He is 17-one year younger than me. I know it sounds odd but that makes me interested more. Ever since i was raped I saw all my borders come crashing down and I started having incidents where i was with other girls. It seemed like it was revenge on men. Now I am a christian and Im sure the Lord wants no more of that stuff in my life.How can I get this boy more interested in me ? Also, is this Gods way of making me normal again by sending me a boy in my life ? His laughter seemed so pure and his eyes were shining this pure happiness while he splashed me. It made me more interested in him since he was younger and I didnt feel any sexual stuff as he was teasing me.
2006-07-04 04:43:24 · 16 answers · asked by trinity_loves_neo1 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am continueing out patient counseling now that Im home...also..why is it that men always put bad things on my questions ? My gosh...
2006-07-04 05:00:29 · update #1
Honey Honey please be careful, online and off. I think you're right the Lord may have sent this boy to you. But you don't need to have any more damage done to you.
I too would like to know that you are getting counseling and I would highly reccommend that you hang out with nice slow moving christian kids(real ones). Who don't want to take advantage of your vulnerability.
2006-07-04 04:57:28 · answer #1 · answered by Makemeaspark 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm sorry to here that u where raped...It must have been a horrible experience for u. Try not to feel all men are bad because of that experience. Since u have faith in God, I'm sure u can get through ur hardships. Now, to get to my point, I think that a psychologist might say that you still haven't completely forgiven men. That's why u want to be w/ someone u percieve as being a boy (even though u must come to realize that he is only one year younger than u are). You probably see yourself as being older than ur years now because u lost ur innocence and had to grow up fast after u where raped. Just like when u turned to being w/ girls, u are now avoiding relationships w/ men. U may be turning to a younger "boy" now because he feels like a safe choice and also he reminds u of the youth and the innocence that u lost. Deep down in ur heart, i think that u know that to be the case, and all in all, I'm not sure that this would be a healthy relationship to enter into given ur situation. Maybe u 2 should be friends but i don't think u should be more than that, right now at least. I would make sure that u explain ur past and ur situation to him. If he is a mature enough person, he would understand how u feel, and if it is meant to be, then one day u 2 might get together for something more serious. Don't take my word for it though...see a GOOD psychologist and see what he / she has to say about it. Be careful though not to get one who is going to do a half-assed job in treating u. I wish u all the luck in the world and keep ur faith....
2006-07-04 05:08:25 · answer #2 · answered by Ξ▼Ξ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi ,
I am sorry about what happened with you .There is nothing wrong in being friend with him , and its even better if there no sexual stuff .
I am an easterner , you see ,its this sexual thing in west which caused that incident with you and now , i think you should just live your life to its fullest and pray to God for your goodness , and try not to be involved in any thing which leads to another disaster ..I wish you best of luck !
Also you can engage yourself in creative activities , you can polish any of your hidden talents , as for this boy , Age is not a barrier between good feelings for someone, even if you become friend , and fall in love , please dont get involved in sexual relationship , your priority should be a pure and true relationship , with well wishes for each other , if this is it so , then there is no problem .
Best regards,
Yours wellwisher,
Sidra.
2006-07-04 04:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by Sidra T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him interested in you by being you. I'm sorry for what you've been through, do you have support? Do you talk to people about how you feel? Just take it slow with this boy. Age isn't really a factor as much as personality. If you hang out with him and just be yourself, then what is meant to be will be. And when you feel you can trust him enough to not hurt you, let him see the true you, scars and all. And then you're in love.
2006-07-04 04:48:50 · answer #4 · answered by Ananke402 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ravens, Reed agree to six-year extension
Ravens, Reed agree to six-year extension
June 27, 2006
OWINGS MILLS, Md. (AP) -- Baltimore Ravens safety Ed Reed agreed to terms Tuesday on a six-year, $40 million contract extension with the team.
Reed was entering the final year of his original contract. The agreement ended off-and-on talks that began last season. Reed's agent, Greg Genske, said his client will receive a $15 million signing bonus in the largest deal ever given to a safety.
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"Ed is one of the bright young stars in the NFL," Ravens general manager Ozzie Newsome said. "He's already had outstanding production, including his MVP season in 2004. He's an emerging leader on our defense, and to the whole team for that matter. The way he works, the way he prepares, speaks volumes to his teammates."
Drafted out of Miami by the Ravens in the first round of the 2002 draft, Reed quickly became one of the league's most dynamic playmakers on defense. He was named Defensive Player of the Year in 2004 and selected to the Pro Bowl in 2003 and 2004.
In 2004, he led the league with nine interceptions and set an NFL record with 358 yards on interception returns.
During his four years with Baltimore, Reed has totaled 307 tackles, knocked away 61 passes and picked off a team-record 22 passes. He has also blocked four punts, returning three for touchdowns.
Despite missing six games last season with a high ankle sprain, Reed was a first alternate to the Pro Bowl.
Updated on Tuesday, Jun 27, 2006 7:39
2006-07-04 04:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go into therapy and ask about PTSD. It sounds like you're acting out on your trauma and just repeating the trauma. It may feel therapeutic but it's hurting you more. Get help before you spiral down.
Now, it's perfectly fine to be attracted to the boy, etc. However, you need to work on healing yourself, because your other behavior is a symptom of trauma.
2006-07-04 05:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by lalasnake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get to know him as a friend. You make your own destiny so if you see this as an opportunity to work through some past trauma you have obviously experienced, then perhaps you should take it. I would hope, however, that you have seen a mental health professional to work through the issues surrounding your rape as that is something no one should deal with alone.
2006-07-04 04:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Redshift Agenda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God doesn't exist, If you like the boy talk with him and say what you feel for him, don't wait any God do nothing for you, because it wont happen
2006-07-04 04:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by drchristian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proceed cautiously.
Let whatever takes place take place, but slowly, with eyes wide open.
Time will tell if this experience will be beneficial for you.
Enjoy it, but no rushing things.
2006-07-04 04:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i meet a boy at a club, or pool, we usually go back to my place and pop in a hawthorne heights album and touch each other. it is a really good way to connect.
2006-07-04 08:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋