christians that arent assholes, answer me this?

Question

i used to be a crazy bible thumper then i converted to atheism bcuz christianity started to seem like a cult to me. my parents are bitching at me to convert back, should i just pretend to be saved to make em happy? i do NOT believe at all in god anymore, so how could i believe in something i completely locked out and hated for so long.

my dad is horrible if i dont believe in it, i am lower than dirt and he reminds me every day

Answer 1

As a parent (and a Christian) I have to tell you that your parents are just worried about you.

If I were you I would tell them that the more they push the harder you want to push back and that if they truly believe in the power of prayer and God's willingness to answer it that they should just keep praying and leave you alone about it.

You'll be asking them to leave you alone about it but in such a way that if they continue to challenge you they are doubting God's ability to reach you. They won't have a choice but to leave you alone.

Faking being a Christian is never a good idea.

Answer 2

first of all, the reason some people turn away from 'God', church, etc is because of people. It is people who go about 'preaching' God's word but what they really do is judge and cry shame on people. Example: a girl who is with a married man should seek counselling by a general counsellor than a nun/priest at church. Immediately, they will let you know what a black sin you've committed and you are doomed and all that crap! This is why we become disenchanted with the church and religion, etc.

Second, your parents really mean good for you. They care. They actually do.You are viewing things on a today basis while they are seeing the whole picture. Most probably, from experience, they have felt how much a greater power had helped them. To not acknowledge God is like sure doom!

Thirdly, this is not your life! Get a grip of yourself. You did not give your breath of life, now did you? When you fall sick, can you wave a wand and magically get over it? This belongs to (get this) a Greater Being. You were just chosen to fill this life. (This follows the thought that YOU were SPECIALLY chosen for your parents and THEY were chosen to for you!) However, you do have control of how 'your' life goes (every action is a reaction).

There is no point in deceiving your parents though millions doing it just for peace sake. I am sorry that you do not believe in God. However, I do hope you change your mind. All things are possible ^-_-^

Answer 3

It sounds like you're more upset with the religion and your parents than God - even though you say you do not believe in God anymore..

Your parents love you, and are concerned for you. With that said, you should never do lipservice to God. I don't know your reasons for locking the church and God out of your life, or why you are so angry towards him, I'm just very sad that you have done this.

Sounds like some bridge building needs to be done - you've only got one family, you need to value them, of course and you seem like you do as you're willing to go to church for them to make them happy. But, still, it seems like communication and respect are the primary issues and these need to be resolved. Through this, you may find that you're able to move past the anger and resentment towards your parents."

I would suggest starting meditation excercises would be helpful. Maybe speaking to their pastor (if appropriate), he may be able to help you out with your parents get them to lay off you a bit, or at least start to enable the conversation and communication on the topic, rather than making you feel obligated, angry, and resentful towards them.

You need to come to Jesus on your own.

God bless you.

Addendum: I just read your add-on about your Dad. That's horrible and sad, I'm so sorry to hear that. Remember, you can't change others, you can only change yourself. You must remember you are unique and wonderful and a child of God - as much as he is, or I am, or anyone else. Just because he's your Dad, doesn't mean you are to be treated poorly.

Collosians 3:20-21 Children, obey your parents in everything, for this is your acceptable duty in the Lord. Fathers, do not provoke your children, or they may lose heart. (Which is what seems to have happened here, no?)

If they're "thumpers" - perhaps he needs some refreshing on this part of the Bible...

Answer 4

Why be a liar? It's not unusual for people to doubt or fall away from religion. I did but came back to it eventually.

Just ask yourself, was it the doctrines or the people who turned you off? Any church and religion is made up of IMPERFECT people. It's not God's fault and it's not the churches fault that PEOPLE mess up or seem like zombies.

If you seek God you WILL find him, but if you just pretend to beause it's easier you'll just be miserable. Why not try another church, maybe one that touches your heart?

I think this would do two things, get the parents off your back and give you the info you need to decide if you REALLY ARE an atheist. Plus you might meet a hella cute Christian girl while you're at it...

Answer 5

I don't know why you would find God and then turn your back on Him - maybe you didn't really find Him when you thought you did. Anyways, do not pretend to love and accept God. If you are going to make that decision not of love or believe in God then just enjoy your life to the fullest without Him because why would you bother trying to pretend and then you just die and thats it? Elijah said to the Israelites in the Book of Kings that if God is God follow Him or follow Balaam (false god). He gave them an ultimatum in a sense. Don't waste time covering up when you will loose out on the only chance you will have at living. As a Christian though - I believe in the eternal life that God promised me and thus this life is not what I am looking for I choose God and as such I don't have to enjoy this one because its full of sin and hate and crime, etc. my hope is above and its eternal.

Answer 6

If its not too much to ask, why does it seem like a cult, i think everything depends on the kind of house and the placet hat you are raised in, there have been multiple things that have almost triggered me to change, however, with the parent deal, i would say to totally avoid the subject of relgion, that is what i do, i just follow along, and ignore any religious talk. Believe me, its the best thing until you gain your own independence.

Answer 7

Your parents only want what they think is best for you. But YOU have to decide what is best for you. If you don't believe in something, how can you be a part of it? You must be true to yourself. You would be a hypocrite if you did not follow your heart and what you believe in. We all must answer for ourselves. No one can do that for us. Maybe you could sit down and discuss this with your parents. Maybe if they understood why you feel the way you do, it would help them understand where you are coming from.

I also am truly sorry that you no longer believe in God. I get much comfort in believing and having faith that He guides me in all that I do. I would wish the same thing for you if ever you change your mind. Lots of luck!

Answer 8

OK i am not saying you have to do what your parents told you to,but why don't you reconsider the whole issue once again,remember that your eternity worth having a bit of your time thinking about it,why don't you believe in God anymore?I think there's something that made you kinda angry at him,its OK to be angry with God but you don't leave him for that,you talk to him,say whatever you want,tell him why are you upset,tell him whats bothering you...I think God will listen to you complaining,anyway all am saying here.You were walking in the right pass and for some reason you left it,think it over again.

Answer 9

I think you are being too sensitive. If you don't want to be a part of any religion, then don't join. I hope that you will eventually realize that the message is more important than the messengers. Please listen to the message and read the Bible and realize that sometimes even the most God-fearing Christians can be fanatics and do more damage than good.

Answer 10

The only thing you should be is honest according to the dictates of your own conscience. You may not believe in Christianity, but you still have values, or else you wouldn't be asking this question. You haven't already started pretending, so that means you believe in being honest. So, go with your gut.