His parents love me and he's so sweet. What should I do? I'll be 15 next month? Maybe I should listen my parents? They say that he's trouble. I don't know. I love him and I think he loves me!
2006-07-04 05:21:52 · 38 answers · asked by Alisa W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tanks for the advice but I caught him in bed with another girl. Is he cheating on me? If he gets me preg again my parents will kill me!!
2006-07-04 05:28:43 · update #1
He said they were just looking for her lost earring, but they don't need to be naked for that.
2006-07-04 05:36:35 · update #2
Listen to your parents. They can see things that you can't and they want you to have a good life. I could write a book on why you shouldn't be with this black boy or wear out a set of lungs trying to explain it and it wouldn't do a bit of good for most young girls so all I can say is TRUST YOUR PARENTS GOOD JUDGMENT. You will be glad later on that you did.
2006-07-04 05:31:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be careful and make sure you're dating a young man who is going to care about you and treat you like a young lady. I believe if you we're 18, 25 or 35 your father and mother wouldn't want you to date a black person. It's time for them to wake up and see that we're living in the year 2006. Don't feel bad for choosing a person of color for a bf. Many people in this country feel the way your father and mother feel. They just try to keep in under the sheets. People are going to date and married who they love and that's the bottom line.
Also you need to be more into your school work then boys. A boy friend can come later. If you were my child you won't be dating no one untill you were about 15 or 16. One of my sons just turn 15 and when on his first date and I watch him like a hawk. I want the best for him and he knows that getting into college is what comes first.
2006-07-04 05:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Basilchef 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen UNTIL your 18 you have to listen to your parents. I have a cousin who is going through the same thing right now, so i know how you feel. But if you caught him in bed with another girl then yes he is cheating on you. Don't let him tell you that its not what it look like because it is i promise.
2006-07-04 05:34:52 · answer #3 · answered by flutter_by_baby20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well how old is he ? if you're around the same age, it really depends on how well you know him and "why" you like him. Do you like him cause he seems like trouble or dangerous ? if so then he isn't the right guy for you. But if you like him cause he seems sweet, honest etc then maybe he is okay. Think about how he spends his time, does he have alot of hobbies or does he just hang out and get into trouble ?. In reality, a "bad guy" is a bad guy. So if you notice a guy of any race engaging in dagerous behavior, its unsafe to hang out with him no matter his race. People of all races can get you into trouble or hurt, and it wont matter their race once you are. So if he's a guy that gets into trouble stay away. Just don't assume that if a guy is white (indian, spanish, chinese etc) that he is safe. Guys are guys, and trouble is trouble. If you think he's a nice guy, he has hobbies, and he listens to his parents. Then try explaining that to your parents, and remind them that even though their trying to protect you filtering out people because of their race isn't enough.
2006-07-04 05:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by goldcrush22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all is your parents saying this because you are only 15 and don't really know what real love is all about. Or are they acting this way because he is black.
Black families are conditioned to be loving and caring cause of all the racism we had to face in our lives.
You are young and need to focus on school and being a teenager. There will be plenty of time for real love.
Just try and get to know this guy better and if he is the one for you then your parents have to deal with it.
2006-07-04 05:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Wahenie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd merely refer on your father and mom and tell them the fact. Say that you're sorry about mendacity to them and sneaking in the back of their lower back. Then tell them what solid traits that this guy has and why you're with him. Say that although you adult males stated him act inappropriately once, you've had time to get to charm to close the guy and he's not undesirable. you're 20 years old now and are loose to to make judgements about who you pick to be with. although your father and mom might want to not believe you, they do ought to love you and a minimum of, appreciate your selection.
2016-11-05 21:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by bhupender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you empathized that he is black, then maybe alot has to do with racism. I'll give you and your parents the benefit of the doubt and say that if racism is not the issue, then a creep is a creep regardless of race...so yes, take heed to what is being said. If you are strong in your belief about this guy...stand firm, but with respectfulness, and experience all that love offers.
2006-07-04 05:33:44 · answer #7 · answered by No shame, No game 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i fyoure only 15, you have no idea what love is. however i was in that situation when i was 17; 13 years ago. my parents didnt like my bf because he was black. now 13 years later, they think hes the greatest guy in the world. they also love our son, (whom they couldnt accept at first) more than anything. they love him more than they did me. once people get use dto a situation, the learn to accept it. i think youre not concentrating on the main issue here though. YOU CAUGHT HIM IN BED WITH SOMEONE ELSE! whether hes black, white, blue, or purple, he seems like an a$$. who cares whether your parents like him or not, he doesnt sound like a good guy. maybe you should listen to your parents on this one.
2006-07-04 05:47:23 · answer #8 · answered by mizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in sort of the same situation as you were and my parents freaked out when i told them that i liked a black guy. i thought he was really sweet and that i was completely in love with him, but when you're so young, it's easy to be blinded. your parents have been where we are now and know how things are. sure things have changed from the past but they have actually been there and experienced things before and have a lot of insight on what we have no clue about. it might just be because of his race, which is wrong, but what it boils down to is that your parents want to protect you, and right now, you're too young to know for sure what you really want and who you really love. listen to your parents, you'll really regret it later if you don't
2006-07-04 05:31:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 99% sure that your parents are saying he's trouble because of his race. Even though you are too young too start anything serious, don't put down the poor guy. His parents and him love you, so keep on being friends. When you're sixteen, or you know you are more mature you can start dating him. Sometimes parents are wrong, and make sure he isn't trouble, parents can be right.
Good luck!
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2006-07-04 05:27:25 · answer #10 · answered by Pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋