my life feels in a mess?

Question

my life feels in a mess right now, im 29, and im battling with mental health difficulties, high anxiety, very low moods, inner rage, i was due to see my social worker today who is part of a mental health team, but i was up late into the early hours worrying and i overslept. i constantley have racing thoughts, and im constantly worrying and forgetting. i have ' no' self esteeem. i have a couple of friends on line, one who ive known for a while and im very fond of, a girl in canada, & she really likes me. however ive stopped going online because i feel so bad about myself & my life. & i wouldnt have anything to say and id clam up or get embarressed about myself which i do alot. latley i look in the mirror & i dispair because i think im getting haggard, im going bald, i see lines where there werent before, open pores, i had an accident with my 2 lower teeth so they are missing. im in a flat that im trying to move out of because of antisocial youths. but i havent given up,im tryin 2 keepon

Answer 1

Your difficulties are much more common than you realize, there is much help available and don't feel nervous about asking for it. It's just another malady people suffer from such as a cold and many seek help for that so don't treat this any differently. Many medications are available which would likely cure your problem or at least make is seem pretty negligable compared to how you now feel. There are literally millions like you and this isn't a unique problem there are solutions. Talk with a family physician and try some meds that are available . Sometimes we have chemical imbalences which we have no control over that can cause us difficulties. Best of luck to you , don't be so hard on yourself I'm sure you've been your own worst critic. Your apparently pretty intelligent and recognize these difficulties now just relay them to a doctor who will be glad to help.

Answer 2

The first two answers are uncaring and heartless if you ask me. You need to find something in your life that you are truly passionate about. What did you love to do before you got pregnant. Do some soul searching and find what it was that made you the happiest. If it happens to be a subject in school, study it and study it well so that you can get a good paying career in that area of expertise. If it is not a subject in school, look for jobs that revolve around the thing you love to do. Finish getting your education and work your way slowly towards a job you will love. As for your boyfriend, he better as hell stay around far longer then to just make you "feel better". He better give you everything you want; 19 is way too young to have children. Talk to your parents and stay close to them in this time; you will be needing a lot of their help to get you through this, so figure out a way to put aside your differences and build your relationship with them. Do those things and you should start feeling better. This is not an instant process. You have started down a long winding, bumpy road that will seem like it is leading nowhere, for a while, but stick to it and eventually it will smooth out.

Answer 3

You're not alone.

Believe it or not, most people have lower self-esteem than they let on. Those who seem so self-assured and hide behind money, power, and make-up generally have it worse than the rest of us. You may need medication to help control you anxiety (Paxil comes to mind), but realize too that you have the power to turn negative thought patterns around.

Many people make the mistake of avoiding others and withdrawing from society when they feel like this, and that's the worst solution. If you don't feel you can interact with people right now, just go out in a very public, crowded place and take a good look around. Don't compare yourself with others - just take an objective look at humanity and know that there are many of those smiling people you see that have it worse off than you do.

And contact me via E-mail. I have first-hand experience with severe depression, and it hit me the hardest when I was - that's right - 29.

Answer 4

Don't ever give up. Everyone has bad days but in different ways. Get a job if you don't have one and get dental insurance to fix your teeth, that will help some with your self esteem. I grew up very poor and kids made fun of us all the time because we had to get free lunches, stand on the bus, because no one would let us sit down, wear hand me down clothes. I was never up to date with anything. It's hard when you have to grow up like that. Your 29 years old and you can control your own life the way you want to. It's up to you to do it. If you ask God to help you he will, but you need to be a christian before you go asking him for things. If you want to know how, go to Romans3:23, 6:23, 10:9-10, 10:13. Believe and you shall be saved. He is my best friend.

Answer 5

Well I'm not a professional but I think that the biggest step is admitting something is wrong. If you want to change then seek help. Also if she really likes you then she'll be there to help you on your track of getting better. Things in life happen for a reason. Good luck with everything! Don't feel bad about who you are.

Answer 6

You said the right thing. You keep going on and keep trying. If no one has told you, I'm so proud of you and you should be proud of yourself. Life is hard for us "so called" normal people. You have to talk yourself through a lot of difficult situations everyday. It is so important that you continue your therapy because it can really help get you to the high esteem you desire and the good life you want to live. Hang in there baby.

Answer 7

STOP worrying AND thinking SO MUCH!!!!! your problem is that you think you are the only one on this lonely planet earth who feels this way and is going through such trauma. no,my honey. there are hundreds of people who are going through this esp in India.seeing your age i don't think you have the age to think about such teenager stuff.keep yourself engaged throughout the day.read books, go out and meet people.why only one girl that too on the net.get rocking man, you are only and only 29.there are people aged 60 who are getting married at this age. Nicole got married now at 37.so, whats with you.enjoy life. you don't know what is in store for you tomorrow. so why worry.just relax.why waste such wonderful moments becz of some people who are probably more disturbed than you are?enjoy life and believe in the almighty.

Answer 8

Guess you may need this, have a good day!

Newfie Fisherman

A Newfie was stopped by a game warden recently with two ice chests of fish.
He was leaving a cove well known for its fishing. The game warden asked the man, "Do you have a license to catch those fish?"

"Naw, sir, I ain't got none of them there licenses, no. You must understand these here are my pet fish."

"Pet fish?" said the game warden.

"Ya. Every night I take these here fish down to Da Lake and let them swim 'round for a while. Then I whistle and they jump rat back into this here ice chest and I take them home."

"That's a bunch of hooey! Fish can't do that!" says the warden.

The Newfie looked at the game warden for a moment and then said,
"It's the truth Mr. Government man, I'll show you. It really works."

"Okay," said the game warden, "I've GOT to see this!"

The Newfie poured the fish into the lake and stood and waited. After several minutes, the game warden turned to him and said, "Well?"

"Well, what?" said the Newfie.

The warden said, "When are you going to call them back?"

The newfie said, "Call who back?"

"The FISH!" replied the warden.

"What fish?" answered the Newfie. ----- We in Newfoundland may not be as smart as some city slickers, but we aren't as dumb as most government employees.

Answer 9

u shouldn't feel that way, life i the most precious thing and there most be a good reason that it is given 2 you(believe me not every1 is able to live 29 years some have shorter life,beside you should be happy)
search harder and you will find your luck and happiness

LIFE IS A JOURNEY ENJOY THE TRIP

Answer 10

Sorry

Good Luck!