my ex and i broke up a year ago, he said he wasnt ready for commitment. He still texts me. He text me last saturday saying he was at a stag and part of the message read "the place is full of ladies but tell me why am i thinking of you" he said in another that "commitment scares him BIG BIG BIG time" thinks hes afraid of being let down or something. Why is he still doing this to me? Its not like hes using me in the sex department as we hadnt got to that stage...
2006-07-04 04:07:32 · 13 answers · asked by sunny01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well I might be wrong but I think he is not ready for commitment but hopes you will still be there for him. ( Remember you both did not participate in sex so he may feel that you are still waiting for him) It is not good. But remember you can limit your conversations with him. I think you should only be friends with him until he can commit ( if that is what you want) Let him know you do not want to know his personal and private activities. But if he continues to do so then, I think you should change you cell phone number and telephone number. If he is not ready then he should not flirt with you.
2006-07-04 04:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by vhat40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can make a fool of you unless you allow them to. You ex sounds like he can't commit yet he can't let you go either. You will have to be the one to break this unhealthy cycle. Change your phone number. Get on with your life. There are plenty of people out there who want a mature relationship. Good Luck!
2006-07-04 04:13:13 · answer #2 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stick to your guns... dont settle for less than what you deserve. Without knowing the whole story, it sounds like he is trying to be manipulative and convince you to do what he wants you to do, but still maintain his freedom to do what he wants. Commitment is about someone saying that your well being is just as important to them as their own. None of what he is saying is about taking care of your needs and feelings. Dont settle for less than what you deserve. God wants you to have someone in your life that can love you the way you need to be loved.... and tell this man to stop running up your phone bill with text messages until he can be what you need. Let him know that you are keeping your life open to someone who can love you the way you need and deserve to be.
2006-07-04 04:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If commitment scares him it means he isn't ready for a one on one relationship. You need to move on and if you want to have a good relationship, start looking elsewhere. You can't sit around and wait for this guy to grow up or get all of his issues solved.
2006-07-04 04:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Optimistic1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is just trying to use you as a puppet, he wants to do what he wants to do, but still wants to have a linger around and be at his beckon call. That's not fair to you if he is not ready to be in a relationship then find someone who is
2006-07-04 04:17:59 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Hot Chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first guess is that he's "just not that into you."
When a guy is all sappy for a girl, he is READY for commitment.
He's probably just regretful and wants to see that you're still into him.
Of course, that's a lot going off a little, so take it with a grain of salt.
2006-07-04 04:11:37 · answer #6 · answered by mills_pow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he's still interested. Perhaps he'd like to get to the sex department.
2006-07-04 04:10:23 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just checking that your still around,keeping you as a possible option if nothing better or more exciting comes along!It's not cool,be friendly but don't get involved in it!
2006-07-04 04:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by Celestial_Magick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ii dont think hes making a fool out of u.....its seems as if he does have strong feelings for u but hes afraid to admit it n he feels that commitments arent his type of thing...u shhud really talk to him about it with him....
2006-07-04 04:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ AnGeL ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes your ex is making a fool of you because he is texting you things to make you confused. what i would do in this situation. is tell him straight he either wants to be with you or he does not
2006-07-04 04:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by blonde bimbo with brains 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋