My ex is telling me that everything my bf is telling me is a lie and I see how it could be a lie but my bf as changed or at least I think. He acts differently to me than all of his other gfs hes had. But he's gone for another 4 weeks and he doens't know about any of this. Do you think that it's just an act he's putting on or has he really changed for me?
2006-07-04 05:55:57 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you've left out a lot of important information in your question. What has he "changed" from? A cheater? A player? An alcoholic? A drug addict? And where is he going for 4 weeks and what is it he doesn't know about? This makes it a little harder to figure out what you're worried about and what your boyfriend may or may not be up to, but clearly you're talking about something that's serious and not just "He used to paint his fingernails red and I hate it".
Having said that, I don't trust anything an ex says, but if it was an amicable parting then you *might* be able to trust your ex. I certainly wouldn't take his word as the truth, but you've got to ask yourself, do you REALLY want to be with someone that you're having these kinds of doubts about? Even if your boyfriend is innocent, you clearly feel you can't trust him or you wouldn't be asking this question. If he's giving you reason not to trust him, you aren't going to be able to overcome that. Trust is necessary for any relationship to work, and if you don't have it, it won't.
This isn't just about your boyfriend, though. This also has a lot to do with you. If this stems from some insecurity you have, like you've been cheated on (or whatever) before that causes you to have a fundamental lack of trust in your partner, then that's an issue you need to deal with if you ever want to have a successful relationship. Basically, you're the only one that has all the pieces to put the puzzle together - whether it's his past behaviour or an insecurity you have or a combination of both - but if you're asking this question now, you're probably going to continue to ask it as long as the relationship continues, so you need to decide if you can handle the stress of that.
2006-07-04 06:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is true well it can be true wance a player always a player but if you have a faith in tyler then you shouldnt listen to jonathan at all do u hear me????? DO NOT listen to him hes just trying to get u bak and they aint ever going to happen lets make tht clear lol well i think tht you should let tyler come to you dont just sit around and let tht other dumb@$$ lie to you cause thts all he is doing ok? it isnt any of his business either and he knows it he just thinks he tryn to look out for u but he know he wants u bak so hes sayin all this $hiT about him and dont believe it cause if u think tyler has changed then keep telling your self tht cause he might have.
2006-07-04 06:33:23 · answer #2 · answered by ashes_chik258 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since i know thm both, i think that ur EX is the LIAR &tht ur BF REALLY is INTO U
in other words, i think tht it was ur EX tht was/is PUTTIN ON AN ACT in order to get u back
i know how he(ur BF) acted 'round his exs whn thy were still his GFS, so i think tht he is bein TRUE TO U.
2006-07-04 08:40:32 · answer #3 · answered by alleycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is an act trust me a thing like this has happened to my friend and he was playing all the girls in the 6th grade and it was horrible i tried to tell her but she did not listen later on she ended up having sex and she had the baby killed it was a total disaster so ask your friends and i want you to know something if he was a player before then he will alwas be one
2006-07-04 06:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by crrissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can anybody tell without being there or knowing more of the details. love is blind by the way. we all see what we choose to see in a loved one and look the other way on anything they do wrong and this is normal I think. Time will tell.
2006-07-04 06:00:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-30 06:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by tramble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your ex have to do in this scenario. How does your bf feel when you are with your ex and DISCUSSING him. How would you feel if he was with his ex DISCUSSING you and being negative to boot. Until you let go of your ex you have no right to a new bf. You don't deserve him.
2006-07-04 06:00:37 · answer #7 · answered by Ya-sai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound like a very fickle woman if you're still in touch with your ex and listening to him. I'd dump you in a heartbeat for unfaithfulness and distrust.
2006-07-04 05:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um. If you're sleeping with either or both, from their perspective at least, it's all about sex. Which means, they're playing you! Respect yourself and find someone who loves you for who you are, not what you do in bed!
2006-07-04 06:01:36 · answer #9 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. If you ex did you wrong why would you want to be with him. There is a reaon your ex is your ex. Life is about going forward. Why go backwards?
2006-07-04 05:59:02 · answer #10 · answered by single_mummy_of_1_boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋