My couson has a very pretty face,with a great personallity.
The thing is, shes a little over weight, and ive noticed that shes doing all she can to get a boyfriend...
Im worried about her, shes done a few things with boys for the simple fact she wants to be liked.
Shes turning a little slaggy, not to be a slag, but to be excepted, its really upsetting me. (and i can see shes not happy too)
Please give me some advice i can give her.
What can i say to her to make her realise that there are pleanty of guys out there that will like her for who she is, not beacuse of her waste size.
2006-07-04 06:11:13 · 10 answers · asked by Loving and loved 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First of all, you are a very good cousin. She's lucky to have you!
The best thing is always to be honest. Sit her down, have a talk with her, and tell her that you are afraid that she is doing the wrong things and getting the wrong results. It's hard to do this, but telling her the truth will do her more good than you sugarcoating it or letting her continue doing the same things. and you are RIGHT, she IS only doing those things to be accepted, and she wouldn't do them if she WERE happy.
You should try to find out what it is that is making her unhappy, and try to help her change it.
2006-07-04 06:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by sugarlovenugget 3 · 18⤊ 4⤋
The concept of a slag is a nasty and unfair thing...
Sleeping around or dating is not bad... its about getting affectionm...
its nasty types influenced by a sexist nasty relgions where all that crap comes from...
Morality is this simple... dont bully or be mean...
Sleeping around is not mean so fine unless taking peoples boyfriends then thats hurting someone
Get it?
What would be good is for friend to get into sporty things like dance lessons, pole dance lessons, martial arts etc...
This will get her fit, strong confident and be around boys , but if she learns to fight they she wont have to take crap from anyone, guys or girls calling her names like slag...
Thats the best advice... martial arts and say pole dance lessons and for you... loose the whole concept of a slag...
Poeople usually sleep around whilst looking for a long term partner and then settle with a favourite,.l You are too young for settling... Enjoy life and lighten up
2006-07-04 16:32:42 · answer #2 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to encourage her to have other interests which boost her confidence. You yourself should be reminded that having sex does not make you a slag (unless she is charging for it). So dogging her in this way is a bit unjustified. You should think about how many calories it burns for her sake to.
2006-07-04 13:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by fizzycrystal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that there are plenty of guys out there that will like her for who she is, and that she will find someone! there is no point doing things like that, because in the end ur only making urself feel bad. Someone will like her, just tell her to be her self, cause that always works!!
2006-07-04 13:15:57 · answer #4 · answered by sum1special 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a loving friend to her and encourage her to feel good about herself...when she starts to love herself then she will find that others are drawn to love her also
2006-07-04 18:57:54 · answer #5 · answered by amelia_madeline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just try to keeep her mind off her wait, and if you canwhy dont u both join a exercise club, you know for fun and all the good bennifets
2006-07-04 13:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by sesso*E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive learned it doesnt matter wat u say shes still going to please herself, if ur always on her back she wil resent u and stop askin for advice, so the best u can do is b there for her when she needs u, she has to realise these things for herself, she wil thank u in time for listening to her and not always being on her case.
2006-07-04 13:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by gillian 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to love herself b4 anyone will love her. and ther are always men who love larger ppl. i am not skinny ( not completely fat either) but if you love yourself, then others will too.
2006-07-04 13:15:06 · answer #8 · answered by Charmed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to use "SONA BELT"for loosing her weight
2006-07-04 13:15:35 · answer #9 · answered by SWAPAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like her already...............
2006-07-04 13:36:37 · answer #10 · answered by Dusty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋