Do you belive in treating your sons and daughters different?

Question

I'm not talking about doing more for one then the other. I'm talking about things like babing your little girl when she falls, but telling the little boy to stop crying. Or not wanting your teenage daughter to have a boyfriend, but yet thinking it's okay for your 10 yr old son to have a crush.

Answer 1

It's a double standard that most of us endure. If you don't think it's right, don't do it to your children, but you aren't likely to change anyone else.

Answer 2

Hi I'm Garry,

You are absolutely right..

They are two different geders and will face their life diffferently!

Make sure the boy knows it's not okay to cry unless it's worth crying over..

Regarding the girl well that's the hard part..

Look I'm going to put some facts here and I'll leave the rest up to you!

Look it's sinful being gay male or female..

Simply because god made two genders, in other words if it was okay to be gay then there would only be one, three or even four genders on earth!!

Look I'll give you a simple example.. virginity!!!why do you think it exists.. it's because every girl should save it for the one she Merry's so in that fact it's even sinful to sleep with a girl with out marrying her.. so going back to the fact here, god is the most forgiving and they won't spend the rest of their time in hell after death.. only certain actions enables you eternity in hell befriending sayten forever, probably working for him as a servant..

Now I want to give you a very simply example here>>> what goes up most come down!!
So in that fact there will come the day you they since they are alive and there is no doubt they will have to face their Creator for the good and bad they've done in their life=time.

I don't want you to think that I'm being a smart a s s here just passing on my education over to ones that are in need of it... there are more temptations in life than one can imagine so it's up to you as a mother to teach them wrong from right.. the more they avoid these temptations the more good they've done = white marks marked in your book of life..

Once again please don't take this the wrong way but may god be my witness that this is all true, but I guess you'll never find out UNTILL you face him!!!

Simply wishing you the best of luck,

Garry

Answer 3

I guess that depends on the parents. Some people like to follow hte stereotypes of society telling them that the gender roles are boys = sports and girls = make-up (so on so forth). I think that the majority of parents prefer the stereotyped gender roles because its what makes sense to them. Personally I think that both kids should be treated the exact same (with a few exceptions) so that the kids can develope a personality based on their own likes, dislikes, opinions, etc. Other than that I do think it is right to treat the boys a little different than the girls.... for instance I would sooner let a boy go to a huge house party with just one other friend than a girl with five other friends. The reason for this is because (and Im sure most people will find this amusing but true) With a boy you only have one pecker to worry about, with a girl you have every single pecker out there.... but yea I think I trailed off abit.... sorry hope at least sme of your question was answered.

Answer 4

It has always been in our nature as parents, and what was told to us that girls are not like boys. On the contriary, some parents treat their kids differently because they want to, they love one more than they do the other, this is a fact. On the other hand a parent like me, having two teenager daughters, don't do it because I want or have to. Each of them are their own individuals and have their own likings and dislikes. Each child is different, one would certainly want or need more attention than the other, and so on. I don't have a boy, but I have seen and observed through teaching students, interaction between parents and kids. The boys or guys always want to be indepent and to be treated like a man, so you try and educate him about the facts of life, the birds and the bees etc. He wants to know what it feels like to be on his own to have a girlfriend and do do the things that he thinks in his mind is adult behaviour. I can understand what you mean by not wanting your teenager not to have a boyfriend, yet wanting the other to have a crush. My elder daughter is old enough to go out with friends etc, yet I always try to come up with a situation that we all could do together, unlike the younger one, I would allow her to go to a sleep over etc. Mind you the elder one does notice the difference, but it's just our way of not letting go and trying to keep them safe or so we say. So don't think for any reason you treat any one of your kids differently, we love them all. All of them are their own individuals so they need to be treated differently. It's only common that we treat the girls in a more snuggled way than the boys. It's always been this way and always will be!!

Answer 5

All children are different. As a parent, it's your job to determine which parenting methods work best on each child. However, this has nothing to do with the gender of your children. As for gender roles, I don't think its right to baby little girls and expect little boys to tough it out. This is how certain countries get the impression that girls are delicate and boys are brave. Treat boys and girls the same and these gender roles will not be as prominent in 20 years.

Answer 6

no. theyre different and there are different standards and goals, but i require the same level of respectability and responcibility from both.

I wouldnt let my teenaged daughter out all night with some guy, but i might let my son out with some friends.

Boys are protectors, girls need defending. Not sure that makes sense.

I was raised differently from my brothers. A lot of it i dont think was fair, like they played sports and i couldnt, they did after school activities and i had to come home and watch my siblings, they went to dances and i wasnt allowed to, that sort of thing to be doesnt seem fair, and i wouldnt do that to my kids.

But i do believe there are clear lines between girls and boys. They are different.

Answer 7

Yes ...you want not to but this world is gender based and you fall into the gap even when you try your damnest not to .....I find myself being that way with my sons and my daughter .....we for some reason want our boys to be out there....and our girls to have their kitty locked away in a chastity belt until they are 40......I don't want to feel that way but I do sometimes ...at the same time though I don't want my boys bringing home some chick talking about mom uugh guess what ........you feel me Parenting is the hardest job anyone could ever take on...........and that is the truth...because you never know from day to day what situations you might have to deal with .

Answer 8

Because of their gender, they will have to be treated differently sometimes in some respects.
However, in the way you have described, I would have to say to treat them the same. Every child needs to know they are loved and they are important to a parent. It is good for a parent to be consistent with all their children in discipline, rules of the house, etc.

Answer 9

It definitely depends on the subject. It is critical to raise boys and girls differently though.
A parent's job is to raise and prepare a boy to be a man and a girl to be a woman. Men must adhere to different responsibilities in life than women do. He needs to be prepared.
Many things are similar. You don't want your daughter or you son to be a crybaby, for example. You want both of them to be strong. When teaching about relationships, you want both of them to value, appreciate, and respect the opposite sex. You want both of them to devalue meaningless sexual relationships for their own health and well-being.
SO, it depends on the topic.

Answer 10

Well first of all there are different. I am sure you have heard Mommys Boy, and Daddys little Girl, Sports, dating, military tough question, I guess I would treat them different men are expected to be gentlemen, the provider, and the protector. Women will be the the one to help us get it right.

Answer 11

yes I do

I let my son have more responsibility and take charge
he is also allowed to boss his sister around and tell her what to do
it is also preferred that he tell her to make him a sandwich and to keep quiet when he is watching TV

my daughter must remain quiet at all times unless she is cooking or cleaning
she must listen to whatever the males in the house say
she must never handle or even see any money or credit cards


lol- just kidding

that is how you were brought up along with 85% of everyone else

not saying that it is right, but that is how society is
it is up to you how you raise your children