i'm seeing it more and more. I am 21. All my friends who are 21 act like my 21 yr old boyfriend. We have a child and he still likes the partying and irresponsibility crap. Not all the time, it goes in phases....when do guys GROW UP??
2006-07-04 05:53:16 · 16 answers · asked by Twin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hopefully never, but by age 30 he should start to settle down a little and start taking some things a little more serious.
2006-07-04 05:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything in life is a matter of give and take. Try simply asking him to be there for you when you need him to be and to share some time with you and your child as parents should. Truthfully at 21, very few are what one would call mature and you have to be very careful how you approach certain subjects as he may take it as you being to restrictive on his personal freedoms.
So rather then broach the subjects directly, just make sure his time is yours by being smarter then he is. Find things for him to do that need doing, have him agree to them, organise dinners for friends at your place, video nights, things that will keep him at home with you.
Don't let him rule the roost, you do, however still allow him enough freedoms to think he does. You have to play to his weaknesses and strengths and don't be afraid to find others to help you manipulate him.
Young males think only below the belt because that's where their brains seems to be and his mates wont be much better.
Oh and stroke his ego at times, they are suckers for that. By the time he is 25 he will either grow up or not..only time will tell.
2006-07-04 13:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
21?! He (and you) are still very young. Neither one of you have had the chance to experience life yet. You have a child, which unfortunately you are not married,and the bulk of the responsibility is falling on you. He should be taking responsibility, but men and women take time to 'grow up'. A lot of this happens in your twenties. I think the majority of men start to settle down in their thirties. I would start the lecture about having a child outside of marriage, but that would be pointless. It takes two, and the damage is done. I wish the best of luck to you, you have had to grow up too fast having a child. Make sure you have court ordered child support, even if he is helping out now, you owe it to your child to make sure he continues to pay . If things do not work out with him, there are many other men out there!
2006-07-04 13:09:44 · answer #3 · answered by Leigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand when I first had my some my now husband would go out and party all night and he tore up my car. I did not think it was right for him to drop me and our son and go parting! I know exactly how you feel. the sad thing is he is 27 and still acts like a teenager! But one night he came home drunk off his butt and I had me and my sons stuff packed up. and that was the end of the parting lol now he just drops me and goies to him moms all the time LMFAO but it is ok. lol I am still home 24/7 with our son. Lol But atleast I have the computer now so I have a link to the outside world lol. if you need to talk feel free to e mail me or IM me.
2006-07-04 13:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by zombie_girl_84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of them die before they grow up. I encountered a 93 year old man taking out a 6 year loan for his "new toy" at the car dealership yesterday. How practical is that?
2006-07-04 12:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dad's 46 and that dude still acts 19. Still lives with his parents lol
2006-07-04 12:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by SugaNuts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dontknow why females continually get involved with males that are the same age as them when they know the guy is immature.
2006-07-04 13:00:47 · answer #7 · answered by beer_pharts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when they are ready, but some times that's to late, for me, i started growing up when my relationship with my first daughter was born, but it takes time, im still growing to this day
2006-07-04 12:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by nate diggitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i don't really know cause its some really in mature guys in the world who don't want to grow up or just scared to grow up cause they not ready to be a man.
2006-07-04 12:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by THAT DEAL 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When they have to take on more responsibility. The more responsible they have to be,the faster they grow up.
2006-07-04 13:03:40 · answer #10 · answered by hoop_102 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋