I am 23. I am with a 25 y/o woman who had let her ex sleep in the same room with her. we been together for 4 years. everyday she says she didnt do anything w/ him. she accuses me of cheating everyday and i work and stay home to make her happy. well i met a woman that is 32 and she is everything i ever wanted. problem is im afraid she will turn around and leave me if i go with her and ask her to be my new love, then end up alone. i met her bc i am always depressed around my current gf and feel unwanted and tired of being accused of cheating. i try to get my current gf to change but all she does is complain to me that i am not worth it and she talks about leaving, but never does. i own my house and she helps pay utilities. if i were to choose the sweet gurl i met i would ask her to live with me if i broke up with the current. anyone have advice, opinions, or help? i mean some woman here had to have been through this same as for men. im young and i need good advice from the wise.
2006-07-04 05:13:10 · 4 answers · asked by Picture Collector 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the other woman is sweet and has not cut me low at all. just afraid she will leave and use me though my heart tells me she wont. so confused. anyone help?
2006-07-04 05:15:31 · update #1
I think your current girlfriend has some serious issues. It was probably the extreme jealousy that broke up her and her ex. It's about to do the same with you.
Being around her is hurting you, and you need to change that. Don't worry about being alone, because that would be an improvement over the constant suspicion and jealousy you're putting up with right now.
Invite her to leave ... the sooner, the better!
Don't let the fear of the older woman leaving keep you from trying! if you do, you'll end up paralyzed by fear. Take the chance and ask her out.
Don't jump right into inviting her to live with you! Take your time with that and just budget a little better to make the expenses. Asking her to move in with you at the outset of the relationship will probably chase her off quicker than anything else you could do. If it didn't ... I wouldn't give you a nickle for your chances of making it work.
Bottom line: Don't bother trying to change your girlfriend ... it won't work. Get rid of her. Go ahead and date the new woman you mention ... but go slow.
Good luck, my friend.
2006-07-04 05:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with the new girl, she sounds better for you. People who constantly accuse you of cheating..are probably cheating themselves...
People who tell you that they are going to leave you, probably will...eventually, and even if they don't leave....if they make you feel that bad..get rid of them. You cannot change another person at all, for any reason. Give the old G/F a little time to find her own place..and put her on notice that you are going to be dating someone else.
Now about dating the new girl..Take it a day at a time. Love is not a life time guarantee, if you love someone enjoy it in the moment and go slow....
Good luck
2006-07-04 12:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by luckybluebunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, you are depressed around your 25 yo GF. How much of a massochist ru n e way?
Cut and run. If the 32 yr is not married shack up and have a good time. It might turn into a life time thing, otherwise send her to my house. ;-)
2006-07-04 12:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by PartyTime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one, but i say follow your heart. If your unhappy then leave her and be with the girl that makes you happy.
2006-07-04 12:32:14 · answer #4 · answered by buttseyeluv43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋