I am in love with a man for 1 year.But i hadnt expressed it to him.Recently he proposed to my sister and she too agreed,but she didnt know that i love him.I am very depressed now.I am unable to forget that man but i wish i could bcz i like my sis a lot.
i feel guilty.
What should i do?
2006-07-04 03:59:37 · 12 answers · asked by kaira t 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Looks like he is off the market! Not to be rude or insensitive, but he proposed to your sister. If she accepted ou are going to have to let them be happy or risk losing them both, even as friends. Trust me on this, you don't want to lose your sister, especially over a guy. Guys come and go, but friends and family are forever. So don't do anything that you aren't prepared to live with forever.
Did this guy know you were/are in love with him? Was he your sister's bf the whole time? If so that's another strike against you. You don't want to be a home wrecker. And I cannot stress enough how much more important your sister should be to you than this guy. There will be another one, you will fall in love again, probably sooner than later. If you really loved him you would be happy for him that he is marrying your sister because that means he is happy.
2006-07-04 04:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by sunnydayzd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you close enough with your sister to talk to her a bit and get your problem off your chest? I really think if possible, that would be the best way to go. Even if their engagement continues, maybe it would help you heal from your heartbreak. I'm sorry you're having problems of the heart. Those are the worst kind I think. Too bad you didn't tell the guy how you felt a year ago. And don't feel guilty! They cannot read your mind as to how you have felt about the guy and you couldn't look into the future and know that he would ask her to marry him. But talking is the key to get you to feel better. If you can't talk to your sister or the guy without pissing them off, them talk to a friend or other family or anyone you trust. And good luck sweetie. The right man will come to you.
2006-07-04 11:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by Kelly_from_Texas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Asker,
First, you shouldn't feel guilty. It's good that you are being honest about your emotions. However, I understand you have feelings for him,but LOVE is a two way street. It can't be onesided. Be happy for your sister,that she has a man that you would even consider as well. Time is a great remedy, the emotional aspect will fade, and you will start to see him as your brother-in-law. Also when you see how happy your sister is with this man. There are sooooooooooooooo many guys in the world. Princess, I'm sure that you can find just one to make you happy. G'luck and relax sweetie.
2006-07-04 11:08:05 · answer #3 · answered by mieldor76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an idea ...
Sit down and compose a letter to him that you will NOT share with anyone. Pour all your feelings out in this letter until you have said everything that you would not say to him. Include in this letter the regrets that you have, the guilt that you feel, and happiness you have for your sister, and the sorrow you have for yourself, and any other emotion that is restricting you from moving on. Try to feel the feelings as much as you can while writing. This is your letting go letter.
Now that you have written this letter, read it through to yourself with emotion, rip it up, and throw it away and promise yourself to be done with this crazy mess.
Wish your sister well in her journey and begin thinking about the type of man that you would like to attract to yourself someday.
Victoria Wizell
www.hyptalk.com
2006-07-04 11:12:11 · answer #4 · answered by hypwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....tough one. I have to say that you will have to move on...he is now an engaged man. I know that its hard to deal with, but is there anything else that you can do? I know some people will tell you, tell him you love him....but if you do it...what will happen, he will probably tell you that he is going to marry your sister. Im sorry about your situation and I know you wish things would have been different. Move on and I know the right guy is out there for you.
2006-07-04 11:06:03 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_chick_21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forget about having a relationship with him. Be happy for your sister and leave him alone. If you don't you will make an enemy of your sister. No good will come of it. There are other men that you will fall with, you just have to go out and see what comes up.
2006-07-16 17:28:16 · answer #6 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that what you are feeling is not love. It is called infatuation. Love is a decision and a choice. You cannot be in love with someone if they do not love you back ......
I have to wonder how old you are.....
It is time to let this go and be happy for your sister.
2006-07-04 11:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your sister how lucky she is , be happy for them they are in love and realize that every Jack has a Jill and he wasn't yours and only good things await you. Good Luck Mr right is coming.
2006-07-04 11:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the only thing you can do is exspress your feelings because if you dont then this will be something that will builld up and could destroy all of your relationships but also dont forget there is many other men in the world so dont stress to much
2006-07-04 11:04:04 · answer #9 · answered by moonlilystar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember one thing ....dat luv can alwaz be one-sided traffic .....but darlin' a relationship cannot
so simply let him go
It's all crap when ppl say dat u fall in luv only once in life
I believe u'll fall in luv jus' da momment u step out ov him..
2006-07-18 02:00:29 · answer #10 · answered by gr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋