HELP!!! my mom's starting 2 freak me OUT!!!!!?

Question

My mom was on the computer writing an E-mail, N I walked in N she covered the screen with her hands N told me 2 go away,N I did, but a few days later I entered her E-mail (she told me her password a few years ago) N started reading the E-mails on the "SENT" folder N found these NASTY SEX E-MAILS she's writing to this GUY ..... it just FREAKED me out cuz my mom is SO NOT LIKE THAT!!!!!!!, I'm sorta mad @ her now............. should I tell my stepdad??
PS: I know I shouldn't have read her mail, but she read my diary once, so I thought "Why shouldn't I??"

Answer 1

Sounds like mom is busted.

Answer 2

First of all I can't even believe some of the replies here! You are not an evil child, and you won't go to hell, you were just concerned about your mother's behavior. On the other hand, that is her private email and just out of respect for your mom, you should not have gone into it. She is an adult and capable of handling her own stuff.

I would leave it alone and not tell your step dad. Why cause undue problems until you know the extent of whats going on. If you are really concerned, talk to your mom and ask her why she got so upset when you walked in the room. If you don't feel you can talk to her about it......just leave things as is.

Two wrongs don't make a right. Just because she read your diary doesn't mean what you did was any more right.

Answer 3

Heyyyy...
Mind your own business! You got to taste your own medicine and now you can't handle this? You should have not read her email true. Curiousity kills the cat!
Dont make/jeorpardize/worsen the situation by telling your stepdad. It will only create chaos to both of them and you will be stuck in the middle. If your mum is having internet affairs n you start to notice there is a bit of fraction and dishormony between her and stepdad also affect you, then you have to comfront her in an assertive manner by explaning the whole situation. Dont let your stepdad knows. Keep as a secret. Tell your mum that you just want a functional family and doesnt need distractions. Moreover, it is unfair for your stepdad and you because it will affect your well-being living in the same house with both of them. Do you love and want your stepdad to be around ya?
She may have read your diary..ONCE but move on and forget about it. However, if she keeps reading your diary to your knowing, ask her to stop and ask your mum if she would be okay if you started to read her emails regurlarly.

Answer 4

because you are growing into an adult...
(we all are even after we turn 21 lol....)
you should have a heart to heart with her, get her to talk with you and not at you, like some parents do

do not accuse her of anything and do not start with "hey mom searched you email account and found out your a sex freak".

give her the respect and dignity you would ask for from her if you got caught doing the same kind of thing.

prove that you are trying to grow up and understand how to behave as a grown up

you may want to say " hay mom can we go for a walk, there's something i need to talk about"

going for a walk keeps the topic on neutral territory, making it more likely that she will not yell (you shouldn't either) or say truly vulgar things... plus it keeps you talking instead of just being sent to your room before getting to talk

once you start talking say something about how you felt when you interrupted her on the net. that it has been bothering you about how she behaved. that you understand that it must have been something very personal from the way she behaved and that you need to understand ... that she needs to understand how you feel and how her actions make you think of her..


be kind, if tempers flare keep your voice low, you get heard far more often with a soft voice then by yelling

good luck

Answer 5

The person who told you you are an evil child is way off base -- ignore that. You should tell your Mom what you found and tell her you understand that she is adult and you cannot tell her what to do, but that you are very disappointed as it is her responsibility to show you how to be a decent, honorable woman. Have honest conversation with her -- no fighting, just get your point accross as calmly as you can.

Let her work out her problems with your stepdad and again just remind her that you are looking ot her for an exampel of what a woman should be like. Then just focus on what youc an do to make yourself always strong, smart and decent despite the weak, stupid and indecent things your mom may choose to continue doing.

Answer 6

Oh man, that is rough! If I were you I would be freaked out, too. For one thing, don't tell your step dad. What your mom does in her private time is her business. If I were you I would just pretend I didn't see a thing. Your mom is a human being, and human beings are sexual, even though it's hard to picture your parents being like that.

Just do your best to forget about it. And please don't look at her e-mail again. Get a lock for your diary.

Answer 7

Hey... Even though your mom is married doesn't mean she still can't have fun. Shes not physically touching another man. I know how hard that would be to read considering that it was your mother, but I say let her be happy. It's like her way of watching porn. Instead she writes it. And how do you know that the guy isn't your stepdad.

Answer 8

Altho she was wrong to read your diary (invade your privacy), reading those emails is like stepping into her bedroom while she's having sex... nobody but the ones who are being intimate are supposed to be in there (even though she did wrong again).
If she's really not that kind of person, as you say, then perhaps your step-dad hasn't been giving her the kind of love & attention she needs... if he had've, then it's doubtful that she'd have done what she did.
Tell your step-dad? ...that's your choice, but remember... it could backfire on you & you could end up in a whole lot of hot water, so don't be in a hurry to make the decision.

Answer 9

Apparently your mom IS "so like that." She was just trying to be discreet, so that she wouldn't freak you out. Except that she blew it, and you DID find out and get all freaked out.

People have problems with their marriages all the time, and they'll sometimes do foolish stuff like that because they want "out." But they're too cowardly to be alone, so they'll try to hook up with a new partner before dumping the old one. I know that's a mean thing to say about your mom--calling her a coward and a cheat--but you have to realize that no one's perfect, that everyone has their faults...and you've just discovered that your mom is a flawed human being, just like everyone else.

What should you do?
I'd say, "Take this as a 'life lesson,' and resolve to NEVER act that way, yourself, when you're all grown up."
--And also, "Mind your own business."

Answer 10

Haha, that is awesome.

First off, don't read your mother's mail. And if you are religious, you are going strait to hell.

Secondly, what she's doing is fairly normal, even in married couples. Looks like you might be headed for a second step-father.

Answer 11

Wow! It's like a soap opera. Tell your mom you read her emails----she'll be mad, but you can blackmail her for cool stuff. Better print out some of her emails, though, so you have something to blackmail her with. No doubt she'll go in and erase all evidence once she knows that you know. :o)