Freshman year of highschool, I dated a gorgeous girl. Well I met her best friend, and started talking to her over the internet. I dated that girl for a year, and during that year I was extremely close with her friend, though not in love or anything. Well we kept in touch, and now I'm a senior in high school and almost 18. We're fairly close now, and here's where my problem rests. I began thinking about her alot (not too much). Well she got drunk (I was the dd) and started telling me how bad she wanted to kiss me, and how "feelings come out when you're drunk" and she's "shy in person" after an hour of saying "no you're drunk" I kissed her..made out with her whatever you want to call it. Here I am the next day can't eat, can't sleep, thinking on how madly inlove I am with her, while she is at her friends house just pissing around. She said she didn't regret anything, and would've kissed me anyway. But that's where it ends, no feelings, anything like that. Was it the alcohol..?
2006-07-04 05:35:12 · 14 answers · asked by rsthoth2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah she said she would've kissed me anyways if she wasn't so shy, and didn't regret anything. But the only thing is I was expecting that to lead into her telling me if she felt anything, which she never mentioned? Maybe she's too shy to tell me anything on her feelings, or maybe she just doesn't have any for me..I don't know..I know I shouldn't let a girl get to me this much when I'm the one moping around the house while she's having fun at a friends house..But I can't help it..
2006-07-04 05:48:47 · update #1
Honestly, I do believe she would've kissed me? Because she didn't remember anything the whole night except when she only had 2 shots (said she was buzzing) in which all she remembers was her asking to kiss me (like 500 times) and I refused because she had been drinking. She didn't however know that I actually did as I could tell when she called and called me an asshole for not kissing her. Then I explained to her EXACTLY what happened, every detail, and abruptly asked her if she regreted it, to which she said no, and would've done it anyway had she not been so shy. That all sounds so great, but when we talked about it why didn't she any ANYTHING about feelngs, or why she did want to kiss me?
2006-07-04 05:56:24 · update #2
She just wanted to see how you react. She wants to be wanted. She upped the ante, and wants to see if you're in.
You expressed interest and now she's not interested. This is classic behavior for immature young women.
Forget her, she wants to make men love her to boost her ego. Tell her she's a cow and the only reason you kissed her was because you felt sorry for her. Don't be a tool.
2006-07-04 05:58:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. O'Clock 4 · 10⤊ 5⤋
Ok... This is the myth about drinking.
Everyone says "being drunk just makes you unafraid to do what you really want to do anyway."
That's bullshit. If that were the case, people wouldn't stumble home with strangers just to wake up horrified the next morning.
Being drunk allows you forget proper judgement and just do things because they might be fun at the moment. Don't take a drunk girl trying to kiss you as a sign that she is super into you, because the reality of it is that she was just drunk. Has she come calling for a second, sober kiss? If not, you know that it was the alcohol talking. It's better to only get really drunk around people you already know where you stand with.
2006-07-04 12:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it was to a point. Sometimes when you like someone and appreciate their friendship you want to thank them. When you're drunk those feelings are cranked up to 100. So she wanted to kiss you. I think her reasons for kissing you were how much she liked you, but i believe her feelings don't say "gotta kiss him !" now that she is sober. So yeah she likes you as a friend, but she obviously want to leave it at that (reguardless of the kiss, it just was a kiss of appreciation in a amplified way). I might be wrong, but talk to her about it. Far as you not being able to eat or sleep, that's because of the thoughts that you're allowing to race through your head. You're thinking "what-if ! what -if !" and getting excited about the possibilities. But keep in mind that their may be no possibiltiy. So don't get down, but take a "wait and see" approach. Until then, remember all of the stuff you used to do and enjoy before she kissed you...try doing some of it today (you have a life, reguardless of if she wants to be in it as your girlfriend or not). You can do it !
2006-07-04 12:41:59 · answer #3 · answered by goldcrush22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong time for you to connect with her when she was drunk. She's probably embarrassed inside of her actions, by telling you she would have kissed you anyway supports her actions of drunkenness where she covers herself for being not in full control of herself as "easy". No woman wants to feel they are easy after a night of fun. If her actions after that evening together and you find her different and has not connected with you as in having the same feelings as you are feeling for her - it was all about Alcohol. Try again when the two of you have not been drinking.
2006-07-04 12:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have to admit that i am a sophomore in college and have been in a relationship for two years with someone i love more than life itself. i have been around the whole alcohol thing more times than id like to count and in my past experience, i would have to say yes, it was alcohol on her part. it has a way of messing with people and everybody reacts a little differently. you may have feelings for her and granted, she may for you also, but never take what happens on a drunken night seriously. it is meerly beer, vodka, whatever you are drinking doing the judgement. it has a tendency to make some people far more flirtatious than they generally are, and they could potentially regret it. i know i regret every drink i have ever had. it jepordized and then caused me to lose the best love of my life.
dont mess around with it. true feelings can be found minus the booze...go for the one you are attracted to and interested in who isnt drunk...
2006-07-04 12:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by jessie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may blame it on that while she is to shocked to believe she actually made out with YOU...but if you really like her and want to see where things can go then call her up and ask her to go somewehre with you...but wait are you still with the friend? No, you already broke up huh? You said you only dated a year...anyway...the girl. If you like her then just be slowly persistant...see where it takes the two of you..
2006-07-04 12:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Here's how you handle it. Ask her out. Meet her somewhere. Then talk. "So what was all that on Friday?" She doesn't know how to proceed. She even said she'd have kissed you anyway. So pursue her!!!!!!! Look, it may not be love but it is at least a great infatuation.
2006-07-04 12:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is lying. She is now in a bad situation with her friend and trying to do or figure out the right thing to do.
2006-07-04 12:45:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alcohol seems to magnify/distort existing feelings, she may care, but not necessarily in the way you want. Just talk to her about it.
2006-07-04 12:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Leigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can never know for sure how much the alcohol effects sumones feelings if they're so shy like u sed, but i dont know if its luv its luv
2006-07-04 12:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by hott dria chikk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must not want to admit it, but it does sound like it wasn't the alcohol.
2006-07-04 12:42:22 · answer #11 · answered by Shy n' Sweet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋