Why do people still feel so uncomfortable about interracial couples?

Question

Should I be guilted all the time because my man is white? And how do I explain that I'm happy about it,without sounding like an ******?

Answer 1

Don't explain yourself to bigots ... it's a waste of precious time and energy. If the bigots who proclaim themselves to be "Christians" would look deep enough into their own Bible, they would note that racial intemixing was not only accepted but embraced by the prophets and scholars therein. People adopt their own prejudices from what their parents and peers taught them without regard to intelligence or reality.

I am white and married to a white man, but I've never understood how people can be so judgemental and so stupid. Thank you for allowing me to rant.

Answer 2

My husband and I are an interracial couple and we have three beautiful children. Thank God I live in a town where that is popular. Ive only had one person to have something negative to say now they treat me and my husband with much respect. He just thought about the stereo type that came with a white woman being with a black man. I married him because he was the right person for me spiritually, mentally and physically!! He is my lover, my friend and my everything! We have been together 15 years. Just hold on tight because you ll be in for a bumpy ride if you let people get to you. Like my Mother said along time ago... ''if you re not strong enough for the criticism that comes along with a relationship like that then you need to find someone else.'' BUT you have to realize that just because you would be with someone of your own race does not mean they will be the right person for you. They could be abusive mentally and physically. Good luck and be happy with yourself and your man!!!!!

Answer 3

When I was growing up I was raised in a church environment. When I went to Suday school they always sang the song,"Red, yellow , black or white they are precious in his sight. God loves the all the children of the world. I've always remembered that then I saw the real world outside the church and I was devasted. I'm still in a state of mind as to why that when we're all human beings so why the different treatment? We have hearts and bodies that are the same. I love all races. I've been to china, Japan, Phillipines, Okinawa, Singapore, Thailand. Vietnam , Korea and a lot of other places. My kids are interracial. Part Thai and part white. I'm I've never regretted the union. As soon as we're all educated really well then the blend of all races will be accepted. Just worry only about what God thinks right now.

Answer 4

Beats me. As far as I'm concerned, each person is his/her own race, so every couple is interracial. What is there to feel guilty about?

Why do you think being happy with a man of another race makes you an a**hole? Why do you think saying you're happy makes you sound that way? Sounds like you deal with a bunch of uptight people. I wouldn't worry about it.

Answer 5

People don't think about the kids involved my sister-in-law is white and she is married to a black man. Love them both, however their daughter has had problems in school with other kids being mean and I don't think its fair what she has gone through when it was not her choice. So, I see both sides of it, the good because they really y love each other and should be able to be happy together no matter what, then the kids side and even though mean, people can be rude and she did not choose this life.

Answer 6

You should practice rising above it and not allowing it to affect you. These people who are uncomfortable are hypocrits, because they are probably not of one race/nationality themselves. There is no difference between an Italian marrying a German or someone Irish marrying someone African. Years ago there used to be a big deal about Nationalities inter-mingling. In some lands that is still the case, but now, at least in America, it's race/color that is the big deal. How narrowminded and ignorant some people are in the 21st Century. Amazing.

Answer 7

Let people have their own opinions. You can't change or convince them. It's out of your control, so let it go. Plus, why waste the time trying?
Remember the saying "It's only skin deep."
Well, it is.
Interracial couples bother some people, but not all people.
The people it bothers are people who think races should keep to themselves.
In my opinion, I wish God had made everyone BLUE or perhaps a rainbow of colors.... so no race would think they are better than the others.
The fact is, humans are all the same inside.
We all have the same hopes, dreams, desires and wants.
No race is more intelligent than another.
What is important is that you love the man you are with for WHO he is, not what color his skin is.
It's hard, both ways. For him and for you, as neither of you "fit" into each other's extended families if you're just looking at skin.
But a true, uncomprimising love can surpass all obstacles.
So, be yourself, love yourself and love your man.

Answer 8

Because you're in a minority, and especially if your skin colour contrasts greatly with you partner's. I'm from Australia, and as far as I can tell, people in general couldn't give a sh*t. But in America for example, more people seem to have an issue with it, especially if it's an African American who's with a Pale face. Maybe it's America's shameful history of slavery that makes people more aware of it. Mind you, white Australia has a shameful history of mistreating the indigenous Aborigines, but there are so few of them now (thanks to past and present government policies), that interracial relationships between Aborigines and white folk is rare.
A majority of people are ignorant, and far too many are stupid, so you should try to stop yourself from worrying about it.

Answer 9

When some people see an interracial couple, they think about the pain their children will have to bear because of the love this couple shares.

I have a child who is half hispanic/half german. He is a beautiful boy now 21, but I noted he is around other young people like himself and I asked him about this. He said that he is happiest around his own kind.

I teach a school of students where they are about 75% all intermixed somehow and they tell me they are comfortable at this school, but when they are with one side or the other of their family or in an area of town where it is predominate one or the other, they are very uncomfortable.

So, I think it is all about the children. This is very unselfish.

Answer 10

I didn't know people were. I and my friends and colleagues are happy for anyone who finds love. Why should the colour of our skin make any difference. My husband is Indonesian and I have white skin with blonde hair. Celebrate our differences and embrace our similarities is how I see it. We are all connected in the this world through the universal energies and so are all brothers and sisters. I don't feel any explanations are necessary, by showing how much you care about one another and behaving as you are should suffice. You owe nothing to anyone.