My boyfriend and I have been dating for 10 months and we practicaly live together already but everytime I bring up the subject of moving in together he says he's not ready. How can he not be ready when the only thing I use MY house for is to change clothes? Why am I paying rent for a place I don't live in?
2006-07-04 04:30:38 · 11 answers · asked by b.nicole3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you get back from your honeymoon.
2006-07-04 04:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You definitely shouldn't do it if the main reason is rent. You should only move in with your husband. It doesn't seem like you are even considering marriage. If not, why do you want to move in with someone who is not marriage material? Explore the marriage option. Go and get some free couples counseling to see if marriage is even a good idea. Whenever a person tells you they're not ready for something, you should respect that. Put yourself in his shoes. How would you like it if a person that you trust and care for keeps pressuring you to do something you're not sure about? Ten months really isn't a long time. Personally, I think you all should slow down. I've lived with a guy before and it only makes things worse. Couples who live together before marriage have a VERY high divorce rate. You are right to question "paying rent for a place you don't live in". How about just spending more time at your own residences? You can hang out and GO HOME afterward. There's an idea.
2006-07-04 11:41:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Open your eyes. Why is it so important for you to move in w/ your b/f after only 10 mths? I didn't let my b/f move in until we were both ready. And then after that I still had questions, if I did the right thing. Just take it slow and be sure this is what you BOTH want to do. Good luck.
2006-07-04 11:40:30 · answer #3 · answered by single again 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he loves having you over all the time, but he's not ready to actually share that space with you. Don't freak out if he wants to move slower... trust me, from experience, moving too fast makes things die down too quickly. Enjoy your relationship at the place it is at right now, and when he is ready, he'll tell you.
2006-07-04 11:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by lizwatson109 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he says he i not ready for you guys to live together then stop staying over nite with him. and then possibly he will reconcider you moving in with him. because its stupid to pay rent on a place that you only change clothes in. so just stop staying with him. and then talk to him about it. maybe it will work. maybe it wont.
2006-07-04 11:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by queen-b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him clearly.... what is there in his mind regarding u.... let him know that u want to live with him forever..... let him know that u can use that money which u r giving as rent in some useful things for both of u....
2006-07-04 11:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are to nice and i think he is using you. Time to be strong and move on, get some one to appreciate you. In 3 months is plenty time to now if you can move in with some one.
2006-07-04 11:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by Bratso 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang on to your house. I have been with a guy for over three years and I will not get rid of my house until we say "I do's"
If I got rid of my place and he decided to dump me, I would have no where to go!
2006-07-04 11:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not for hw long u both hv been together..its hw much u both kno each other..his liks ,disliks..ur liks etc..livin together is totaly anothr chapter.mayb he is not yet ready 4 tat typ of a commitment..mayb he feels u wil tie him down..anyway hav a hrt 2hrt talk wit him.he mit b feelin insecure
2006-07-04 11:36:21 · answer #9 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because if something goes wrong, you can go home. don't put a time frame on it. everybody is diffrent, don't worry about it. it will happen when it happens.
2006-07-04 11:42:14 · answer #10 · answered by piopo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋