what is the best way on how to handle a teenage son?

Answer 1

Well, that's a VERY vague question...
I was expecting more details, and since there are none, I can only give you a general answer from my experience as a single mom with a 15 year old son.

Love him - show it through the actions of being involved in his life and supportive of his interests, don't just say it. Allow him to make his own decisions and mistakes -- within limits. Don't give him so much freedom that you don't have a clue what he's doing.

My son knows full well that I go through his stuff, and will continue to do so until he is 18 AND pays his own rent. I have password protected his instant messenger logs so I can read them at any time, I have all his passwords for myspace and other websites -- he hates that I do it, of course. But I don't necessarily punish him if I'm not happy with what I find -- I use it to talk about why I believe it's wrong and why I want him to handle things differently.

I know that if I try to restrict what he does, he will rebel, and then I've lost control. By approaching him as a young man and respecting that he is going to make his own decisions regardless of what I say, I find that I have more influence. If you nag and punish, they tune-out every word, and go do the opposite just to piss you off. So we have a pretty good dialogue -- not to say that we don't argue, and that he's not completely irrational at times -- but that seems to happen less and less the more calm I am, and the more we keep talking.

He has friends whose parents are completely out-of-touch with them; he has one friend whose mother told him she hopes he gets AIDS and dies (nice, huh?); and there's this 14 year old girl who sends him pornographic pictures of herself on the picture phone messages -- where are her parents? Of course, I tell him that I don't want him to encourage her to do that and she needs to have more self-respect, but what 15 year old heterosexual boy is going to refuse a girl that's willing to do that? So I discuss the risks of disease and pregnancy, and safe sex.

As a single parent, I don't have a lot of money, so my son was working - raking, mowing, washing cars, shoveling snow - from a young age. This has taught him to be more responsible with his money and the things it buys, and to appreciate the value of hard work. Again, he doesn't like that it's this way, but he realizes that the kids who get all the material things they ask for are usually not getting what they need emotionally from their parents.

He is aware of how lucky he is to have a mom who really loves him, because he sees what all his friends and peers go through. I have pointed out all these things over the years so he could see why I stay on his case, and it's starting to sink in. Like his one friend, when they were around 10, I asked whit time his mom wanted him home, and he said, "she doesn't care." When we were alone, I noted that interesting choice of words to my son. After all this was the same kid who has had concussions and severe burns during childhood from lack of supervision.

So make sure he know the rules and understands that as his parent, you are responsible for him. But also be a role model, because "do as I say, not as I do" NEVER works. And love him unconditionally.

Answer 2

So, what is the problem? Boys go through a hard, HARD time as teenagers. They don't know what to do with their sexual urges, and they don't know how to deal with girls. Then, they are led to believe that they shouldn't take this and shouldn't do that, and they have to stand up for themselves. They need a male figure to talk to them about things. THEY NEED A MALE ROLE MODEL to help guide them. Does your teenager's dad have anything to do with him? He needs to. If he doesn't, then perhaps you can learn along with your son, how to change the oil in the car, and all the things a young man needs to learn. He needs to have chores to do, and needs to have interests, to keep him busy, so "the wrong kids" won't lead him astray. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

nicely he's that age now the position he needs to stumble on his interest's why no longer attempt to stumble on a "interesting" hobie for both of you to share? i do not comprehend a lot about him or you yet attempt getting like a pellet gun/bb gun or a .22 and shoot with him some? even as men strengthen we commence to conceal thoughts he nonetheless loves you an same no remember what merely would not opt to exhibit his affection. a set pastime like this couldn't in person-friendly words grab his interest yet when hes somewhat having a great number of interesting and also you're as well it really is trouble-free to composite for the actual affection with seen affection he would conceal it bodily yet he will under no circumstances lose that mild in his eyes pretty even as playing his mom. because of this i reported a set Hobie. It helps me reconnect with my dad to flow out and hearth about 200rands trough our .40cal handguns and it something we savour doing jointly. even besides the undeniable fact that we do not kiss and hug we may be able to nonetheless sense and be conscious the love between us trough body language. Im somewhat on the brink of both one among my father and mother and that i do not hug or kiss them yet i'd do something for them.

Answer 4

I've got one too! I make mine carry a cell phone with him at all times so he can call me if he needs me (and I can call him!). I have to know where he is at all times. I demand that he speaks to me with respect. I let him dress the way he wants to - luckily he's pretty conservative. I may nag him sometimes but hopefully I'm grooming him to be a great man one day!

Answer 5

Talk to him allot. Not yelling not degrading. Talk while riding to the mall or on your way dropping him off some where or while watching TV. Talk like y'all are cool with each other like friends. You don't have to agree with what he says but here him out then calmly give your opinion.

Answer 6

They should all be set free at 16. There is no way. He is getting ready to leave. Mine is incredibly mean. It doesn't matter what you do. Let him go.

Answer 7

Always keep the line of communication open and let him know that he can come to you for anything.

Answer 8

a big stick to beat him with
duct tape to keep him from sneaking out when your asleep
a lock on the refrig. to keep him from eating everything
a muzzle to stop him from talking back
a padded room so he can do his homework

Answer 9

you must be firm with your words and dont change your mind when you make a decison

Answer 10

keep him in church and have rules around the home