issues those things follow you into another relationship (it's called emotional baggage and lots of people are messed up by it because they won't deal with it --- they just jump into another relationship)
2006-07-04 13:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine to date as long as you both understand the circumstances. If you were abused, please get the ball rolling on the divorce as soon as possible.
2006-07-04 13:37:52 · answer #4 · answered by Halo729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes go for it
2006-07-04 15:50:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea wash that man right out of ur hair, you know your marriage is over , so act like it is.
2006-07-04 13:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah go ahead and start dating. Have sex too.
2006-07-04 13:43:07 · answer #7 · answered by Buckthornman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋