I am standing up for my girlfriend on July 22nd. I am also a university student, and she is marrying a professional hockey player (in the NHL). I feel as though this wedding is WAY beyond my spending limits, as I still have another year of university to pay for. I would like to know what is the proper ettiquette for wedding gifts in this situation, as I have already purchased a shower gift. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Also: what is required of me to contribute in regards to the pre-wedding social? Am I supposed to put in a prize for the chinese auction, or is that optional? (Thank you!)
2006-07-04 05:32:41 · 13 answers · asked by Kerr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You give gifts according to YOUR means, not the means of the recipient. People know the Bible story of the poor widow who gave two pennies, and they will appreciate how generous you've already been on a student's limited budget.
Maybe you should go to your girlfriend's mom or whoever is hosting the wedding and party, and tell them an approximate dollar amount of the resources you have remaining to cover your involvement in the wedding. Ask them for advice on how best to budget your remaining funds. If you are already "tapped out" be very frank about this, and ask them for suggestions on a home-made gift for you to give the bride.
2006-07-04 05:53:07 · answer #1 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, the what? Pre-wedding social? Chinese auction? I have no idea what you're talking about. And that being the case, I'd say that these folks are doing things in a somewhat over the top, non-traditional manner which you are not required to assist in. In other words, yes, it's optional.
You are there to support your friend and celebrate her happiness. That is all. You are not obligated to do anything that would put you under financial strain. What kind of a friendship would that be?
Be there and be happy for your friend. Don't worry about anything else.
2006-07-04 07:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by smurfette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think personalized when it comes to the gift. Something from the heart will mean more to them than an expensive gift. Find a really cute picture of the two of them and put it in a frame. Get them a photo album with a tropical cover if they are going somewhere "islandy" for their honeymoon. It doesn't have to be big - just from the heart.
2006-07-04 05:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by Roach25486 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically the bridesmaids give a bridal shower. It can be at a house with some simple games. A cake. Lemonade. Doesnt have to cost a lot of money.
A nice present can be a photo album. I gave one where the cover is like a frame and they can put a nice picture of themselves and their wedding photos.
For my friends graduation I took pictures and put them in the album.
2006-07-04 08:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Cathi K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 04:49:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give a gift from the heart. If she cares enough for you to have you in her wedding, she will appreciate anything you get her.
I would say get something inexpensive for the auction or nothing at all.
2006-07-04 05:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by tamara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must always give a shower gift, and a wedding gift. I would say $125 or more.
2006-07-04 08:31:56 · answer #7 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try money or something that they have to use like dinner tickets. I seen most wedding gifts are brought back and exchanged.
2006-07-04 05:45:15 · answer #8 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her something that you know she'll treasure rather than something that's very expensive. She's in love and getting married and it's wonderful that you're standing for her. I would get her something that isn't too expensive but would mean a lot to her.
2006-07-04 08:29:12 · answer #9 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not get them a gift card so they both can get what they want and you can put as much as you feel for the card.
Sense you are in collage it makes sense to do only what you can afford and be happy with that.
2006-07-04 14:02:55 · answer #10 · answered by LENORE P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋