I have this friend who was sexually abused...?

Question

She wants to know how she could go about overcoming her fears, and I don't know what to tell her. Can anyone help me?

Answer 1

She should find a counselor that has experience in treating individuals who have been sexually abused. It is important to do that so she can set herself up for success in future relationships, many women who are molested end up choosing bad mates because of their history. Encourage her to do this. Love her and be someone to listen to her....

Answer 2

As a former abuser, I suggest she seek professional help through counseling. Check the yellow pages of your phone book. Look under the headings "Therapists" or "Councilors". Call them and ask about their experience with sexual abuse victims.

This is something she will never get over, but through good therapy she can learn to live with it. Just having a good friend, like you, that she can trust and feel free to talk to is a very big help. Support your friend, let her know that you are there for her. Remind her that this was not her fault, she must understand that above all else Understand that recovery is a long and slow process. She will need time to come to terms with this event. The recovery process is like peeling an onion. There are many layers. Every time a layer is removed a new one is found. It may take many years for all the layers to be revealed, if they ever are. They say that time heals all wounds,but time alone is not enough for this kind of pain. Love, understanding and hope are the best healers here.

I have provided a link below that in turn links to many resources. Check it out perhaps with your friend and see if there is anything that will help her.

Sincerely,
Terry

Answer 3

When she talks about her sexual abuse with you the best thing you can do for her is listen and let her know you care and that you think she is an amazing person as she is very brave for revealing her hurt to you, or anyone else. She really needs to seek out the assistance of a mental health professional and I'm sure there are many in your area. You can reference the websites listed for further assistance. It's nice to know that the girl you speak of has a friend so concerned for her well being as to ask how to help from others.

Answer 4

Lots of therapy and introspection. If you want to help her, read up on the effects of sexual abuse on women in her age range, so you can understand what she's going through right now. Also, look out for any self-destructive behavior she might be enacting, don't let her fall into that trap.
Most of all, let her know that you want to help her, you're concerned for her, and that no matter what, as her firend, you're going to help her work through this.

Answer 5

Tell her to go with a psychologist, probably he or she will give her any type of recommendations and will help her with her problem.
Most of the time the psychologist help a lot with those problems.
There are also groups that give help with that, and the psychologist may know about those groups.

Answer 6

there are survivor groups - thats what we are called survivor of sexual abuse - who meet on a regular basis to discuss such things. there are also professionals. all your friend needs to do is reach out. there is a great source book at most major book stores about sexual abuse, in the self help section about survivors - thanks for being a good friend, she needs your help in guiding her to the professionals who can help

Answer 7

well,first she needed to get check out by a doctor
second she need to tell her parents about her getting sexually abuse.
third she need to tell the police about that so they will make sure that person will never come near you anymore

Answer 8

Sounds like she needs psychological help, and rightfully so. Ask your local health department. They could give you advise.

Answer 9

She needs psych. counsilling. Help her find a good therapist .